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00:00:00This morning is the night that is coming

00:00:07Your lips will come

00:00:10Your lips will come

00:00:12Your lips will come

00:00:20The USA is the night that is coming

00:05:35Welcome back, good morning Pakistan

00:05:37and today we have this important topic to discuss

00:05:40the blame game that we have implemented in our own life

00:05:45as we have implemented in our own life

00:05:47like this is a very false rule

00:05:50that if we have played the blame game with our loved ones

00:05:55or our close friends

00:05:57then our life will not be complete

00:05:59but that's why we have so many losses

00:06:01and that's why we have so important

00:06:03And for this, my honest sweet friend

00:06:09Mariam Nafis with us

00:06:11As-Salaam Alaykum

00:06:13As-Salaam, how do you say it is very big?

00:06:15Yes, yes

00:06:17But that is a good thing

00:06:20If you desire to live in young age

00:06:25the very big part is that you are living in a very calm

00:06:31Exactly, exactly.

00:06:34Thank you very much.

00:06:36And I have a very important thing that we can learn from them and not do our own things.

00:06:43But what does science mean and what does their degree mean to them?

00:06:47So Dr. Ayesha O'kelly, consultant psychiatrist, child and adult psychiatrist.

00:07:01Assalamu alaikum.

00:07:02Assalamu alaikum.

00:07:03You first of all are on my show.

00:07:04Yes, absolutely.

00:07:05Thank you for having me over.

00:07:06Thank you so much for coming.

00:07:07First, tell me the difference between the psychologist and psychiatrist.

00:07:13What difference between the public?

00:07:15Of course.

00:07:16This is a little bit of a difference.

00:07:18Psychologists, who are therapists, are the doctors.

00:07:22And being a psychiatrist, we are doctors.

00:07:24They are non-doctors.

00:07:25So I would like to tell this to people.

00:07:28First point of contact is a doctor.

00:07:31Like people who are having psychological problems should come to a doctor first.

00:07:35And then we can diagnose and then refer them.

00:07:38If they don't need medication, then we say,

00:07:40You are just going to take treatment.

00:07:42And if they need a drug, then we will prescribe them.

00:07:45That's the difference.

00:07:46That's the difference.

00:07:47That's the difference.

00:07:48Because they think that we need to take treatment.

00:07:50And they don't need to take treatment.

00:07:52They are not going to take treatment.

00:07:53So, we have the therapists and the psychologists.

00:07:56That's why they are afraid of the, they are afraid of the disease.

00:07:58And that's why they are scared.

00:07:59Yes.

00:08:00But sometimes they need medicines.

00:08:02need medicines. And if they don't take it or don't come to us, until their disease has

00:08:07increased. So they need to go to the right place, to the right point of contact so they

00:08:12know what they want. Because sometimes there are such cases where they don't take medicine

00:08:17and they have to get the case and their disease and then reach us. In that case, they need

00:08:24more medications then.

00:08:25Now people will say, why did Nidha call a psychiatrist? I want to use this thing.

00:08:31And when I don't do this, I won't do this. If you have any mental health problem in life,

00:08:37such as Nazla, Khansi, Zukam, Bukhar, such a small thing that you normally do.

00:08:44You go to the doctor, you stop there. So mental health is also a disease.

00:08:50It is also an organ. The brain is the biggest organ. Of course.

00:08:55So I want to use this thing. Psychiatrist or psychologist,

00:09:00I want to use this thing. You are crazy. Please.

00:09:03Blame game is a psychological thing. It is part of one's personality.

00:09:07And it stems from there all the problems. So you know, it is basic psychology that can

00:09:13transform into a disorder later. So it is better that we address it in the beginning.

00:09:18It is important that people are involved in such a blame game. And what do they need to be involved in such a blame game.

00:09:24And what do they need to be involved in such a blame game?

00:09:26What way we can learn from the blame game?

00:09:27Absolutely.

00:09:28What do they need to be involved in such a blame game?

00:09:29Yes, it is important that people are involved in such a blame.

00:09:38you have done it, you have done it, you have done it.

00:09:42Yes, I think that it is in everyone's house that I have a toy,

00:09:46or something that I should not keep in such places,

00:09:50that I have not kept in such places.

00:09:52I think it is a little bit of a cultivate that is from there,

00:09:55which is a big difference.

00:09:57Yes, it is.

00:09:59As you know, in 4 brothers,

00:10:02you have to know that someone is one to put it from her.

00:10:05and she did it and she sat in silence.

00:10:09My mother says,

00:10:11I don't know who I am.

00:10:15I don't need to know from you guys

00:10:17who I am.

00:10:18I know exactly if anyone has kept it,

00:10:20I know who I am.

00:10:22Who was the most famous girl in the four months?

00:10:25I feel that she was very young

00:10:28but she is my daughter because she is very loud.

00:10:31So at that point of time, she was the baby of the house.

00:10:34She was the third number.

00:10:36She had a little bit of surgery.

00:10:38She said,

00:10:40I didn't do it.

00:10:41I didn't do it.

00:10:42I didn't do it.

00:10:43So it happened.

00:10:44Yes.

00:10:45I don't even know who I am in my house.

00:10:48Really?

00:10:49I don't even know who I am.

00:10:51I don't know.

00:10:52Sometimes we are blind.

00:10:54And we don't tell them who did it.

00:10:56Who did it.

00:10:57Let's figure out.

00:10:58Yes.

00:10:59They are blind for their daughters.

00:11:01I feel that

00:11:03My mom didn't do it.

00:11:05I know,

00:11:06When you were a kid,

00:11:07your child is very difficult.

00:11:09Especially when you have siblings

00:11:10you are with all you.

00:11:12After that,

00:11:13When you're in your 20s

00:11:14and then in your 30s

00:11:16Life

00:11:17when you're in your actually

00:11:18practical life

00:11:19you start your blame game.

00:11:22That is something that is very dangerous.

00:11:24Because you are putting your failures on others, your laziness, everything you are putting on to others

00:11:30That's easier, shifting your responsibility to the other person is easier

00:11:37You are like, I haven't done it, you are at fault, it's a very easy way out

00:11:41People don't like to work on others, instead of that, they say that it was my circumstances

00:11:46You are blaming the circumstances at the end of the day

00:11:50You are not defining yourself, that I can get better or better from those circumstances

00:11:57That I feel is more dangerous, small and small, it's always going to be running

00:12:01When you are doing these things in the actual life, that I feel is the self-pity element in your life

00:12:07I see that I don't really understand, but what is the benefit of it?

00:12:12If you are a loser, you are not able to become a loser

00:12:18I have a lot of children in my mother-in-law, I have put my mother-in-law on the other side

00:12:24I have a lot of trust in my mother-in-law, I have not got a lot of trust in my mother-in-law

00:12:25we don't have money for our father's colleagues who have built a house with cars and we see how we are

00:12:33I have a lot of children, I want you to be proud of your father and you are blaming your father

00:12:40I understand, this is a sense of control, people feel that we are not in control

00:12:47like husband and wife, so it is very easy to blame your wife

00:12:54so it is an easy way out and then they feel in authority, they feel they have this sense of control

00:13:00because you think that you are controlling, this is what you have done

00:13:03because of your child it has been like this

00:13:06you understand, so there is a lot of authority in their figures

00:13:10and then they say that ego massage is also happening, whose egos are weak

00:13:15I will tell you one thing, blame game is a defense mechanism

00:13:21it means that you are defending yourself, protecting yourself, when you feel that someone is attacking

00:13:27you have to defend yourself, because if you have not done this, then you will have anxiety,

00:13:32you will have anxiety, you will have anxiety, so you will have to put your wife on it

00:13:36that because of your child has failed, then they will come to the peace,

00:13:40okay, there is a sense of control, your ego will be satisfied and you will have anxiety

00:13:45but tell me, what is the benefit of that?

00:13:48this is the benefit of that, that is the sense of control

00:13:51control, they feel that, but children are like that

00:13:54who are watching this blame game from their childhood

00:13:57so when they grow up and grow up in their relationship

00:14:02they do that with their spouse, we call it a learned behaviour

00:14:06means that you have always seen this in your home

00:14:09so that you have become a part of your personality

00:14:12and when you went into practical life, you did that with your spouse

00:14:16and how sad is that?

00:14:17you can see, what we are doing at home

00:14:19we feel like the child has not done the notes

00:14:21the child is growing in the mood

00:14:23the child is growing in the mood

00:14:24the child is becoming a part of his personality

00:14:26that's why we need to watch what we are doing at home

00:14:29because the child is like a sponge

00:14:31they absorb everything

00:14:32and what you are doing is learning

00:14:34that you learn to do it

00:14:35My child was very little

00:14:37when he started to blame game

00:14:39no matter what I have made

00:14:41it was like a match

00:14:42I have to feel he started doing this

00:14:44that I have to do it

00:14:46whatever it is something else

00:14:47whatever some of the things went on

00:14:48to their class values

00:14:49no matter what I have made

00:14:50whatever that happened

00:14:51I have made my own kids

00:14:52I think that everyone had admit

00:14:54it was too difficult

00:14:55at the time

00:14:56why are they acting like that?

00:14:58it seems like they do it

00:14:59Look, we are still guilty

00:15:00as well

00:15:01we are in guilt

00:15:02people are blaming

00:15:03I have known that some people have had a habit.

00:15:07I have told him to be 5 or 6.

00:15:14I have told him to blame him.

00:15:18I have told him to accept him.

00:15:21He told me that my friend had to forgive me.

00:15:25He told me that he had told me.

00:15:28He told me that he was angry.

00:15:30So when he was angry, he wouldn't be angry at all.

00:15:32He would be angry at all.

