Men, her emotions aren’t an attack — they’re a call for connection. Learn to listen, not to defend. 💭 - video Dailymotion

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Men, learning to stay grounded in the presence of emotions transforms your relationship.  Defensiveness builds walls; understanding builds bridges. Grow into emotional safety, compassion, and love.  #EmotionalHealing #RelationshipWisdom #MenGrowth #HealthyMasculinity #LoveAwakening  All rights and credit reserved to the respective owner(s).

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00:00Men, her emotions are not an attack on you.

00:03So long as you keep seeing it as an attack on you,

00:07you will do some very predictable things.

00:10You'll defend yourself, you'll blame her back,

00:12and then you'll make the whole thing about you.

00:14And then she'll feel completely dropped.

00:16So I think you don't want this, and she doesn't want this.

00:20So the way around this is when she brings her emotions to you,

00:24i.e. pain, sadness, anger, frustration, resentment, hurt, fear,

00:28you listen until she feels understood.

00:32And then if you're in a good partnership with a good woman,

00:34she will, of course, be interested in what your experience is like.

00:38And she'll do the same for you.

00:39The first move here, especially if you hurt her just through your actions,

00:43whatever that was, intentional or not,

00:45you've got to allow her to express herself.

00:48And you've got to learn how to hold her pain and her feelings

00:51in such a way that she feels like you give a shit.

00:54And then you can move on.

00:55It's so much faster.

00:56I can't tell you how many times I've fucked this one up.

00:58Save yourself a lot of headache and heartache

01:00and begin to take all of her emotions as an opportunity

01:05to be with her experience.

01:08She's going to trust you more.

01:09Ultimately, you're going to get more connection and less drama.

01:12And it's going to feel way better to both of you.

Men, her emotions aren’t an attack — they’re a call for connection. Learn to listen, not to defend. 💭

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