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Good Parenting?
Am I Answerable?
Parents become a target of criticism from the very first day a baby is born.
Why is your baby so weak?
Why isn’t she eating properly?
Really? Are we supposed to be answerable to these questions? Don’t you feel ashamed of asking parents such a ridiculous question?
Being a parent is already hard. But being a good parent? This is the hardest.
Everyone believes their way of raising a child is the right way. And yet people dare to tell you how to raise your child, as if their way is better. Can you believe that?
If you’re deeply attached to your child, they call you obsessive.
If you’re teaching your child independence, they call you selfish.
If you’re feeding your child with your hand, they say us spoiling our child.
If you spend a lot of time with your child, they assume you’re pregnant again.
If you have left your career for your baby, they call just a housewife.
And yes, we are expected to answer all of this until we speak up, and then we are the bad parents.
It makes my heart restless to be constantly judged and criticised. This isn’t what being a human is about.
And yet we're supposed to live through this hard, exhausting criticism.
In the end, I want to add a few lines;
Every parent is a good parent.
Try to say things that motivate them each day as the best ever parent to that child.