00:15:35So we need to tell people that you need to take responsibility of your actions.

00:15:40Take responsibility and accept your mistakes.

00:15:43It's okay. Anybody can make mistakes.

00:15:46How do we understand these little children?

00:15:48They will learn how to accept this time.

00:15:54They will learn our actions.

00:15:57I also feel like we have to break the chain, right?

00:16:03I have a boy, he's seven months old, mashallah.

00:16:07We feel like when we're at home,

00:16:10whatever we do at home,

00:16:12or whatever we do at home,

00:16:15he will pick those things, right?

00:16:17So if I'm good to apologize and accept my mistakes,

00:16:21he's going to learn how to make mistakes.

00:16:24His father does the same thing.

00:16:26So that's the same thing.

00:16:27That's the same thing.

00:16:28It's okay to apologize.

00:16:30And then in front of me,

00:16:32I can't give that reaction.

00:16:35If his father is apologizing,

00:16:37I'm going to try to calm the situation.

00:16:41So don't do that long.

00:16:43Exactly.

00:16:44Don't exaggerate.

00:16:45I just feel like,

00:16:46I just feel like,

00:16:47I can say,

00:16:48what will it be,

00:16:49what will it be,

00:16:50what will it be,

00:16:51what will it be,

00:16:52how will it be?

00:16:53Exactly,

00:16:54I just feel like,

00:16:55the kids are turned into pain.

00:16:56They're tired,

00:16:57the ones are falling in the fight,

00:16:58if they're gonna hit it,

00:16:59then the baby is getting the anxiety.

00:17:00So the kids have to stay,

00:17:01there is to be a sense of anxiety,

00:17:02and they have to keep them in the whole scenario.

00:17:04So they say,

00:17:05I do not have to woe,

00:17:06I am,

00:17:07I have to be provided.

00:17:08That's what I thought, that it will get out of that.

00:17:11So I feel like that those

00:17:13the timeouts, the dance,

00:17:16there should be any threshold,

00:17:18any boundary,

00:17:20that the kids feel so attacked

00:17:22that they will get scared

00:17:24and start talking to me.

00:17:26And I have started to plate it,

00:17:28and I feel that it doesn't happen.

00:17:30That's right, because it's the case

00:17:32that over punishment

00:17:34you might say that you're scared

00:17:36that he is afraid of me, but he is afraid of me, I don't care of him, I don't care of him,

00:17:41I do sometimes, I'm a little older, but he is afraid of me, so that's why I told him

00:17:47that you have to take responsibility. Whatever you are doing, you just take the responsibility.

00:17:54And don't take old things, during an argument, we rubbed things in the person's face,

00:18:01we don't have to do this. We are also doing this with our children, that you have to take the old mistakes,

00:18:07you know, you don't have to do this. That's how we break the cycle.

00:18:13We have to break the cycle of blaming, we can break the cycle, that we don't have to react.

00:18:18The child is not afraid, that if I take responsibility, I don't have to do anything.

00:18:24I just feel in any circumstances, anything happens.

00:18:28I listen to the line and I really like it.

00:18:31Anything happens, anything happens.

00:18:32Anything happens.

00:18:33So, you have to take a lot of the situation and I have been an anxiety patient myself.

00:18:40So, I know that you have to be impulsively reaction.

00:18:45And it's very common.

00:18:47It's very common.

00:18:48I feel like I'm angry, so it's 0-100 for it.

00:18:51But I'm learning this from Aman.

00:18:52He's like calm down, 1 minute.

00:18:54We can talk with ease.

00:18:56We can deal with ease.

00:18:57We can deal with ease.

00:18:58So, I'm working on it.

00:19:00And I believe that I'm better in that situation.

00:19:03Impulsive disorder has come in control.

00:19:05So, anything happens, nothing happens.

00:19:07Be calm.

00:19:08We don't know the situation.

00:19:09We don't even know the anxiety.

00:19:11How do they know the symptoms of anxiety?

00:19:16Look, we talk about anxiety.

00:19:18We talk about anxiety.

00:19:20Right?

00:19:21In anxiety, the feeling of heart rate is strong.

00:19:25Okay.

00:19:26When you say it again.

00:19:27When you say it, you say it.

00:19:28You speak it in your hands.

00:19:29You say it in your hands?

00:19:30It starts.

00:19:31Yes, when you think heart and it suddenly comes to you.

00:19:32It'll be like the fear.

00:19:34Now, when it comes to you, it's like the fear.

00:19:37It's so fear that I'm going to die.

00:19:39And they rush to the ER.

00:19:41They're running in the emergency.

00:19:42Every now and then.

00:19:43And they don't come to the psychiatrist about it.

00:19:45They're not the same, just thinking that we're ghosts.

00:19:47And to understand when they have doubts,

00:19:49that it's bad for it, it's bad.

00:19:52So, the suffering is so deadly.

00:19:55It feels like it's excess warm.

00:19:57It feels like it's cold or it's cold.

00:19:59It's cold.

00:20:00It's cold.

00:20:01This is anxiety.

00:20:02And at one point, Nida, you believe that it's so bad that you feel like it's going to be a heart attack.

00:20:07You feel like I'm going to die.

00:20:09I'm going to die.

00:20:10But you know, you feel like if I don't feel like I'm going to breathe.

00:20:15Because you always feel like a psychologist or a psychiatrist is the second step.

00:20:20First, you feel like I'm going to breathe.

00:20:23I can't operate.

00:20:24I'm on the floor.

00:20:25And other than breathing, it feels like a heart attack.

00:20:28Exactly.

00:20:29Panic attack is just like a heart attack.

00:20:30Anxiety and panic attack is connected?

00:20:32Yes.

00:20:33Anxiety's worst form is panic attack.

00:20:35Anxiety didn't treat you.

00:20:36You didn't go to the doctor.

00:20:37It was so much worse.

00:20:38Now you're all panic attacks.

00:20:40In panic attacks, you're like, oh my god, I'm going to die.

00:20:42This is the situation.

00:20:43And anxiety can happen to everyone.

00:20:45You think every other person has anxiety.

00:20:47It's so common.

00:20:49Every third person has anxiety nowadays.

00:20:51It's so stressful.

00:20:53Everything.

00:20:54Competition is so much.

00:20:56Anxiety.

00:20:57And there are many things that are different, I believe, that people are triggering.

00:21:01Be it study related, be it work related.

00:21:05Like, marriage, children.

00:21:06There's so much happening.

00:21:07Children's marriage.

00:21:08You can never get a chance.

00:21:11Absolutely.

00:21:12You have a different kind of tension and anxiety.

00:21:17I think it's part of life.

00:21:18It's allahmiya's way of saying, come back to me.

00:21:20Yes.

00:21:21Come to me.

00:21:22Pray.

00:21:23Exactly.

00:21:24And I don't know, many people,

00:21:25so they're working together.

00:21:27And I think it's somewhere.

00:21:28With the anxiety, they're approaching this,

00:21:29so that they can develop the calmness,

00:21:32so that they can develop their own,

00:21:34and by the calmness, they can take the calmness.

00:21:36Yoga, religion, all these things.

00:21:38Yoga, meditation, exercise.

00:21:40I want to mention this which is very important. When we are in an argument or fight, our body is in a fight and flight mode.

00:21:50We have to attack the people in the future.

00:21:54When we are in an argument, our body becomes a lot of cortisol.

00:22:00Cortisol is a hormone?

00:22:02Yes, it shuts down our thinking.

00:22:04We don't have to understand the answer.

00:22:06When the fight ends, it comes.

00:22:09This is the answer to me.

00:22:11This is so important.

00:22:13You don't think well.

00:22:18You make wrong decisions.

00:22:19That's why they say when you are in an argument, take a break of just 10 seconds.

00:22:24If you pause, you can see that your thought process changes.

00:22:28This is our solution.

00:22:30This is our solution.

00:22:32This is a ritual.

00:22:34When we are in an argument, and Amman specifically.

00:22:37People say that if you have a fight, you don't have a fight without a fight.

00:22:42We are not of the opinion.

00:22:44We think that if we have a fight, you have seen Amman how he is.

00:22:49So we say, okay, let's take a break.

00:22:51I go, I sleep in another room, or he sleeps in another room.

00:22:55And then we sit together on the breakfast table and then address it.

00:22:59I feel like that is much better.

00:23:01Because the many things that happen in the other room,

00:23:05or when Amman is out of sight,

00:23:07you remember that these are the issues that I need to address.

00:23:09Because you are able to think then.

00:23:11Later you are able to think.

00:23:12Exactly.

00:23:13So I feel that is much better.

00:23:14Because I have no solution before sleeping.

00:23:17It's not possible.

00:23:18But when you are in anger,

00:23:20you can't think straight.

00:23:21So it's better to take some space.

00:23:23I feel like that.

00:23:24That's why it should go in front of those eyes.

00:23:26This is science.

00:23:27That if cortisol is released,

00:23:29your thinking is shut down.

00:23:31You cannot make good decisions.

00:23:32You cannot think straight.

00:23:33After a break,

00:23:34we are coming back.

00:23:35We have different people here

00:23:37who blame the game,

00:23:39which is toxic,

00:23:41which is a shame.

00:23:43And we can learn and know

00:23:46that we have to prevent our blame games.

00:23:49How much anxiety,

00:23:52depression,

00:23:53these are all things

00:23:54that are another thing.

00:23:55Panic attacks.

00:23:56This is to save you.

00:23:57And if we have to save you,

00:23:59we have to go to a psychiatrist

00:24:00or a psychologist,

00:24:01then there is no problem.

00:24:03Good morning.

00:24:05Good morning.

00:24:16Welcome.

00:24:17Welcome back.

00:24:18Good morning Pakistan.

