CachyOS does the same

It’s a little different for me. I transitioned 9 years ago, and I largely resolved my struggles with dysphoria.

What still gets me a little though is the life I didn’t get to live at a younger age.

And if my transition happened “when it was meant to”, that means that life was never mine even in an ideal world.

So I frame my own journey as having transitioned when I could rather than when I should. I didn’t get all of the opportunities I wish I could have, but I’m absolutely grabbing the opportunities I can now!

For me, saying that I transitioned “when I was meant to” just doesn’t land right, because I know it’s not when I was meant to. Making me wait all that time wasn’t the right thing, it wasn’t what was “meant” to be.

From my perspective, in an ideal world, “yesterday” was the time to transition. But the world isn’t ideal, and it made that impossible, so “today” is what I was able to achieve despite the world trying to get in the way! (though “today” was 9 years ago for me)

Your statement was “first took off”. That’s what I was addressing. It definitely hit critical mass later than that, but the first big explosion was the 90s.

I don’t love this meme.

I prefer some variation of “The best time to do it was yesterday, the second best time to do it is today”

Which is to say, I don’t perceive that my late in life transition happened when it “meant” to. It happened when it could. And I’m so glad it happened at all! But if transphobia hadn’t have gripped the world so hard, it also wouldn’t have been as late as it was.

It’s hard to imagine now, but, when the internet first took off, Twitter was basically the world’s social media.

That came quite a bit after the internet took off! The world wide web too off in the 1990s, and the broader internet (email, ftp, usenet etc) before that

You’ll need to talk to @Cyb3rSh0nker@lemmy.blahaj.zone. I’ve added them as a mod, so it’s up to them as the active mod!

It doesn’t matter to me what words other people to describe themselves

That’s the important part!

What it definitely doesn’t include by definition of the word is people who are totally outside of the binary spectrum.

It does though.

This is a quote from the bisexual manifesto, back from 1990

Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have “two” sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone’s sexuality, including your own.

I completely understand that you may be uncomfortable with the term yourself, and I’m not suggesting that you need to use it. But the term was inclusive of non binary people from before many people using the internet today were even born. You can’t assume that someone using the term is exclusive of non binary folk.

I can genuinely say that I’ve never met a bisexual person who is explicitly only interested in men and women. I mean, I’ve ran across them online, but the people that I’ve actually met and spoken to in person? Not a single one has used the label in an exclusionary way.

And like any term with problematic, out of date origins, there is power in reclaiming it.

All of which is to say, you can’t tell people that an identity they’ve been using in an inclusive way for literally decades is actually exclusive just because you personally aren’t comfortable with it.

For what it’s worth, I feel similar about the term transsexual. It’s a term that in modern usage, has a good chance of meaning that the person labelling themselves that way is a transmedicalist, with exclusionary beliefs about who is and isn’t transgender. I don’t label myself transsexual because of that discomfort with the word. But I also know people who came out as trans decades before I did, who use the label because that was the language at the time they came out. They’re not automatically transmeds themselves, and I don’t get to tell them that they need to redefine their identity for my comfort.

Bisexuality is inclusive of non binary folk. The name predates widespread awareness of gender experiences outside the binary, but the even back nearly 40 years ago, the bisexual manifesto was quite clear that bisexuality includes folk whose gender falls outside the binary.

That doesn’t mean you need to use the label for yourself, but it’s important to recognise that the label itself isn’t inherently exclusive

I just call myself queer.

Physically, I’m attracted to men more than I’m attracted to women. But romantically, I can be attracted to anyone that labels themselves queer.

Which means I mostly end up dating queer women. I don’t feel that bi or gay sum up my experience. So I just call myself queer

I don’t think enough people realize that this is catastrophically bad. It’ll discourage people from becoming open source developers, it’ll discourage people from using Linux, and it’ll discourage legislators from taking the Linux community seriously.

Sure, but personally, I don’t want a linux community that’s driven by corporate needs and governments that have been paid off by them. I don’t view it as a catastrophe, if that’s the version of “the linux community” that we lose.

None of that is to say that harassing devs is correct. It’s not, and never is. Harassing anyone with death threats and dogpiling is not on. But if we take that out of the picture, negative pushback that drives away devs that would otherwise have helped implement universal age gating isn’t something I’m terribly upset over, because I don’t want the version of community they’re taking us towards

Yeah, decentralisation has a lot of downsides. It’s definitely a barrier to entry for new folk. But at the same time, it has the single most important killer feature available, and that is that it’s can’t be controlled by a single profit driven corporation.

We’ve got instance level disabling of downvotes on lemmy and piefed.

Decentralisation.

I will never use any other kind of social media again.

I can’t produce testosterone anymore, and I’ve got a few years worth of injections spare. After that runs out, I guess it’s menopause time…

You have to be a permanent resident first, and Australia is really stingy about giving out permanent residency. Basically, you need to have the right skills, the right amount of money, or the right family member.

If you don’t have them, paperwork won’t help

Assuming I knew that my behaviour was being modelled and this model would influence the outcome, I’d remove myself from the decision making process and flip a coin.