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Why Do Givers Struggle to Take Help?
Generosity is an act of goodness, not a transaction
“Generosity is not a loan to repay or a debt to settle. It’s a gift to appreciate. Yes, you can reciprocate a favour by paying it back. But the best way to honour an act of kindness is by paying it forward.” ( Adam Grant)
In his book Give and Take, the author Adam Grant identified three kinds of people-givers, matchers, and takers.
Givers share generously and unconditionally, matchers seek a quid pro quo, and takers extract what they can unashamedly from others.
Givers may lose in the short term but emerge as long-term winners. Most successful people have been givers. The only thing givers must guard against is gullibility, being exploited by others.
Grant says that on average about 55 to 60 percent of the population are matchers, and the remainder are a pretty even mix of givers and takers.
I identify myself as a giver, not in the sense of a philanthropist, but as a helpful person who likes to give rather than receive assistance from others.
Givers have a serious problem-they hesitate to ask and receive help from others.
Adam Grant is a giver. He found that when he helped others voluntarily, many of them thanked him…