00:24:19We have to say this.

00:24:21The next day,

00:24:22it's a shame.

00:24:23I don't know.

00:24:24We have to go to blame.

00:24:25This is a shame.

00:24:27It's an shame.

00:24:28I don't think we are saying we are within the same age.

00:24:30We are not doing it.

00:24:32We are not doing it.

00:24:33We blame the blame game.

00:24:34We are giving up to blame the blame.

00:24:39We are putting in any self-righteousness.

00:24:40It's the same way.

00:24:42He says that he is saying because we are always doing the same thing.

00:24:48So, I have sat at this moment, Iram and Iram would like to tell you that who's blame and blame is in his life.

00:24:56Hello. I'm my housewife.

00:24:59My name is Iram.

00:25:02I have given you every thing.

00:25:07It's my three children.

00:25:10My children are outside or small or small activities.

00:25:16But when they say wrong or wrong,

00:25:21they say that they all do what they do.

00:25:26They don't have to look at them.

00:25:28They don't have to look at them.

00:25:30They don't have to look at them.

00:25:32What happens here?

00:25:34I am with them.

00:25:36They are watching them, sitting, eating, drinking, eating, everything.

00:25:40I don't have to look at them in the study.

00:25:41There is a problem here, they don't give me any of my support.

00:25:46Ok.

00:25:47They give me every thing.

00:25:49They don't know for me alone or tell anything.

00:25:51No.

00:25:52In front of the children?

00:25:53In front of the children.

00:25:54In front of my eyes.

00:25:56And when I look at the eyes, I think how many of them I am outpressed.

00:26:00Sometimes I see a lot of people in the house.

00:26:02and my mother says that you can not be a good mother or a good baby

00:26:09at one time my heart is like I want to leave home and leave home

00:26:15and your children are young now?

00:26:18one is 12 years old, one is 9 years old

00:26:21and my son is 14 years old

00:26:24but if you talk about the children's work, if they have a result, they don't have a result

00:26:32that is my result

00:26:34that is my home

00:26:36they keep me standing like that

00:26:40if you understand that I will hold my soul

00:26:43okay

00:26:45now I don't think that I have failed

00:26:49or I don't have a number

00:26:50if they are 50, if they are 40, they don't have a result

00:26:54they need to be 45

00:26:56they don't appreciate it

00:26:58that I have done it

00:27:00I have explained them

00:27:02but they don't appreciate it

00:27:04they give them everything

00:27:06they don't give me any attention

00:27:08they don't give me their attention

00:27:10they don't sit with them

00:27:12they don't do it

00:27:14how much do they do it

00:27:16eat, drink

00:27:18I think it is to be a way

00:27:19if you have whatever

00:27:20if you have anything

00:27:21like that

00:27:22but I do have something

00:27:23because of anything

00:27:24I do so

00:27:25I don't see it

00:27:26when I get started

00:27:29if my parents are equally

00:27:30if they do something

00:27:32how do a person

00:27:34I have something

00:27:35in the в papers

00:27:36Is there any fear and fear that you have been killed?

00:27:40What is your opinion?

00:27:42What do you think?

00:27:44What do you think about children's fear and fear?

00:27:47This fear and fear?

00:27:50I mean fear and fear is that I am not going to get out of here.

00:27:54Seriously?

00:27:55I mean if I am going to kill you,

00:27:58I will not get out of here.

00:27:59I will also get out of here.

00:28:01I will not get out of here.

00:28:04because my husband is a good man and his husband is a good man

00:28:08and then he opens a whole evening in the evening

00:28:12that he is like this or this or this

00:28:14if you don't do it, he says that he is not the attention

00:28:17means that I am not taking my responsibility in the fight

00:28:20and he is taking care of his responsibility

00:28:22they come to watch TV TV

00:28:24or they ask their children to ask their attention

00:28:26they ask their attention to their attention

00:28:27and ask their attention to their attention

00:28:29so they have to count their attention

00:28:32and give everything to me.

00:28:34The problem is that those who are trying to do this

00:28:37they don't have the idea that

00:28:39they are losing their mental health.

00:28:41Exactly.

00:28:42And those who are losing their mental health

00:28:44the mother is

00:28:45you cannot pour from an empty cup.

00:28:49If they are not healthy mentally

00:28:51then who will raise their children?

00:28:53That's the problem.

00:28:54When they are blaming their wives

00:28:55they do not realize

00:28:57that they are ruining their own generation.

00:28:59They are failing their children.

00:29:02What a sad mother can get a happy child?

00:29:05Who is being bullied from inside, who is being bullied from inside

00:29:08and who is being bullied from inside

00:29:10who is not being confident in inside

00:29:12who is being confident in their children

00:29:13they will give them

00:29:14who is not in their own children.

00:29:16Absolutely.

00:29:17I have done graduation

00:29:18and I have no idea of graduation

00:29:21after I have studied children

00:29:24after I have done this

00:29:25that you are doing all the day

00:29:28that I have done.

00:29:29That's right.

00:29:30That's right.

00:29:31That's right.

00:29:32That's right.

00:29:33That's right.

00:29:34I have to tell you

00:29:35that when they say this

00:29:36that you are doing all the day

00:29:37you don't have to do all the day.

00:29:38You understand?

00:29:39It is not the purpose of life.

00:29:40It is burning in the heart.

00:29:41Do you feel like

00:29:42that your mental health

00:29:43has affected these things?

00:29:44You understand that

00:29:45that I will pass my happiness

00:29:46for a year

00:29:47and then

00:29:49that the child's growth

00:29:50or the school's going time

00:29:52comes to school

00:29:53so that I am in depression

00:29:55I am not able to be stable

00:29:56until now.

00:29:57Toxic environment is

00:29:59it means that

00:30:01that's right.

00:30:02I mean husband

00:30:03who is a pillar

00:30:05and then

00:30:06that's right.

00:30:07And the other woman

00:30:08who has to understand

00:30:09their children

00:30:10have to get their children

00:30:11and they have to get their children.

00:30:12If you say something

00:30:14that is impossible

00:30:15then

00:30:16she believes

00:30:17like

00:30:18if somebody says to you

00:30:19you are a failure

00:30:20you are a failure

00:30:21then

00:30:22you would also start believing.

00:30:23you are not good enough.

00:30:24If somebody says to you

00:30:25you are not good enough

00:30:26then she believes

00:30:27that she believes

00:30:28that she believes

00:30:29and then she leaves

00:30:30trying to do it.

00:30:31Because she doesn't have

00:30:32any benefit.

00:30:33You understand?

00:30:34You are not the motivation

00:30:35then the mother

00:30:36actually doesn't try

00:30:37and give up.

00:30:38Also I want to say

00:30:40that

00:30:43first

00:30:45we try to eliminate

00:30:47a housewife

00:30:48that

00:30:49is

00:30:50a woman

00:30:51who is in the house

00:30:52there are thousands of jobs.

00:30:54We go out

00:30:55we are going to work

00:30:56there

00:30:57we will do five o'clock

00:30:58and

00:30:59who is in the house

00:31:00who is in the house

00:31:01and children

00:31:02are doing so much

00:31:03how they do work?

00:31:04taking their food

00:31:05at the morning

00:31:06their clothes

00:31:07their clothes

00:31:08and clothes

00:31:09and school

00:31:10everything.

00:31:11Also

00:31:13how can a woman

00:31:14learn a child

00:31:15when they say

00:31:16it takes a village

00:31:17to raise a child?

00:31:18Right?

00:31:19A village

00:31:20to raise a child

00:31:21it's very very difficult, you have a lot of affected you, you don't have time for yourself

00:31:32so how do you expect to get three children and you have no looks on the top of it?

00:31:38Jason has said that I feel depression, your self-esteem is low, you feel very low, you feel

00:31:45a good mother, anxiety, depression, sleep disturbance, various problems.

00:31:51Tell me how do you get better and how do you get better and how do you get better?

00:31:59First of all, you have to understand that this is the blame game, this is the empathy,

00:32:04you have to understand that the one who comes from the blame, it will also be a problem.

00:32:11It may be that the childhood of the child is very traumatic.

00:32:14It may be that his ego is also very weak, so we have to understand it too.

00:32:19It may be that it may be hurt.

00:32:21Those who are very hurt, their ego is very fragile, their upbringing is not good.

00:32:28They behave like this.

00:32:30So if we try to understand them a little bit, we may reduce themselves.

00:32:35If you think that it may be that my husband's background is like this.

00:32:40So how do you know them?

00:32:42Yes.

00:32:43Yes.

00:32:44Yes.

00:32:45Yes.

00:32:46Yes.

00:32:47Yes.

00:32:48Yes.

00:32:49Yes.

00:32:50Yes.

00:32:51Yes.

00:32:52Yes.

00:32:53Yes.

00:32:54Yes.

00:32:55Yes.

00:32:56Yes.

00:32:57Yes.

00:32:58Yes.

00:32:59Yes.

00:33:00Yes.

00:33:01Yes.

00:33:02Yes.

00:33:03Yes.

00:33:04Yes.

00:33:05Yes.

00:33:06Yes.

00:33:07Yes.

00:33:08Yes.

00:33:09Yes.

00:33:10Yes.

00:33:11Yes.

00:33:12Yes.

00:33:13Yes.

00:33:18Yes.

00:33:19Yes.

00:33:20Yes.

00:33:21Yes.

00:33:22Yes.

00:33:23Yes.

00:33:25and they are doing this and it is a strange personality.

00:33:28When the mother doesn't get on a page, the children take advantage.

00:33:32They become manipulative.

00:33:34Whatever difference is in the room you don't do to manage the children's behavior.

00:33:39Because the children manipulate there and they see their own benefits.

