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From romance to friendships, there's always room for some good advice. 'Nobody Wants This' stars Kristen Bell, Justine Lupe and Jackie Tohn spin the wheel of situations to share some solid pieces of advice for one another.
Season 2 of Nobody Wants This is available to stream exclusively on Netflix.
Director: Jonathan Tolliver
Director of Photography: Dominik Czaczyk
Editor: Phil Ceconi
Featuring: Kristen Bell; Justine Lupe; Jackie Tohn
Producer: Noel Jean
Line Producer: Jamie Rasmussen
Production Manager: Melissa Heber
Production Coordinators: Rhyan Lark; Jeanne Tirro
Talent Booker: Mica Medoff
Camera Operator: Shay Eberle-Gunst
Gaffer: Brooke Mueller
DIT: Lauren Worona
Sound Mixer: Justin Fox
Production Assistants: Marquis Wooten; Lauren Boucher
Post Production Supervisor: Jess Dunn
Post Production Coordinator: Stella Shortino
Supervising Editor: Rob Lombardi
Assistant Editor: Fynn Lithgow
Senior Director Creative Programming and Development: Natalie Campbell
Associate Director of Programming and Development: Logan Tsugita
Season 2 of Nobody Wants This is available to stream exclusively on Netflix.
Director: Jonathan Tolliver
Director of Photography: Dominik Czaczyk
Editor: Phil Ceconi
Featuring: Kristen Bell; Justine Lupe; Jackie Tohn
Producer: Noel Jean
Line Producer: Jamie Rasmussen
Production Manager: Melissa Heber
Production Coordinators: Rhyan Lark; Jeanne Tirro
Talent Booker: Mica Medoff
Camera Operator: Shay Eberle-Gunst
Gaffer: Brooke Mueller
DIT: Lauren Worona
Sound Mixer: Justin Fox
Production Assistants: Marquis Wooten; Lauren Boucher
Post Production Supervisor: Jess Dunn
Post Production Coordinator: Stella Shortino
Supervising Editor: Rob Lombardi
Assistant Editor: Fynn Lithgow
Senior Director Creative Programming and Development: Natalie Campbell
Associate Director of Programming and Development: Logan Tsugita
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00:00If my partner does something that makes me jealous, what's a good way to let them know
00:03in a constructive way? These feel so pointed. Really? Do you have jealousy stuff with your
00:09husband? Hi, I'm Kristen Bell. We are the cast of Nobody Wants This, and this is Seek Counsel.
00:19Okay. Spin it, Jack.
00:20Family. Okay. Oh, if I want to address my family member's toxic behavior, what would be the best
00:33approach to that? Ooh, with a third party present, baby. With a mediator, baby. Yes. Already feeling
00:41like if you're saying their toxic behavior, it's a little dramatic of a statement coming from your
00:47POV, and they obviously are uprooting something strange, so I think you guys need to be mediated
00:55if it feels like a big problem. Ooh, I really like that. I give it an A plus. A. And then I just have
01:00a quick follow-up question, which is can you be that for me and my toxic family member? Yes.
01:06Thank you. That was good advice. All right. I'm in need of some counsel. Here we go.
01:15Ooh, life. Life.
01:17Justine, I should always travel with my blank if I want to make my life easier.
01:28Oh. What's your best travel hack that we don't know about?
01:32Sunscreen. It's like my number one thing that I bring, because I found out recently that if you
01:37get on a plane, the UV rays are even more strong when you're in the plane, so you want to put sunscreen
01:42on, compression socks. You want to bring a lot of chargers for things, and snacks. Yes. I travel with snacks.
01:50Did you hear the airplane UV thing on, like, this-can't-possibly-be-real.com? That's insane.
01:57No, no, no, no. It's a real thing. It's a real thing. Well, you're closer to the sun.
01:59So you want to put sunscreen on. Even if you're sitting in the middle of the plane, put sunscreen
02:03on when you get on a plane. It's so dark in a plane. This is blowing my mind. I'm going to do it.
