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A Note From Outlook Editor Chinki Sinha | Kamalini started narrating her story and began crying. She is part of the Home Again programme in Ratnagiri, run by The Banyan, an organisation that provides housing to people with mental health issues and assists them with reintegration into society. The moment she broke down, two other women from the same centre held her. One doesn’t talk—whether she was born that way, became that way, or decided not to speak at all is not known.

The other spoke in broken sentences and had no name; her name in the state mental health facility was Number 28, but they gave her the name Kajal. Kajal has a little cat named Sunheri.

They hugged Kamalini tightly, and that became the focus of our stories for Outlook’s Independence Day special issue. What it is to be together, what it is to love, what it is to support each other, and what it is to understand each other despite the limitations of language. Sinha says, “I think grief usually cannot be articulated—there is no vocabulary, and language is limited in that sense.”

Like the story of the 'Noida sisters', which she covered many years ago. The two were living in an apartment building. A strong stench started coming from their apartment. The police broke into their house and found one sister dead and the other alive, and she was taken to the hospital. They were isolating in the apartment for months, and nobody seemed to have noticed it. Sinha briefly spoke to one of the sisters. Both of them felt abandoned—their dog had died, their brother had left after his marriage, and their parents were also not alive.

As we live in such opulent times, interactions have become very limited; we are always on our phones. The surviving sister shared that they had similar hallucinations; they were hearing similar voices.

With this issue, we are trying to create a bit of empathy. We also want readers to share their stories of grief, loss, and their battle with mental illness—their stories of overcoming, living with it, or caring for someone who has it.

We would love to incorporate those stories, as grief lessens when shared.

Dr Vandana Gopikumar and Vaishnavi Jayakumar, the co-founders of ‘The Banyan’, are guest-editing the issue along with Dr Sanjeev Jain and Dr Lakshmi Narasimhan.

We have worked hard on this issue. I hope people will read it and understand the challenges and the support, or the lack of it. Essentially, we want to invite people to understand the stigma that surrounds mental illness and the need for freedom from it. This will help us become better humans.

She also shared, "My uncle had schizophrenia, and I was telling Vandana that I had wished I had known The Banyan then—maybe he would have been alive today."