00:33:42I think that what you get from the mother and I get to the mother.

00:33:46I think it's just not in a conflict.

00:33:49These are also in other situations because they notice that they have some kind of things.

00:33:53you should know what to do in front of children and what to do in front of children.

00:33:58I will see that today because we have social media available to children,

00:34:02people always do everything in front of children which is they grow up too fast.

00:34:06Yes, very quickly they have to intervene in adult stories.

00:34:12How does this work to help their parents?

00:34:16There are many people who understand their techniques.

00:34:20There are many people who understand how to do this toxic environment.

00:34:25But every woman is not understanding.

00:34:27She is young, she is mother's mother's mother's mother.

00:34:30She doesn't understand how to satisfy her.

00:34:35But if they are in-laws in the house, how do they face them?

00:34:42There are some people who blame them.

00:34:45We know that this is the personality part.

00:34:48So you can talk to them.

00:34:51I feel like you are disturbing yourself.

00:34:54Is there anything?

00:34:55Is there anything?

00:34:56Is there anything?

00:34:57Is there anything?

00:34:58What do you want to hear?

00:34:59What do you want to hear?

00:35:00Is there anything?

00:35:01What do you want to hear?

00:35:05Is there anything?

00:35:06Is there anything?

00:35:07Is there anything?

00:35:08Is there anything?

00:35:09Do you want to hear?

00:35:18I just don't listen to anyone who wants to talk to me.

00:35:22If I want to talk to myself, I just want to tell them what I want to talk to myself.

00:35:26I want to explain and tell them.

00:35:28Maybe I want to talk to myself, but they don't understand.

00:35:32Because they always say that our mother is the one who is the one who is the one who is the one who is the one who is the one.

00:35:36So, every one has its own way.

00:35:39I have taken my children with love and I have taken my children with a little bit of a tongue.

00:35:44But they don't understand anything in these years.

00:35:47As a parent, as a husband, what are your responsibilities?

00:35:55You said that they don't sit with children.

00:35:58Why don't you ask them?

00:36:00If you have a child's time, they need a fear and fear.

00:36:04They want to say that they need a child.

00:36:06If the child feels like our result is wrong, then the mother will be wrong.

00:36:10She says that they are your own.

00:36:12You look at them.

00:36:14the children must say that they own them.

00:36:15I believe that if you are on the other side, you should be the one who is the one who is the one who is the one who lives.

00:36:20Let us always see their children.

00:36:21If there are children, someone who is taller than the other ones, they say that they will be the one who is the one who is the one who is the one who is.

00:36:23that they also look at you and say that you are the only one, that you are the only one.

00:36:28And they also come with their mother.

00:36:31And when I come here and I have children, I have to say that,

00:36:37when you say that your children feel like you have something,

00:36:43it's a bad thing, but it's a good thing.

00:36:47I tell you that there is a correction, where there is awareness,

00:36:50If someone knows that I'm wrong, he doesn't do the wrong action.

00:36:55But if you believe that our clinic, when families come to us, I've seen that there are not many families.

00:37:01If you tell them that your children's health is good, then they will take care of themselves.

00:37:08They will take care of themselves.

00:37:11If they don't even think about their children's health, then they will take care of themselves.

00:37:19Then they will take care of themselves.

00:37:21Look at this program.

00:37:23If you don't think about their children's health, then they will take care of themselves.

00:37:31I feel like this is a story of every household.

00:37:35If I'm going to get to work, then you're sitting in the house.

00:37:41Then you say that I'm going to start working, so you're going to do the work and you're going to see the children.

00:37:46At one time, I don't understand that I'm a mother, a mother, a dog, a dog or a dog.

00:37:53Look, I'll tell you one thing.

00:37:55In truth, maybe at this age, when I was young, maybe I would have gone through these things.

00:38:02Okay?

00:38:03I feel like it's very important to discipline in life.

00:38:05But you will also make a time table.

00:38:07Because when it happens, the parents call their children.

00:38:10Whether it's tuition or anything.

00:38:12If you've given authority that your responsibility is, then you have to become a fawgy.

00:38:19Fawgy means that you have to get discipline in the house.

00:38:22And if you have to get discipline in that discipline, then you have to take care of yourself,

00:38:24then you have to take care of yourself.

00:38:26If you have to take care of yourself.

00:38:27No matter what it ...

00:38:28You have to take care of yourself.

00:38:29I'll be like NAU Cup and it's my daughter.

00:38:30If you have to do the things that you fall to then you have to bring boundaries.

00:38:34If you have to be caught, you have to go popping up.

00:38:36The doctor will tell them, the exam will also be assigned.

00:38:39The scorched scholдаes you can see.

00:38:40So you have to give them the children before turning them.

00:38:42I'll give them the punch they 에너ven.

00:38:44I will give you all my attention to the children and learn to speak to you.

00:38:51But Nida, this is so good that you bring topics in your shows,

00:38:55because I feel like this is happening, so people will know that this is also a problem.

00:39:00Because you don't realize it.

00:39:02You don't realize it.

00:39:04Many people are watching this time, and we are seeing a lot of people.

00:39:10What you are doing, this is also happening in your home.

00:39:14And now it's affecting everyone's mental health.

00:39:19Your behavior.

00:39:20So it's very important that you tell them that this is wrong.

00:39:23Yes.

00:39:24And the same thing is that if you don't do your value,

00:39:27then you won't do anything else.

00:39:29The husband thinks that his wife is a housewife.

00:39:31He doesn't have any background.

00:39:33There is no support.

00:39:35Whatever I will say, he will stay here.

00:39:38Then that is a little advantage.

00:39:41That will attract a little advantage.

00:39:42You have to take your values.

00:39:44That I am taking all the responsibility.

00:39:46I am a human, a machine.

00:39:48I am not a man.

00:39:49I am not a machine.

00:39:50You have to take a little stand.

00:39:52That you don't have to eat food.

00:39:54You have to take it out.

00:39:55You have to come out.

00:39:56I am also at home.

00:39:57I am also at home.

00:39:58I am also at your household.

00:39:59I am also at your mother.

00:40:00I am also at your children.

00:40:01They are good numbers.

00:40:02So I am not a machine.

00:40:03and not you have to take all the medals because you can't do everything at the same time.

00:40:09You have to set your priorities.

00:40:12Now I have to pay attention to children.

00:40:14Now I have to eat food.

00:40:15Now I have to socialize myself.

00:40:18I have to keep my eyes.

00:40:20This is not an aspect of socializing.

00:40:22I have a lot of people who come to depression and anxiety.

00:40:26Their lives are like this.

00:40:27Home, children, family.

00:40:29That's a loop.

00:40:31There is no time.

00:40:32There is no time.

00:40:33Exactly.

00:40:34There is no me time for concept.

00:40:35Let's discuss this.

00:40:36Good morning Pakistan.

00:40:38Blame game is heading today's program.

00:40:53Welcome.

00:40:54Welcome back.

00:40:55Good morning Pakistan.

00:40:56Before I move on to my topic, I want to tell you.

00:40:59I have to tell you, I want to tell you that after eating, you need to make a routine.

00:41:05You must make a difference between your life.

00:41:09What is the benefit of that?

00:41:10You will be a good one.

00:41:11Your weight will remain straight.

00:41:12You will be a good one.

00:41:13All the problems with gut and meat will remain straight.

00:41:16Your food will be a good one.

00:41:18You will be a good one.

00:41:20you will not have any problems, you will produce weight, you will also save cancer from all the herbs that you will also save cancer from all the other.

00:41:32You will also see the effects of your growth of your age.

00:41:38Because there are antioxidants that you have basically keep young.

00:41:45So, you will be able to delay your age.

00:41:53So, you will be able to delay your life.

00:41:57I will tell you all about these things.

00:42:00In green tea, we all know that antioxidants are good for you.

00:42:10You will also save cancer from all the diseases.

00:42:14So, these are important points, which I have to pay for.

00:42:20Now, we are on the other side of it.

00:42:22You will be able to delay your blame.

00:42:24You will save your mental health.

00:42:27You will have a good quality of life.

00:42:30You will be able to delay your life.

00:42:33So, I will tell you that you will praise.

00:42:36So, we will be able to delay your life as well.

00:42:37So, I will tell you that you have to delay your life.

00:42:38If you have come back to your life, you will be able to delay your life.

00:42:39So, there is no need to delay your life.

00:42:40You can't add your life.

00:42:41How do you think you can delay your life.

00:42:42that it's not only the burden on the whole house, but it also gives us bad things,

00:42:49that number of them, which are the burdens of their children,

00:42:54but also all the burden of their children have.

00:42:58So a young mother on the whole of these things we have done.

00:43:01What is the conclusion of this?

00:43:03I will say that before that we can prioritize the mental health of women.

00:43:07Because that they raise children.

00:43:10So husbands or husbands, whom we say that they blame very much,

00:43:16they think that it's not just your mother and baby.

00:43:20It's just your next generation.

00:43:23If they are mentally healthy, they will raise their children better.

00:43:29So when there is something like this, husband and wife,

00:43:32sit and talk about it, solve it and go out.

00:43:37First of all, I talked about me-time,

00:43:42before we discussed this,

00:43:44that women have a time in a day,

00:43:47one or two hours,

00:43:49in which they do something that they like.

00:43:52Because we say that batteries are charged, they will go.

00:43:55If batteries are empty, they will not give anything.

00:43:59Whether you listen to music,

00:44:02whether you listen to drama or talk to friends,

00:44:05they will go outside, they will take time with their friends.

00:44:08Many people say that they don't have me-time.

00:44:10Mariam, tell me, your child is 7 months.

00:44:13What is your me-time?

00:44:15And how do you get out of it?

