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Cake day: July 9th, 2023

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  • When I was a kid and we’d come back to the states, during sporting events one side of the family would jokingly lean into an Irish caricature about potatoes (a reason they/we came to the US a few generations prior) so in that spirit…

    Not ME potatoes! They’ll cheer you up! /hands you a bottle of Luksusowa and jig-dances away singing “mash ‘em boil ‘em put ‘em in a stew…” /



  • Wait but… is that actually a thing in Kenya? I only have heard first hand accounts of school systems in a handful of countries in Africa (not Kenya, mostly west side) but consistently I’ve been shocked by either the severity of punishment for basically any form of failure or dishonor or for the prevalence of fear as the administrative motivator-of-choice. (One was just a few months ago I think in c/offmychest where a high schooler was describing their beatings for tardiness, bad grades, and other minor infractions. I think I commented on it.) Maybe they’re for real?

    ETA: a bunch of them were from my calc I and calc III professors who were both from (different) African countries but regaled us with stories of the brutality so we knew how good we had it lol (they were good teachers, just a little unhinged, as some math educators are).


  • My guess was backseat of car. Parent has lab supplies back there, including a few 10-pack boxes of these, which also work as an improvised distraction/toy just like rare earth magnets or monkeys in a barrel. Unfortunately they weren’t checking rear view mirror because work it’s stressful, so kid put quite a few down without their knowledge. They didn’t even notice until day 2 migration to large intestine and rectum. This parent is overworked and under-appreciated and I’m so glad I’m not responsible for children.


  • My impression is that what should be simple (always “genocide no”) gets much more mealy-mouthed (e.g. “I’m totally pro Israel…but maybe let’s rein in the genocide…oh no I don’t mean Israel shouldn’t have the right to defend itself!") precisely when anyone who wishes to do good by getting elected is confronted with the reality that there’s a rampaging nationalist organization sandbagging and bullying candidates, promoting others for policy favors and effectively holding big chunks of the electorate hostage in elections.

    In practice, that means when I see otherwise good candidates use their talking points or be evasive and spineless on the topic of Israel, I’m quicker to think that they might simply have chosen a different battle, than to think they actually believe that there’s nothing wrong.

    More simply, if standing up to the nationalist bully will almost certainly end their career/role/office before they even had a chance to begin, how many do you think will divert from the issues they entered politics for just to be the one to take out the bully? I’m guessing it’s a small number.

    So while I do see it as cowardly on a personal level, and personally I’d prefer to quit politics than to get pushed around and just hold my tongue or say their lines, I also assume that it’s a decision made under duress without further evidence to the contrary.

    In short, calling candidates “pro genocide” and expecting individual candidates to take the bully head-on in any particular race feels unfair to me, or at least misguided since, if we actually want to change this situation, my generation really needs to have some frank chats with their parents about their AIPAC donations.

    What am I missing?

    Edit: typos swype errors missing words




  • Agreed, the trend would be troubling, especially if the explanation is that trans individuals’ political ideologies are shifting right. But there are other explanations we might entertain first.

    For example, it’s not unlikely that the cohort inclined to identify as trans on a questionnaire has become not just larger but more ideologically inclusive via nascent mainstreaming. Meaning the trend could be mostly or entirely explained by recently affirmed gender identities, people who now feel ready/comfortable/safe to identify who didn’t before.

    IIRC mainstreaming of homosexuality saw similar trends; e.g., more openly gay republicans, leading to similar speculation of a rightward shift when it was really just an expected statistical artifact being misinterpreted.




  • Not erasure; it’s cool. At least, it’s not a deliberate act of self-erasure IME.

    Here’s a few of the many reasons bi people sometimes call themselves “gay:”

    1. Simplicity: lots of people lack a mentally distinct category for bi and think of it as a subset of gay, so if you’re bi you learn to sometimes lean into it just to save time.
    2. The bi-cycle: it’s not unusual for bi folk to experience predominantly same-sex attraction for a while. So they might identify more often as gay for that time, especially if they’re in a same sex relationship.
    3. Brand recognition: bi doesn’t have the history that gay does in public discourse. We were usually just called gay. I’ve never heard a pundit talk about “the bi agenda” on daytime television, for example. So gay is sometimes preferred when we’re connecting with that lived experience.

    Hope that helps ;)