02:07Thank you. Me. Okay. Ready? Set? Try me.
02:15Ooh. Ooh. Friendship.
02:17Oh, boy. All right. Here we go. Okay. What is the best advice to give a friend going through
02:26a difficult breakup? Oh, God, what are all the things you've said to me? That is such a hard
02:32one. I think- No, it's not. You know it. Well, I do know it, but I think in normal situations,
02:38this maybe is not great advice, which is like, you're going to feel better. Yeah. Time will heal
02:44this. And I think when I'm really in the depths of things, and I do get a case of the sads,
02:49like if you're like, oh, you're going to feel better, it can be eye-rolly, but I really have
02:53to remember that during breakups because you're in such a specific kind of pain at that time
02:59that you just have to know, like, I'm just not going to feel like this forever. Yeah.
03:05Issues from this relationship, I'm going to trick you. Otherwise, you're going to drag
03:08him into the next one. Right. And this other thing that I've always known is that after a breakup,
03:13I always have to deal with all of the issues that I've had during this relationship that
03:18affected the relationship in negative ways. Otherwise, I'm just going to drag sort of that
03:22bullshit into the next relationship. Yeah. Kristen, did you happen to know that before?
03:26No, I thought it was interesting. It was brilliant, though. Thank you. I love that advice.
03:31Take two. No way, no way.
03:38Life, just what I wanted.
03:40Oh, hell yeah. All right. It's like you wrote this. If I truly want to turn my brain
03:47off after a long day at work, what show would you recommend I watch while decompressing?
03:53Two. I've got two recs. One, The Great British Baking Show. It's incredible. It's cozy. It's
03:58British. They're all so kind to each other. There's good vibes. And the second one would
04:02be All Creatures Great and Small. It's just about a vet in the middle of the countryside.
04:07Also British. I guess there's a recurring theme. They kind of like turn off my brain
04:12and move it into like a default cozy British countryside setting. That's my happy place.
04:17Have you ever heard of All Creatures Great and Small?
04:19No, I don't watch it tonight. Chicken. That's really cute.
04:21I don't watch that today. Are there tiny baby jumping goats?
04:25Oh my God. I never heard of her and I love British television.
04:28It's really cute. Bake Off. I'm into every day.
04:31It's about a traveling vet.
04:32Ooh. Okay. I'm ready.
04:37Friendship?
04:40Jacqueline. Not my problem.
04:43How should a friend provide support if they haven't been through the same life experience?
04:50Ooh, that's a good one.
04:51These are really good ones.
04:52Yeah, these are hard.
04:53Um, I think something I've definitely learned in my later years is listen, listen, listen,
05:00listen. I've been a fixer my whole life. Forget that. You got to do this. That's crazy.
05:05Opinions out the wazoo, which I still have, but sometimes I swallow a little bit more now.
05:10And I think a lot of the time, another thing, God, it's embarrassing saying how many things
05:13you taught me, but I'm going to say this one too. Ask if the person wants a listening ear
05:18or advice. Like, so do you want me to help you fix this or do you want me to just hear
05:22you? And I think whether you've experienced it or not, you can still be a great listener
05:27and a good friend.
05:28Yeah. I like that.
05:30Me too.
05:30And if you want to open up an argument, you got to ask him, do you want to dance?
05:34Oh, do you do that?
05:35Do you want to dance?
05:36Yeah. Do you want to fight with me right now?
05:37If my husband says something ridiculous, I'll go, okay, do you want to dance? Sometimes he'll
05:41be like, no. But mostly he said yes.
05:43Almost exclusively.
05:44Yeah. All right.
05:47Woo!
05:47Woo!
05:48Woo!
05:48Woo!
05:49Let's go!
05:50We need some romance up in here.
05:52Yeah, we do.
05:52You can't just turn it to romance.
05:54Yeah!
05:55Romance!
05:56Romance!
05:57Was it?
06:00Okay.
06:01Okay.
06:01When you're in a serious relationship, what is the best way to merge lives and blend friends
06:06with your partner to see if you two are compatible?