00:44:17I started giving me-time from day one.

00:44:22We weren't in Pakistan.

00:44:25And I asked for my skin care daily,

00:44:30that my skin care will be completed at the start.

00:44:33So, when I gave Issa's night routine,

00:44:36I gave her thoughts,

00:44:38I gave Amman.

00:44:39And then Amman was like,

00:44:40you go and you do your thing,

00:44:42I will give my duty now.

00:44:43So, I used to talk to my mother,

00:44:45I used to do, like,

00:44:46whatever food you do,

00:44:48I used to do Netflix,

00:44:50I used to do that.

00:44:52And it was so relaxing.

00:44:53And that's why I said,

00:44:55that maybe that's the reason

00:44:57that I didn't have postpartum.

00:44:59I didn't have postpartum depression

00:45:02because I had that,

00:45:04despite me being there,

00:45:06not being at home,

00:45:07I feel like that I was loved,

00:45:09I was given my time.

00:45:11So, it really helps.

00:45:14So, from day one,

00:45:16and now he says,

00:45:18you know,

00:45:19I've been at Issa seven months,

00:45:20I'll see her.

00:45:21You want to go out with your friends,

00:45:22work,

00:45:23we're doing something.

00:45:24So,

00:45:25that's how it's important.

00:45:27That's how it's important.

00:45:28It's important.

00:45:29It's important to ask Mariyab

00:45:30to ask Mariyab

00:45:31is that it's the case

00:45:32that she can give her

00:45:33to her home.

00:45:34And,

00:45:35I mean,

00:45:36if she gives me time

00:45:37to give her,

00:45:38she will sleep

00:45:39and she will get so much love

00:45:41for her.

00:45:43And,

00:45:44my husband is a foodie,

00:45:45I'm a foodie.

00:45:46But,

00:45:47we had to make her own food.

00:45:49So,

00:45:50there were a few days

00:45:51when I was like,

00:45:52you don't eat food.

00:45:53You can make her own food.

00:45:54And,

00:45:55I'll do it.

00:45:56You just do you.

00:45:57Don't worry about me.

00:45:58Don't worry about me.

00:45:59Exactly.

00:46:00And,

00:46:01please,

00:46:02don't feel guilty

00:46:03that I'm giving myself time.

00:46:05So,

00:46:06I'll do it.

00:46:07You just do you.

00:46:08Don't worry about me.

00:46:09Don't worry about me.

00:46:10Exactly.

00:46:11And,

00:46:12if I'm taking care of myself,

00:46:13then,

00:46:14I'm going to take time with my child.

00:46:15I'm taking her time.

00:46:16No,

00:46:17it's very important

00:46:18for your own self.

00:46:19Of course.

00:46:20See,

00:46:21taking care of yourself

00:46:22is not selfish.

00:46:23You must take care of yourself.

00:46:25If you charge your batteries,

00:46:26you'll give better to your child.

00:46:27Yeah,

00:46:28you'll be happy.

00:46:29You'll enjoy the children

00:46:30in all phases basically.

00:46:32So,

00:46:33moving towards

00:46:34next

00:46:35blame game.

00:46:36We have Saima.

00:46:37Yes.

00:46:38Saima,

00:46:39what will you tell us?

00:46:40Assalamualaikum.

00:46:41Yes,

00:46:42I will tell you all,

00:46:43that this time,

00:46:44I'm very much

00:46:46proud of the

00:46:48forgiveness.

00:46:49Because,

00:46:50that's why,

00:46:51that's why,

00:46:52my mother,

00:46:53my husband,

00:46:54my husband,

00:46:55my husband,

00:46:56they married.

00:46:57Okay.

00:46:58And,

00:46:59I don't know that.

00:47:00I don't know that.

00:47:01We have a joint family system.

00:47:02I have a son.

00:47:03Okay.

00:47:04And,

00:47:05I have a son.

00:47:06My son.

00:47:07My son.

00:47:08I have a son.

00:47:09Okay.

00:47:10And,

00:47:11I have a son.

00:47:12I have two children.

00:47:13Okay.

00:47:14My son.

00:47:15He's two years old.

00:47:16And,

00:47:17I have one son.

00:47:18My God.

00:47:19They are small.

00:47:20Now,

00:47:21it was a routine day.

00:47:23It took a long time.

00:47:25We were not at home.

00:47:26We were very worried.

00:47:27What happened?

00:47:29So,

00:47:30it was a night,

00:47:31I was at night,

00:47:32when I was at night,

00:47:33I was at night,

00:47:34I was at night,

00:47:35and I was at night.

00:47:36And,

00:47:37I was at night,

00:47:38I was at night,

00:47:39and I was at night,

00:47:40and I was at night,

00:47:41and I was at night,

00:47:43and I was at night.

00:47:44So,

00:47:45they called me all,

00:47:46and called me to help my daughter,

00:47:48and all my parents,

00:47:49and my parents,

00:47:50I got aMAN,

00:47:51and I got a girlfriend,

00:47:52and they called me,

00:47:53and I was at night and got a son.

00:47:54And I was at night.

00:47:55I really wanted to talk,

00:47:56and I was at night,

00:47:57the time we were at night,

00:47:58and I was at night and their children,

00:47:59they both left.

00:48:00So,

00:48:01I was at night.

00:48:02So,

00:48:03I was at night and the night.

00:48:04So,

00:48:06these children,

00:48:07I was at night,

00:48:08it was terrible.

00:48:09So,

00:48:11I was at night,

00:48:13so,

00:48:14they took care of me.

00:48:15totally that means that my husband said that anytime you are ready and don't do any work

00:48:23means that he said it was this, but in a joint family it is not possible to be in a joint family

00:48:27and the other child that you are running anytime and then, that is also that his mother doesn't like it

00:48:35that anytime you are ready, if you are ready, why are you ready to go somewhere?

00:48:41is we are ready to go.

00:48:47I am ready to go.

00:48:51I am ready to go.

00:48:53I am ready to go.

00:48:59I am ready to go to the kitchen.

00:49:05So it happened that they told me that I had married from this, and they told me that they shifted the upper portion and the lower portion.

00:49:21Now, the obvious thing is that I have to live in a house. I can't do anything. I can't do anything.

00:49:27I can't do anything. I don't understand what I can do.

00:49:34How many years did they have married?

00:49:37They have now resend, only six to eight months.

00:49:40So your first year's child was newborn?

00:49:44Yes, you can understand that. I didn't have any idea.

00:49:49When you were talking about it, the person said that this could not be possible.

00:49:54What did they say?

00:49:55First of all, you were giving warnings.

00:49:58You were not prepared.

00:50:00You were thinking about yourself.

00:50:02And if your husband was giving warnings,

00:50:05then you didn't listen to yourself.

00:50:07Yes, I didn't get so serious.

00:50:09Because it didn't happen in my mind.

00:50:12And this happened completely.

00:50:14If your husband didn't tell you a lot,

00:50:17then you would have to give a whole day,

00:50:20time overall,

00:50:22and then you would say that

00:50:24that I would say that

00:50:25I will give you the child to me.

00:50:27If your husband would come back,

00:50:29then you would go back home.

00:50:31So I am just in the middle of the day.

00:50:33And this result was gone.

00:50:35So the exam was coming for me.

00:50:37Which is what I have done.

00:50:38That's why I have done this.

00:50:41This is a common practice.

00:50:42Yes, I wonder how can people expect to eat food and also see children and also be ready on time.

00:50:50What can they expect from women?

00:50:53They need Saklina and Katerina together.

00:50:55Everything.

00:50:56What else?

00:50:57They need both together.

00:50:58Super power.

00:50:59It's not humanly possible.

00:51:01How?

00:51:02Make food.

00:51:04And you can see, this is a common practice.

00:51:06When people get married, they say that it's your fault.

00:51:11This is also guilt.

00:51:14People who are shameful, deep inside, they don't see it.

00:51:19But they know that I have something wrong.

00:51:24It's very easy.

00:51:25They shift from their guilt and responsibility.

00:51:29Because it's the easiest escape.

00:51:32So, put it on that, that it's your fault.

00:51:34Nobody can question that man.

00:51:36I want to say that,

00:51:38every woman,

00:51:40whoever you are,

00:51:42in their capacity,

00:51:44please,

00:51:45start to work a little bit.

00:51:47Self-sufficient.

00:51:49You have to keep your finances together.

00:51:55You have to take 2-3 hours.

00:51:57You have to do online work.

00:51:58You have to do something.

00:51:59Because at least she would have had the means,

00:52:02only to stand for the fact that 85% of hair is good,

00:52:04then and after that you were already killed.

00:52:06So, at least she would have had the means

00:52:09that it's better not.

00:52:10I don't feel likeので,

00:52:12at least I feel like,

00:52:13if a woman is earned and teammates are on.

00:52:15shopping are not easy...

00:52:16so much Goatah.

00:52:17This is important to still your experience.

00:52:18and I will tell you that Mia also knows that if I have done something with her,

00:52:25or I have done something with her law, then it will not stop.

00:52:29It will be hard for her rights.

00:52:31Then she will think about it.

00:52:34Exactly.

00:52:35And this strength comes to you when you have some money in the bank.

00:52:39Bank support, absolutely.

00:52:41I understand that your families don't support this thing,

00:52:45but you know yourself what you are going through.

00:52:48You are in a situation.

00:52:49You want to get out of that situation.

00:52:51So you need a means.

00:52:53And when that person will know that this person is not able to do anything,

00:52:56I will do anything.

00:52:57Yes.

00:52:58This is where I live.

00:52:59Exactly.

00:53:00So he has done this,

00:53:01and he can also give other things to him.

00:53:04He can't give other things to him.

00:53:06But if you are living in a house,

00:53:10then you will have to bear a lot more.

