Stop It!
Humans need to let go of things, memories and past ev ents that cannot and will not change no matter how long they think and talk about it. Or even how much they’ve regretted the decision.
The difficulty in understanding that whatever it is you’re incessantly harboring over, stays around in your mind because you keep holding onto the thoughts.
When a memory is wonderful and good, you’ve never thought about changing what came out of it. You’re happy and glad to think about a happy memory because it isn’t something you’d change even if you could.
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So why would you want to change the outcome of a bad memory? Why would you, just because the memory isn’t pleasant, then want, wish and incessantly think and speak about the bad experience, wishing over and over again that you could change it? Just because it feels bad to think about them? Just because you feel guilt ridden, sad or regretful? But if you’ve never felt any of those emotions in your life, how would you then know when the good emotions came into your life?
How often have you found yourself forgetting good and happy memories? Why would you not do the same for any bad memories you have which disturb and trouble you? Why keep bringing up again and again memories that are not pleasing to remember and think about?
Afterall, there is no possible way to change what is already past.
So.
Stop it! Stop thinking about the past, stop talking about it like it could change just because you’re talking about it.
Stop talking about the tragedies and horrors of history. Stop bringing up topics of the past that are nothing more than pure mindless information of the present. Stop bringing back things that do not matter in current situations and life. Stop punishing yourself and those of the dead for whatever happened prior to this very moment.
We live our individual lives to create something from it, not to beat ourselves up over mistakes, tragedy, live in pain and misery or wish that we could turn back time. Change a decision, hope, wish and dream that something that can no longer change be changed. Because all the wishing, hoping, talking and thinking in the universe WILL NOT change a damn thing. SO STOP IT!