06:09Just do it.
06:10Blending your friends means you have maybe a dinner party where both sides come and you see who
06:15mingles and maybe you decide someone didn't mix well or two people hit it off and you go
06:20out with them again. And merging your lives is really big and small. It's all the things.
06:27Totally.
06:28I don't think there's a trick to that one. I think also the caveat I'll give is remember
06:32when you're merging your lives and blending your friends, you are attempting to remember
06:38that it is not you against the other person. It is you and the other person against the
06:43world. You are now a team. And so your direction has changed a little bit. That's a helpful
06:48thing for me to remember.
06:49Oh, that's such a good one. Good job.
06:52Oh, hey, nice to meet you. I've always been a fan.
06:56Oh, wow.
06:59Big money, big money, big money. Hell yeah.
07:02Oh, yeah.
07:05Kristen Ann.
07:06Okay.
07:07Rose petals.
07:09Okay.
07:10Tantra.
07:11Tantra.
07:12Somebody got a fan on his voice.
07:15Jazz.
07:16Jazz.
07:17Okay. What should I do if my partner's not communicating their needs in the relationship?
07:21I am sorry to have to be so blunt. You say to your partner, I feel like you're not communicating
07:26your needs and then you wait to hear what they say in response. Yeah, it's so true. You've
07:31absolutely said that.
07:32I feel confused. Would you mind spending a little more time clarifying for me? Because
07:38this might be a me problem, but I feel like I don't know your needs and I want to know
07:42your needs.
07:43You're especially good at the like compassion warmth angle instead of like, I think I would
07:49be like, well, you don't explain your need. You don't explain your need. You're not communicating
07:52your needs to me.
07:53And it's like, I don't mean to be combative. I mean to be like, I want to know your needs.
07:58But then I have to turn my brain literally upside down to be like, take a breath. I want
08:03to know your needs. I, maybe this isn't, say like force myself to say, maybe this is
08:09a me thing, even when I know it's not.
08:11But it could be.
08:12I know.
08:13I feel like working, I work everything from the solution backwards. So how do I get the
08:17best result out of this?
08:19Justine and I are really, at least we look nice today.
08:22You're so good at advice, baby.
08:23Yeah, I hear.
08:24I hear.
08:25Yeah, baby.
08:26As a friend, I struggle with being too much of a know-it-all.
08:39What's your advice?
08:40Oh, man.
08:41It's so hard with you, Kristen Annabelle, because your know-it-all-ness comes with such
08:45a level of inherent excitement and glee and delight and Christmas dusting all over the
08:50whole thing.
08:51Like, you're just like a holiday joy that I don't get, I don't get turned off by it.
08:56I gotta tell you.
08:57It never gets annoying.
08:58I don't have a table.
08:59Honestly, you've taught me a lot of things and I don't think you have to worry about
09:02that.
09:03I think that if someone reflects back to you, okay.
09:06I think if someone tells you, hey, like, it bothers me that it feels like you know everything
09:11and it makes me feel small, maybe with that person just take a beat before you just, like,
09:15your impulses to give them all the advice or, like, jump in and tell them what to do
09:20or tell them about the latest biohack that they didn't really want to know about or tell
09:23them about, like, how they need to, like, plug their gut up with Metamucil and apple cider
09:28vinegar before they eat pasta.
09:29Plug the sink.
09:30I think maybe just take a beat before you dive in, but you're a delight.
09:34It's really hard for me because I remember one time, which some of my friends still quote,
09:38I entered a room and this is exactly what I did.
09:42You guys, microgreens.
09:45Yeah, you're sick.
09:46What did you show me today?
09:47The first thing you showed me today when I walked into the room is you held up a tub of
09:51creatine, but I added HBT.
09:53And everyone, of course, knows what HBT is, but for those that don't, Kristen, what is it?
09:57This is before saying hello.
09:59She just pulled out like she was smuggling drugs into the event.
10:02Yeah.