00:53:13I can't do anything.

00:53:16Yes.

00:53:17You are doing anything.

00:53:18Yes.

00:53:19I am doing a lot of things.

00:53:22But that's the thing that I have to keep on your back.

00:53:27You should keep on your back.

00:53:29So, if you have to keep on your back,

00:53:32if you have to keep on your back,

00:53:34you will not know what happens.

00:53:36You have to save something.

00:53:38You have to save something.

00:53:40I know that you have to save something.

00:53:42I don't know.

00:53:44Today, it's not good.

00:53:45I don't know.

00:53:46I don't know.

00:53:47I will not know.

00:53:48There will be some skill.

00:53:50You have to learn something.

00:53:52What you like, you will learn something.

00:53:54You will have to do something.

00:53:56You will have to say something on your back.

00:53:59And there is not something, supposedly.

00:54:01If you cannot do something,

00:54:03like the first time,

00:54:04they say that they have not got time.

00:54:06Your husband, you give you 5,000,

00:54:0910,000.

00:54:10As a pocket money.

00:54:11I will give you something.

00:54:12Try to save from that money.

00:54:15If you try to save your money, you try to save your money, so that you have some independent financial independence.

00:54:24So, if you give the money pocket money, then when they don't have bill first,

00:54:32then that time, they get paid for the money.

00:54:35They get paid for the wife.

00:54:38So, if you try to save your money, you don't have to save your money.

00:54:43They don't have to save your money.

00:54:45They know that if you have money, it will be in the air.

00:54:47So, if you want to save your money, you don't have to save your money.

00:54:51In our society, it's very difficult.

00:54:55If you have money, they don't have to save your money.

00:54:58If you have extra money, then they will go to the other side.

00:55:01Where do I pay?

00:55:03You don't have to save your money.

00:55:04You have to save your money.

00:55:05You have to save your money.

00:55:06You have to save your money.

00:55:07You have to save your money.

00:55:08But now, this is so unfortunate.

00:55:10It's not so good.

00:55:12But you understand this for yourself.

00:55:15People do use these situations to emerge as a stronger person.

00:55:19Of course.

00:55:20Sometimes, there are signs from Allah and Allah.

00:55:22Now, you don't have to do that.

00:55:24Try to be strong.

00:55:25Try to be strong.

00:55:26Try to think about what I can do.

00:55:28I will do my work.

00:55:29And financially, I will be strong.

00:55:32That's it.

00:55:33Can I give you a break?

00:55:34You do didn't have to do that.

00:55:35Because someone else has got a child.

00:55:36You will leave.

00:55:37You work with computer to learn anything?

00:55:40You will be a good idea.

00:55:41And you should go to this totally cette блиífică thing.

00:55:42You can have to improve your life,

00:55:43your redemption and operation.

00:55:46Jack?

00:55:47No.

00:55:48You are one of the things that you keepami烈 vigni,

00:55:49you are food for her."

00:55:50That's good news.

00:55:51I am saying that in the face of the world, your children will be able to get their children.

00:55:58I am a mother of two children, so you are a mother.

00:56:01I am thinking that today was the smell of the smell of the latharic and latharic and latharic.

00:56:08Tomorrow, they will also be the children.

00:56:10So they will come to the house and then they will come to the house.

00:56:13Then they will come to the house.

00:56:14They will come to the house.

00:56:15They will come to the house.

00:56:16What was your favorite marriage?

00:56:17I can say that.

00:56:18I will come to the house.

00:56:19I will come to the house.

00:56:20I will come to the house.

00:56:21I will come to the house.

00:56:22This is a serious note.

00:56:23I don't know why people want to do this with Katrina and Sakina.

00:56:32What's the case?

00:56:35If you want to do this with Katrina and Sakina,

00:56:37then you will be the person who will make the food for you.

00:56:42If you want to make it all the time,

00:56:44if you want to make it all the time,

00:56:45then you will say,

00:56:46let's not make the food for you.

00:56:47I will take you out.

00:56:48Or we will deliver you.

00:56:49Or I will make it all the time.

00:56:50Be that person also.

00:56:52There is no bad thing.

00:56:53If Mia wants to feel good,

00:56:55she wants to feel good.

00:56:56She wants to feel good.

00:56:57This demand is no matter.

00:56:59But we can do it practically.

00:57:01We can facilitate it as well.

00:57:02We can facilitate it as well.

00:57:03It will get good.

00:57:04And then also,

00:57:05if your heart doesn't feel good,

00:57:08then you should set boundaries for your husband.

00:57:12Yes.

00:57:13You are not here for your husband.

00:57:14You are here for your husband.

00:57:15You are here for your husband.

00:57:16But it is difficult.

00:57:17In a joint family, it is very difficult.

00:57:19Whatever.

00:57:20You should have to keep the husband and wife

00:57:22and the other one.

00:57:23Besides the whole surroundings.

00:57:25You cannot keep everything.

00:57:26You cannot keep everything.

00:57:27You cannot keep everything.

00:57:28You cannot keep everything.

00:57:30You cannot keep everything.

00:57:31Then, after the break,

00:57:32we will see the next break.

00:57:33Good morning Pakistan.

00:57:34Today's game,

00:57:35how will it go?

00:57:36Blame game.

00:57:37We will see what will happen in the next break.

00:57:51Welcome, welcome back.

00:57:52Good morning Pakistan.

00:57:55Blame game.

00:57:56but we don't know how to save them, we don't know how to save them, we don't know how to save them

00:58:04with me today, Asma will discuss how they are in the blame game

00:58:13Yes, Asma

00:58:14I've been married for 7 years and Allah Ta'ala had been married for the first year of my husband

00:58:22but something happened that at that time I was 17 years old and I didn't know how to save my children

00:58:29and my mother was born in the first time

00:58:31so obviously when you get out of that time, you are also weak

00:58:37so when my husband was 4 days, my husband was on duty

00:58:43so I drank my daughter and I didn't know how to save him

00:58:49so I drank my daughter and I drank my blood

00:58:52and it was about the last night, my eyes opened

00:58:56so I saw my child's face and she was running away from her mouth

00:59:02and she was running away from her mouth

00:59:04and it was the time when I didn't understand my husband

00:59:08so I called my breath

00:59:10and I saw her and said that this child has been lost

00:59:13and at that time, I had a feeling of being a child and a blame

00:59:18that it happened because of me

00:59:20so that it happened to me

00:59:22so that it happened to me

00:59:24so that it happened to me

00:59:25so that it happened to me

00:59:26so that it happened to me

00:59:27so that it happened to me

00:59:28so that it happened to me

00:59:29that it was not a problem

00:59:31so that Allah has been asked to me

00:59:34so that it happened to me

00:59:35so that it happened to me

00:59:36that I was a poor child

00:59:37but it happened to me

00:59:38and it happened to me

00:59:39because of the time I had to do it

00:59:40that it happened to me

00:59:41and that it happened to me

00:59:42me

01:00:10when the other people are in pain

01:00:13they just play

01:00:15I have my whole life

01:00:18I have guilt in my children

01:00:21I have my own children

01:00:22I have my own family

01:00:24I have my own mother

01:00:28and I have my own

01:00:29I have my own love

01:00:31I have my own life

01:00:32I have my own life

01:00:33I have never left

01:00:35every thing

01:00:36every time I have

01:00:37I have no fault

01:00:38I have no fault

01:00:39So that thing is again

01:00:41My child is sick, that is my life

01:00:42My husband is not a mistake

01:00:44So that thing is my life

01:00:47My image has become a good image

01:00:49I always have a lot of it

01:00:51I always have a relief

01:00:52I get so much relief from my child

01:00:54But that thing is my husband

01:00:58I didn't have it

01:01:00I didn't 7 years ago

01:01:02I didn't have it

01:01:03I didn't have it

01:01:04You don't have it

01:01:06My husband is a son

01:01:08So, this is the self-blame, because it was a self-blame.

01:01:14It was a self-blame, although it was my fault.

01:01:17Although my mother doesn't want to be a child,

01:01:21who wants to be a child?

01:01:23So, what happens when we are depressed,

01:01:26we think about self-blame, and blame ourselves.

01:01:30So, it's a need for us to remind ourselves

01:01:33that my fault was not.

01:01:35So, this is my fault.

01:01:40You understand?

01:01:41You need to talk a lot about yourself.

01:01:44You need to talk a lot about guilt.

01:01:47That it was not my fault.

01:01:49My children often tell me that

01:01:52that my brother is killed.

01:01:54If it happened, then my brother is also killed.

01:01:57So, children also ask me this question.

01:01:59So, it gives me another surprise.

01:02:01I think that my children also understand me.

01:02:04What?

01:02:05What?

01:02:06What?

01:02:07What?

01:02:08What should I say to my mother?

01:02:09Maybe he say something in their mind?

01:02:10They are.

01:02:11In their minds that my brother had hers,

01:02:13they had gone.

01:02:14That she has also been in the mind of a child.

01:02:17First of all, the doctor says that you have to end your guilt,

01:02:20you will be able to give it to someone to answer anyone.

01:02:24When you are dying,

01:02:25you will be aware of it.

01:02:26In people with a lot of mistakes, they get a lot of mistakes

01:02:29and you don't know what to do

01:02:30because you don't know what to do

01:02:31because you don't know it

01:02:32There was a lot of times when I was just in my school

01:02:34and I was like, I don't know if I was in my school

01:02:36and I was like, I don't know if I was in my school

01:02:38and I didn't know if I was in my school

01:02:40I was like so

01:02:42So it's a little mistake

01:02:44but it was like God Almighty's thing

01:02:46that he had to do it

01:02:47I am trying to think about it

01:02:49but I was very young

01:02:50It was 17 years before

01:02:52I was 18th after marriage

01:02:55This is something that needs to be addressed, that you need to be addressed, that you need to marry small children, and then they will be their children, and they are their own children.

