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PARENTING
Why Parenting Feels So Hard
We’ve taken away the village and replaced it with invoices
I’ve read a few pieces lately by people saying raising children is a cinch, actually. It’s not hard at all, so why does everyone keep talking about how hard it is?
Before you brag about how you’re absolutely nailing this parenting thing, think about it for a minute.
If you’re posting something like, “Ackshually, it’s really easy to parent a large family,” and you are tapping that message out while a housekeeper is vacuuming your living room, a lawn service is mowing your yard, a nanny is taking your kids to their activities and a DoorDash delivery guy is coming up your front walk with dinner, maybe don’t.
The person reading that post doesn’t see all your helpers.
They just feel like shit and wonder why they are struggling.
All they know is they put in a load of laundry before work, spent their lunch break making dental appointments for each kid, picked up the kids after school, made them sandwiches and threw a bag of baby carrots and a bottle of dressing on the table and then rushed them out the door before they were done eating so one could get to soccer and the other to gymnastics, came home, cleaned the kitchen, hung up the wet…