10:03Look, it just helps you retain muscle and protein mass, particularly when you're in a caloric
10:07deficit.
10:08Thanks, guys.
10:09I love you.
10:10Finn.
10:11Wow.
10:12You almost took down the board.
10:14Life.
10:21What's a good exercise or practice when making new life goals?
10:25Oh, in the last few years, I have gotten into the specificity of the intention.
10:32I don't know.
10:33I'm always on the fence about all this stuff.
10:35I like half don't believe it, but then I do it.
10:37I mean, I got to just dive in.
10:38You don't believe in life goals?
10:39Yeah.
10:40I don't believe in life.
10:41I don't believe in like, I'm always like, oh, should I make a manifestation?
10:45Yeah.
10:46Like the the secreting of it all.
10:48But I do think that it's really helpful to have specific goals and just be writing
10:54them down and trying to visualize them when I'm not meditating, but should be.
10:59This question is for me, for me to tell me what to do.
11:02What do you guys think?
11:03I do manifestation lists.
11:05I like, for instance, when I was dating, I wrote down every single quality that I was
11:09interested in in a person that I wanted to be with.
11:12And then I got really specific beyond that list and was like, but do you need that?
11:16Like, what are the necessities?
11:17So like, for instance, if someone's like, I need a guy who's six, four, it's like, well,
11:22do you actually need a guy who's six, four?
11:24Do I need someone who's like funny?
11:25Yeah, I actually really need someone who's funny.
11:28And it's kind of a manifestation list, but it's also a reminder for yourself of what you
11:31really are looking for and what you're drawn to.
11:34And it's kind of a good one to turn to.
11:36And if someone's like kind of not considerate of your time, you could like look back on it
11:40and be like, oh, that is a non-negotiable for me and try.
11:43It is huge.
11:44And for those reasons, I'm so glad you asked me.
11:47All right.
11:49The library is open.
11:55Okay, perfect.
11:58If my partner does something that makes me jealous, what's a good way to let them know in a constructive way?
12:04These feel so pointed.
12:06Really?
12:07Do you have jealousy stuff with your husband?
12:08No, not a lot.
12:10But I have weird relationship trauma from like dating pathological liars and people that you're just like, you super trust,
12:17but they're just staring at your face and holding your hand and just like it.
12:20So it's I think we're really good and we've both grown so much.
12:24I'm triggered if someone turns their phone away when I'm sitting next to them.
12:27Yeah.
12:28And I don't mean to be.
12:29I wish I didn't give a fuck that you just turned your phone away.
12:31But I'm like, well, what was that?
12:32I love you for compassion.
12:33I think that exactly what you just said to me is what I would say to my partner.
12:38So that it's like framing it as like I have this little feeling in my stomach when that happens and I know it has nothing to do with you.
12:44But this is something that I feel and it has to do with me when this happens.
12:48So there's like as much transparency as possible and coming from a place of like the most open, like soft version of yourself.
12:57And then it gives them a chance to like come to you and comfort you.
13:00No, no, no.
13:01It was just this.
13:02It was nothing.
13:03I just was like, yeah, exactly.
13:04Instead of what my go to, which I again have thankfully grown out of, which is like, why'd you turn your phone away?
13:09Like I sort of get sad.
13:11Like I saw it happen.
13:12I don't want to be sad about it.
13:14But instead coming from this like my experience.
13:17And then it also lets them understand like the root of what's in there so that it's something like in the future that they actually have like a reference point for like, okay, this is something that I want to look out for and take care of my partner.
13:28And like make sure that they feel safe.
13:31I love talking to you guys.
13:33I think you're so much fun.
13:34Same.
13:35And you give really good advice.
13:36And I felt safe enough to give bad advice and not know what to say, which is something.
13:40But you also gave good advice.
13:41I was just going to say, you also felt safe enough to kill it and give really good advice.
13:44Yeah.
13:45Super valuable.
13:46I like talking to you guys.
13:47Thanks for having us, Self.
13:48Bye.
13:49I couldn't help myself.
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