01:03:12If you are married at 16 years old, you will be married at 17 years old, how do you know what to do with children?

01:03:21So I feel like if it's wrong, it's your fault, it's your fault, it's your fault, it's your fault, and it's your fault.

01:03:28And the rest of you, whatever happened, it's very unfortunate, but it happened,

01:03:34just like Nidha said, that Allah has said, that Allah has said to me, that Allah has said to me,

01:03:38it's like it's written.

01:03:40So Nidha, if they tell their daughter, their brother, their daughter, their daughter, their daughter,

01:03:46they start putting this on the child, they will feel different from their daughter, and they will disconnect.

01:03:54Now how do children trust the mother?

01:03:57They will understand the mother from the beginning, that's the sad part.

01:04:01That's the sad part, that you can't give mother's daughter, they will understand the mother's daughter,

01:04:07so this is wrong.

01:04:08Here's the father's responsibility.

01:04:10They need to portray their daughters as well,

01:04:14so that the children are confident about their mother's daughter.

01:04:17In school, the parents идет to their mother's daughter alone.

01:04:39is not going to be a good person.

01:04:41It is a good person to be a good person.

01:04:43So, it's also important that I have to be depressed.

01:04:47I'm so depressed.

01:04:49I'm so grateful.

01:04:51I'm so grateful.

01:04:53I'm so sorry.

01:04:55So, this is why I have a bad person.

01:04:57It is important to say that she is a bad person.

01:04:59If they say that,

01:05:01if they were not,

01:05:03then it's possible that they are wrong.

01:05:05It is not a lie.

01:05:08Let's talk about that.

01:05:14This is a lie that you shouldn't say.

01:05:16Self-talking should be aware of.

01:05:20When you think about it,

01:05:24you have to understand that I am not the one at all.

01:05:27If you understand this,

01:05:28then you understand the world the world.

01:05:30The world be aware of you.

01:05:32Keep telling yourself that I am not a mom,

01:05:34Who wants something to do with my child?

01:05:37And most of the mothers, when they try to do something with their children,

01:05:43they are in depression.

01:05:45They are very extreme depression patients.

01:05:49And postpartum period is also that.

01:05:51They try to take their children's knowledge.

01:05:54And this is the common thing that you have baby blues.

01:05:57Postpartum depression is what they don't know.

01:06:01Why do they happen?

01:06:03So, what do you want to say about Seema?

01:06:10I am a father.

01:06:12So, his father is very big.

01:06:15But with me, I feel very bad.

01:06:22Because I love her.

01:06:26And when I love her, they come a little while.

01:06:30So, I am very sad.

01:06:31So, I am very sad.

01:06:32I am very sad.

01:06:33I am very sad.

01:06:35So, if they come a little while,

01:06:37they say,

01:06:38Dad, give me chocolate.

01:06:39Dad, give me juice.

01:06:40So, I am very sad.

01:06:41I am very sad.

01:06:42So, I am very sad.

01:06:43So, I am very sad.

01:06:44So, I am very sad.

01:06:46So, I am very sad.

01:06:48I am very sad.

01:06:49I am very sad.

01:06:50I am very sad.

01:06:51So, I am very sad.

01:06:53So, I am very sad.

01:06:54I am very sad.

01:06:55to be able to do the same thing.

01:06:57So I will give them a little time.

01:06:59So I will give them a little time.

01:07:01So I will give them a little time.

01:07:03And this is the result.

01:07:05If I have a little time, I will be getting hurt,

01:07:07I will be afraid.

01:07:09I will give them a little time.

01:07:11So the kids are looking at their face.

01:07:13And their dad is confused.

01:07:15I will try to do it again.

01:07:17But I will give them a little time.

01:07:19But my wife also tells me

01:07:21my wife to be with them.

01:07:23What do you give them to their children?

01:07:27Maybe chocolate, maybe cold drink.

01:07:30What's their age?

01:07:31One of them.

01:07:32And one of them.

01:07:34Is there a time to eat?

01:07:36No, no.

01:07:37In the evening, like after 6.30-6.

01:07:40Today, parents are very conscious that they don't want to give their children.

01:07:44They don't want to eat food.

01:07:46Yes, that's what they say.

01:07:48Before I...

01:07:50This is what they talk about.

01:07:52I don't know if they don't know.

01:07:55But I don't know who they are.

01:07:58They are not happy to say.

01:08:00They are not happy to say.

01:08:02They attract the same things.

01:08:04They spend time, they spend time.

01:08:07They spend time, they spend time.

01:08:09But they're not bad.

01:08:11But I don't want to blame them.

01:08:14But my wife is not.

01:08:15But I don't want to blame them.

01:08:17But I'm not saying that I feel that I'm very guilty.

01:08:20I don't understand that the whole village is saying that the children are going to be a whole village.

01:08:25Why do they not make a team?

01:08:26Mother and mother do not make a team.

01:08:29Why do they teach Urdu, I will teach the maths,

01:08:32they are playing, you sit in the hands of the table,

01:08:35so they don't get to get them.

01:08:37I don't understand that the whole team does not make a team.

01:08:39I want to tell you something about this point.

01:08:43My son is 7 months.

01:08:45When I go to Islamabad, my parents are here.

01:08:51We are going to the parents with her.

01:08:54And I also do this and that I will give her this and that I will give her.

01:08:59When we are in Islamabad,

01:09:01she is having a cookie.

01:09:04I have firmly told that the things I am eating,

01:09:09we can eat these things and taste them.

01:09:14Besides that, you will not try anything new.

01:09:17I understand that you have a lot of love.

01:09:20You want to pamper it with it.

01:09:22You want to put it with it.

01:09:24But you are giving it with it.

01:09:26You are giving it with it.

01:09:28You are giving it with it.

01:09:30You are giving it with it.

01:09:32You are giving it with it.

01:09:34What do you want to eat adults?

01:09:36You are giving it with it.

01:09:38At the end of the day,

01:09:40there is one authority that should be there.

01:09:42There is one authority that should be there.

01:09:44Or it should be their mother or father.

01:09:45You are giving it.

01:09:46If parents say that you don't give it,

01:09:49then you don't give it.

01:09:51You should not give it.

01:09:52You need to give it.

01:09:53You should substitute any other thing,

01:09:55for example,

01:09:56which is good or healthy,

01:09:57you can communicate with them.

01:09:59communicate. I think it's a little different. I think that some of the moms are surprised

01:10:04that they don't spend time with the child. No, no, that's very wrong.

01:10:08So, I feel like we are, we think that our parents, our parents, all of us have taken so many

01:10:15of us. Those are beautiful memories. Those who don't have grandparents, I think they

01:10:22miss their lives. So, I feel that this should be there.

01:10:28Look, I have told you that it's very straightforward. We can give awareness.

01:10:37It was also a conflict in our home. My mother-in-law had a cold drink with children and they thought

01:10:43that they should eat everything. But I didn't have to add cold drink to my children.

01:10:48I thought that this is a poison. And now, so many years after this, this is so slow

01:10:54poisoning. So, there is a conflict between the parents and the parents and the parents.

01:10:59They thought that this is a common thing. It's a common thing.

01:11:03It's a lot of people. We are actively talking about these things.

01:11:06We are actively talking about these things. If you live in the joint family system,

01:11:13these things are more important. When you spend time with them, you have all the time

01:11:19that they say to them. But you also need to understand that you can give the love

01:11:24that they can give them. But at the end of the day, you have to respect that boundary

01:11:29that they have set. If she doesn't want that they have soft drink or chocolate

01:11:34or chocolate meat, you don't need to give them. You have healthy alternatives.

01:11:38My mother did this for the lard. Then, I explained my mother. I said,

01:11:42let's change the way of lard. These are tough things. The child's pain is bad.

01:11:48She doesn't want to drink. She doesn't want to drink. She doesn't want to drink.

01:11:50She doesn't want to drink. And all the problems we have to face.

01:11:53So, what did my mother do? She shifted. She had kaju, piste, kishmish, healthy things.

01:11:59She was a trolley. She started to keep those things there.

01:12:03She started to keep those things, that the children come to her.

01:12:05So, it's okay. She will get kishmish.

01:12:07If there are fruits or something, then, I told my mother,

01:12:10one time I felt bad. I told my mother.

01:12:13Not my mother. I felt bad. One time I felt bad.

01:12:15Two times I felt bad.

01:12:16And the third time...

01:12:17Because the mother says, we have grown too.

01:12:19Yes, you are grown too.

01:12:21And the third time they changed the trolley.

01:12:24So, I am happy. I am satisfied.

01:12:26I am satisfied.

01:12:27I am happy.

01:12:29I will feed the children to eat.

01:12:30And they don't eat the dogs.

01:12:32They are full and put them on their feet.

01:12:33You have to be satisfied.

01:12:35In that way, the family systems are saying that...

01:12:38My mother says, we didn't give screens,

01:12:40but he has sent the dad's dad.

01:12:42So, they have not turned on the TV.

01:12:44They have not turned on the TV.

01:12:46The child is used to be there.

01:12:48And then, the child is sitting there.

01:12:49He doesn't give us an awesome screen.

01:12:52So, dad's dad's dad.

01:12:53Because that is their lad.

01:12:55So, there are certain things that you need to do for children's good.

01:13:25So, I feel like this is a kind of thing that you don't feel like you have to take healthy alternatives.

01:13:41So, I feel like this is a kind of thing that you don't feel like you have to take healthy alternatives.