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00:00This is Chinki, I'm the editor of Outlook magazine and for our Independence Day issue which is a
00:14special issue we decided to look at the stigma around mental illness in India and the kind of
00:21unfreedoms and freedoms, the people who are kind of having this issue. The cover is a very
00:29intriguing and it's a story actually that Vandana Gopi Kumar of the Banyan, who we collaborated
00:35with amongst other people for the issue, had told me long ago. She told me about this woman who fell
00:42in love with the elephant. In fact, she thought the elephant was love and then she drew this elephant
00:49on the wall in one of the Banyan centers and then she showed me the image and it was spectacularly
00:56beautiful in the way that how you know the mind works and how this lady tried to tell her story
01:05in her own vocabulary. So language was one which is something very political and the issue remains
01:12very political in terms of looking at policy, in terms of looking at gender, in terms of looking
01:17at caste, in terms of looking at all the intersections with mental health and of course we are becoming
01:24a society that's very lonely. We have the loneliness epidemic coming in and I think it's very important
01:33for a publication to look at mental health because I think that's something that we don't really look at
01:41in terms of coverage and we always go for stories that kind of are immediate and that's the nature of our
01:49business or rather which it has become the nature of our business. But Outlook, we now believe that
01:56we need to look at the society and things that kind of ails us and who we are and what we are becoming.
02:08And I think the title we kind of thought of too. One comes from Japanese artist Yayoi Kusama who actually
02:17lives in a mental asylum and is called The Queen of Polka Dots and the other one is from a film which I saw
02:24long ago and everybody I think knows this film. It's called The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind and
02:29the other one is Every Day I Pray for Love. Because I think at the end of all the stories that we heard
02:35and our reporters went across India from Kashmir to Coimbatore to everywhere to look at stories of people who are
02:43living with it and people who are actually caregivers and spaces, you know, their life,
02:50their lived experiences, all kinds of things. And I think what we found in our journey across Ratnagiri
02:57and Chennai and all these places is that love was something very important, you know. And there was a
03:03moment when we were reporting a story in Ratnagiri in one of the homes that the Banyan runs under its
03:09home again project which is basically making people live together in a form of family and
03:15making them independent and kind of reintegrating them back into the society which is what we need.
03:20And you know so there was this lady Kamalini and you know she started narrating her story and she
03:27started crying and of course most of the time they couldn't record everything because it's something that
03:35not many people are comfortable with sharing. But there was a moment where she broke down and there
03:40were two other women from the same centre and one doesn't talk and nobody knows if she was born that
03:47way or if she became that way or she decided not to speak at all. And the other one speaks in
03:53broken sentences you know and she had no name. In fact her name in the state mental facility was
04:00number 28 and that's how she was known but they gave her a name Kajal and Kajal has a little cat
04:08Suneri and Kajal and this other woman just held Kamalini and they seemed to understand each other you
04:16know because I think all of them have gone through this acute abandonment and they know the pain they
04:23know the loss but they also know the value of being together and I think that became the focus of our
04:29stories you know what is it to be together what is it to love each other what is it to support each
04:34other and what is it to understand each other despite the limitations of language and I think
04:40grief is something that people usually cannot articulate very well there is no vocabulary I think
04:47language is limited in that sense and I think gestures you know they dance sometimes when they're
04:53they're in a happy mood it was a very beautiful experience very difficult also for us to go
04:58through all the things that we went through in terms of you know talking to them just hanging out and I
05:04think another thing was about you know this immediacy of things and I think one of the important things
05:11that we have learned in this issue is just that it's very important to just hang out you know just go to
05:17a place and kind of just sit and talk and I think that's very important and that helped us understand
05:24better we were not in a hurry and I think sometimes that ruins the story and a story needs to tell you
05:32something and I feel that this was a very important subject for us and I met Vandana last year she had
05:38invited me for a panel discussion in Chennai and I met four women over there which who had come from
05:44different centers of the banyan and to talk about their lived experiences and they're very very
05:50powerful narratives Amli, Jacqueline from Trichy, there was Sonal from Maharashtra and other people but
05:58I really was very fascinated by Sonal who came wearing a red dress and talked about love and she said that
06:03she wanted to get married she wanted to have a family and she lives in Ratnagiri at the Home Again project
06:11and then you know kind of she reconciled with the life that she has now with her new family and her
06:18friend Dipali who doesn't really talk much but both of them have become very good friends now and
06:24they understand each other and I think Sonal looks out for her friend and it's really beautiful to see
06:29the innocence and the strength of these friendships that they have formed so I think that's one way to go
06:34about framing the mental health policy in India and looking towards a different approach you know which
06:43includes caregiving which includes support which which also looks at assimilation and integration
06:48in the society and not really abandoning these people or isolating them or kind of like looking at
06:56them as unproductive which is what the capitalist ideology has taught us that productivity is the
07:03main thing you know in order to be deserving of a certain kind of lifestyle you have to be productive
07:09you have to work you have to produce you have to do this that all kinds of things and this whole
07:14emphasis on individualism is also something that we kind of critique I'm not criticizing it but I'm just
07:21saying that community-based healthcare you know community-based care approach I think is very
07:26important you know and we witnessed it and I think it was the act of witnessing all of this and
07:32looking at stories from a different lens like for instance the story of the two Noida sisters many
07:39many many years ago and I was one of the reporters who had covered it and I had gone to the hospital there
07:44were two sisters living in an apartment building in Noida and after a lot of stench started coming from
07:51their apartment the police broke into the house and one of the sisters was dead and the other one
07:56was alive and in the hospital and I went to the hospital and spoke to her a little bit you know
08:02and the whole story was that both of them felt abandoned their dog had died their brother had left
08:07after his marriage parents had died both of them just gave up and I think the neighbors never knew
08:13because obviously we now live in such apocalyptic times that we really don't know each other and we don't
08:18want to know each other interactions have become very limited we are always on our phones and things
08:23like that so yes one of them had passed away the other told me that they had shared hallucinations
08:28they heard the same voices and it was a very very very intriguing story about urban loneliness and I
08:33think the things that you cover the things that you witness also all of it comes together when you try and
08:41uh bring out an issue uh which deals with this and with this issue we are only trying to create a
08:47little bit of empathy I think that's what we're losing by the day um just a little bit of understanding
08:53from readers you know who who will read and I hope will share these stories and I I also want and I
08:59would request everybody who wants to share their stories of grief of loss of uh you know their battle with mental
09:07illness their uh stories of overcoming it their stories of living with it uh or taking care of
09:12somebody who has an issue with uh mental illness I think uh we would love to uh incorporate those
09:19stories because I think a lot of grief gets weakened by sharing you know stories and I think I still
09:25I believe that storytelling is one of the most powerful uh things still in this world and uh
09:31Vandana Gopi Kumar, Lakshminar Simhan and Sanjeev Jain of Nimhans and Vandana and Lakshmi work with the Banyan
09:37they are our guest editors for this issue uh because we believe in collaboration we don't
09:41believe in working in silos because some of the things we don't understand and we need help
09:45to understand and for people to guide us in the right direction and we have worked really hard
09:51on this issue and I hope people will read it and understand the challenges the support the lack of
09:57support rather and the kind of support that's coming in and to kind of look at the freedom you
10:02know the essential freedom from the stigma that surrounds uh mental illness and I think that would
10:08go a long way in you know helping us become better human beings in in terms of uh you know reaching out
10:15to the other people uh my uncle had uh this issue and he passed away and uh saying Vandana that I wish
10:21I had known that Banyan existed at the time and you know he could have uh been alive today a lot of people
10:27have also asked me why this issue the issue is simply there because it needs to be there I think
10:33we need to continue to tell these stories so that uh you know we don't uh become uh apathetic and we
10:41don't uh stop caring for others and um yeah so please uh read the issue and uh also contribute uh please
10:49share your lived experiences we are going to run this campaign uh for awareness uh for a whole year so it
10:56would be great if we can share stories with each other because it helps to alleviate a lot of grief
11:02and become strong uh so yeah thank you so much
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