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Cake day: June 8th, 2023

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  • Yeah, I feel like a lot of people think of gaslighting as if it were intentional, but when I have encountered gaslighting, it has usually come from people who have a different view of events and are unwilling to accept that their viewpoint isn’t the absolute truth of the situation.

    They will argue from the viewpoint of “the way I remember things is the way things happened”.

    Then when you say that they are gaslighting you, they will say that they are not.

    In their mind, they’re just telling the truth of events as they remember them, no malice intended.








  • In specific context, I am not arguing against or for banning comics.

    I personally am for banning people that are bigoted, and especially when their bigotry is hidden away from their art so that I might find myself enjoying art from an artist that I would personally find detestable.

    What I am arguing against is the specific use of the phrase “All it takes for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing” as a hammer to bludgeon somebody else into accepting a specific viewpoint as the superior one.

    I’ve said it before in other ways and I will say it again that if you give me the choice between being your bitch and being an asshole, I will pick asshole every single time because I value my right to choose above what you claim is an absolute truth.

    It’s quite comical to me that people cannot see that these are two separate conversations, and the separation of the conversation happened long before I waded into it.



  • I think also it’s a consequence of the terrible, up to and including complete lack of sex education that most men receive.

    But also my first girlfriend didn’t even know where it was either and thought it was a myth also, so it’s probably the absence of effective sex education that is the cornerstone of the myth of the clitoris.





  • When my dad was teaching me how to ride a bike, I would make it so far and then fall down.

    I couldn’t figure out how to control the bicycle and myself, and every single little bump in the road, I would lose control of the bike.

    After the third or fourth time my dad picked me up and dusted me off, and he placed a hand on my shoulder and he said, “Look son, you rule the road. Don’t let the road rule you.”

    And I don’t know what magic there is in that phrase, but immediately after hearing that, I could ride a bicycle.

    And it’s not just me. I later on encountered a kid who was learning how to ride a bike, and he kept falling over. And I looked at him and I said, “I’ll tell you what my dad told me. You rule the road. Don’t let the road rule you.”

    A few days later, I saw his little, like, I don’t know, seven-year-old self riding a freaking full-grown adult 10-speed mountain bike and pulling tricks when just three or four days prior he was falling down on a huffy.



  • I agree with the quote, but I take umbrage with it being used in this context.

    There’s nothing to be gained by forcing people to act in ways that they do not wish to act, or to think in ways that they do not wish to think.

    The way you’re using that quote is basically saying, “Agree with me, and think the way I tell you to think, or you’re a bad person”.

    That is evil, and people of good conscience should not agree with you. It is better to allow you to think that they are a bad person rather than to allow you to have control over their morality.



  • You make a good point, like copyright rules were supposed to protect the small people, the artists that actually make the work, but an entire cottage industry has grown up around the idea of copyright to fund businesses to make absurd amounts of money and to punish people for enjoying the art in a way that does not produce the most profit for the copyright owner.

    For instance, I would argue that nintendo fan art and derivatives of things like Mario have done more to enshrine Nintendo as one of the premier game companies in the world than most of their games have themselves, and yet Nintendo is ridiculously litigious over its IP, either suing or threatening to sue dozens if not hundreds of people over making derivative fan art over their love of the IP.

    It’s actually why I’m boycotting Nintendo, not because they’ve done anything to me, but they’ve done things to their superfans that are in my mind so egregious that they are not deserving of money from me.