01:13:57So, I feel like this is a kind of thing that you don't feel like you have to take healthy alternatives.

01:14:04So, I feel like this is a kind of thing that you don't feel like you have to take healthy alternatives.

01:14:17Welcome, welcome back. Good morning, Pakistan.

01:14:19Yes, Khawateen's show label is put on me.

01:14:22But I said, man, we are doing this blame game.

01:14:25That we are doing this as a human being.

01:14:27We also need to listen to the story of the human beings.

01:14:30So, we are here with Yasir.

01:14:32What is the blame game that happens in their lives?

01:14:36We ask them.

01:14:37Yes.

01:14:38I work in a government factory.

01:14:41I go to school at 9am.

01:14:43I go to school at 9am.

01:14:45I go to school at 6am.

01:14:47But my manager, because I give my time,

01:14:50I don't give my time to school at 6am.

01:14:52I don't give my time to school at 8am.

01:14:54So, when I leave my home,

01:14:59I get ready to get my job.

01:15:04Because my wife says,

01:15:06I don't give my family to my family.

01:15:08I don't give my family to my family.

01:15:13And my wife and my husband are giving me a lot of advice.

01:15:17So, that's not the way I can get.

01:15:19So, you put some things in part time.

01:15:22Put some stuff in the bag.

01:15:24Put some chips in the bag.

01:15:25Put some stuff in the bag.

01:15:26Put some stuff in the bag.

01:15:27But I should put some income to my family.

01:15:29I should complete my advice.

01:15:31This is a very wrong thing.

01:15:32That's why I have no respect for you.

01:15:35In your relationship, someone has no respect.

01:15:37I have done this once.

01:15:39I have saved my salary half a half of my salary.

01:15:41And my wife took on these two.

01:15:44That's true.

01:15:44Then I told you to make it.

01:15:46You only give them a lot.

01:15:47So, you see,

01:15:48you are working this way for me.

01:15:49I will give them a bit.

01:15:50And you just do it.

01:15:51So, after you left the job,

01:15:52I will make it better than me.

01:15:54And you will work on the other side.

01:15:55Then you will build it better.

01:15:56And then you will have to make it better for me.

01:15:58But your family's contributions are not permitted.

01:16:02I will pay for students for a while.

01:16:03and then you will go home and you will get hurt.

01:16:05Yes, it will get hurt.

01:16:07So, this is that I am tired.

01:16:10I have thought that I will finish this relationship.

01:16:13But I see the children,

01:16:15what is the concern of the children?

01:16:17In a woman and a woman,

01:16:19in a husband and wife?

01:16:21There is a 10-year-old,

01:16:22a 6-year-old,

01:16:23a 4-year-old.

01:16:25So, I am fed up.

01:16:27Because the women are hiding their feelings,

01:16:29and the women are talking to others.

01:16:31So, the women show their eyes.

01:16:34They have no buttons,

01:16:36but they have eyes.

01:16:37They tell their eyes.

01:16:39They tell their eyes.

01:16:40They tell their eyes.

01:16:41They tell their eyes.

01:16:42They tell their eyes.

01:16:43So, I am tired of my wife.

01:16:45But it is difficult to get hurt.

01:16:47I will take my anger.

01:16:49That is very sad.

01:16:51But the truth is that they do work.

01:16:54If they do not do their work,

01:16:56they will be blamed for them.

01:16:57You are sitting at home,

01:16:58you do not do your work.

01:16:59They are working with us.

01:17:00They work with us.

01:17:01If they are acting,

01:17:02they help us,

01:17:03they are working with us.

01:17:04I generally do it.

01:17:05They can make it a lot.

01:17:06There is a lot of work.

01:17:07There are things that we do.

01:17:08If they are acting like this,

01:17:09you will find out.

01:17:10They are breathing things.

01:17:11You may need to get into working.

01:17:12I am working with them.

01:17:13You may need a good clothes.

01:17:15I have a lot.

01:17:16You need to get used for it.

01:17:17There are no fear.

01:17:18So I will say that you can do it if you feel like we don't have a standard that they want to be able to put your hands on it.

01:17:27If you have a home run business, you can start a small business, you can start a small business, online jobs.

01:17:36So if you have to blame it, if you have to put your hands on it, it may be better.

01:17:41Do you buy your money or buy your money?

01:17:46I don't do it.

01:17:51My husband who has paid me for this, often the details of my husband are borrowing.

01:17:56The question is, why don't you do this?

01:18:02If you don't go to 9 am.

01:18:07why do you do it so that you do it?

01:18:10If I am awake at 9am and I will come up with fries,

01:18:14then what will it be for fries?

01:18:16I will be selling him immediately or selling him?

01:18:18And in the morning I am going to...

01:18:21Everybody can do something.

01:18:22Business is made a little bit.

01:18:24Everybody can sing or sing.

01:18:26Everybody can do something.

01:18:28Everybody can do something.

01:18:31I don't know, everybody can do business today.

01:18:34do this, just take a lot of business.

01:18:38No business, no business, no education, everyone can do it.

01:18:43We know that we will practice gratitude and gratitude is so much necessary.

01:18:52You can say that your body is good, you will eat balanced diet, you will go to bed,

01:19:00that you have to be able to complete your sleep.

01:19:02So, that's the same thing.

01:19:04If you have a body of a body,

01:19:06I'm saying that you have a wife for your wife.

01:19:08Every time complain, every time

01:19:10she's a complaint, every time she's a complaint,

01:19:12every time she's a complaint.

01:19:14It's a kind of environment

01:19:16where she's a complaint, she's a complaint.

01:19:18And that's what you said,

01:19:20that you can't get a complaint.

01:19:22Absolutely.

01:19:24They're giving husbands to their own.

01:19:26They need to get a feeling.

01:19:28that's the feeling that they need to be in their own way.

01:19:32Okay, no matter what happens, it will be better.

01:19:34Absolutely.

01:19:35You work, you work, you push yourself,

01:19:37you push yourself,

01:19:38but that's the element of your gratitude.

01:19:41I can explain it, but I can understand it.

01:19:44If someone does a job,

01:19:46then you need therapy, actually.

01:19:49Yes, because you know what is happening,

01:19:51you can see that you can see the first thing

01:19:54that you can't see before.

01:19:56There is a box of thinking, right?

01:19:58When you talk to someone,

01:20:00they tell you that you can see this from another view,

01:20:04from another view.

01:20:06Also, I feel like,

01:20:08if you have a way to do it,

01:20:10maybe if you do it with love,

01:20:12then it will motivate you.

01:20:15Instead of what you are doing,

01:20:18maybe there are some things that are not complete,

01:20:21that they want to complete,

01:20:23but I feel like,

01:20:25the element of respect,

01:20:26it should never be finished.

01:20:28And to be honest,

01:20:29you have to make fries,

01:20:31and sell them.

01:20:33If you think that it is better,

01:20:36then you have to make a team.

01:20:37Home cooking.

01:20:38Home cooking.

01:20:39Home cooking.

01:20:40You do this.

01:20:41I will do this.

01:20:42That's right,

01:20:43but the way you convey your message.

01:20:45The way you convey your message.

01:20:47Absolutely.

01:20:48Our young people,

01:20:49they are not the way to talk to them,

01:20:51and they do it for them.

01:20:53They come from their own.

01:20:54So, they come from their own ways,

01:20:56they come from their own education,

01:20:58they come from their own skills,

01:21:00they come from their own business,

01:21:02and they come from their own business.

01:21:04So, every day,

01:21:06you have not been a single thing.

01:21:08You are mature,

01:21:09and then you get to know that you have to lose yourself.

01:21:15You have internet, you have TV, you have to watch and learn.

01:21:19You can learn so much from social media, how to talk, how to convey things.

01:21:24You can learn a lot if you want to.

01:21:26Today's concept is that love is not important.

01:21:29Respect is important.

01:21:31Please stick around and respect your spouses.

01:21:35Please don't listen to these things.

01:21:37If you are listening to these things, the motivation is completely lost.

01:21:41If you are motivated, then you will work.

01:21:43If you blame them so much, then there will be no motivation.

01:21:47Vice versa, for men also, we have seen the cases.

01:21:51If you are blaming yourself, you don't have any responsibility.

01:21:56How do you expect that you will do everything?

01:21:59That's the same way.

01:22:02I have seen couples like that, if they are not capable of being able to take education,

01:22:10they can take more education or work.

01:22:12So, they take the responsibility of themselves.

01:22:16Their admission, their parent-teacher, meeting.

01:22:18Which is the strength of the couple.

01:22:20Which is the strength of the couple.

01:22:22If they have the strength of their wife's wife's business, then they do it.

01:22:26If the female wife's husband has the number of children, their daughter's number is not good.

01:22:32Their wife's strength is not in the strength.

01:22:34So, you take that backdoor in your hands.

01:22:36Instead of blaming them.

01:22:38My wife's car is a team.

01:22:40If it's a joint family system, it's a team.

01:22:44So, if it's a team, then it's good.

01:22:46Instead of blaming them on one person.

01:22:48All the burden of blaming them.

01:22:50One more special message.

01:22:52Instead of pointing fingers, if you hold hands, life is going to get better.

01:22:58Healing starts from there.

01:23:00If you just hold hands rather than pointing fingers.

01:23:02That's my message.

01:23:04Thank you so much.

01:23:05Thank you so much.

01:23:07So, this was our show today.

01:23:08We hope to see someone's eyes.

01:23:10We hope to see someone's eyes.

01:23:11We hope to see someone's life.

01:23:12If it's better for someone's life, then your duty is complete.

01:23:15Good morning, Pakistan.

01:23:17Goodbye.

Good Morning Pakistan | Blame Game Discussion Based Show | 21st October 2025 | ARY Digital

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