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  • I wouldn’t want to assume what assumptions black people in the US make when code switching.

    I… don’t even know what to say to this. I’m just gonna roll past this one.

    the basis upon which the argument was being made was fallacious,

    It isn’t. It’s not a fallacy. Nor is it wrong.

    I’m not picking on you because you disagree with the core intent of the person you responded to, I’m picking on you because you’re doing—I hope unintentionally—the reverse-racism bit. You are placating people who are abusing our cultural sympathy for bigotries to avoid acknowledging something that makes them uncomfortable.

    I promise you, there were a lot of white people in 1960s US that would whine about how all this discussion of segregated schools and drinking fountains was just to make white people feel bad. They still do it today! Ron Desantis in Florida, schools there are not allowed to keep books on slavery. Why? Because those books are “racist.” To whom? Allegedly, white people. Men, as a category, do the same thing about rape.

    You cannot talk about slavery in the US without talking about white people. You cannot talk about white people without making generalizations. Racism works through generalizations. The same is true for men and sexism. You cannot talk about rape culture without talking about men. There is no logical contradiction here; they’re intrinsically linked to the subject.

    the lack of justice many women face in this regard and therefore having to choose to safeguard themselves

    Safeguard themselves from what? I’m issuing this as a challenge to you: what do they have to be afraid of? Like, in a sentence, how do you explain it?

    should be framed around the insidious nature of patriarchal hegemony

    I want to disagree with you because you’re doing nerd shit, which is, generally speaking, really unapproachable for people. But I don’t even know what framing you’re suggesting, so I’m willing to hear it.

    I get the impression you benefit from extra clarity, so to that end: I know what patriarchal hegemony is, I don’t understand the framing. If your explanation amounts to replacing the word ‘men’ with ‘patriarchy’, I’m going to be a little bit upset.


  • (making accusations of a group not reflecting the individuals of said group)

    Okay, I’ll try asking this again: What assumptions do you think black people make of white people when they code switch? Are these assumptions correct?


    I don’t think I’m going to get anywhere with this person, so, onlookers:

    You cannot use racism as a defense of your hurt feelings that women would choose the bear because your class is not being meaningfully harmed by what’s being said. You are not slaves. You are not being forced to build a railroad. No one is holding you in a camp. You are not being refused at the grocery store.

    People who do not want to be lynched do in fact make generalizations about other groups (*ahem*, white people) as a means of keeping themselves safe. It is simple risk aversion. You have learned the wrong lessons about what racism is and why it’s bad.


  • Okay, one, I am a different person. Two, it’s not a logical fallacy. Logical fallacies have names.

    I thought about asking if you knew what code switching was, and I really should have. You don’t seem to understand why I brought that up.

    There are lots of black people in the US who will talk to white people in a different way than they will talk to their friends and family. It’s usually more polite, more cordial, more deferential, and much, much less “crass”.

    Now, think about this for a second: why would a black person in the US want to be seen as polite in front of white people? What assumptions do you think they’re making?



  • Not to mention, the meaning to Celeste in question is nearly identical to both Getting Over It and Dark Souls. All of these games are about, mechanically, I’m not even talking about their narratives, overcoming something difficult. But, only one of them is the author unable to understand.

    Since I’m here anyway, it really bothered me that the author claims that Space Invaders has meaning because it has highscores, but never explains what that meaning is. I know what it is, of course, but if I’m being real, I don’t think the author does. Look at this quote about Space Invaders:

    Even if you’re just playing against yourself, there is a tension of getting farther, doing better, honing your craft and seeing it reflected in concrete terms.

    How does this not apply to almost all video games? How does this not apply to Celeste?

    This article is not about anything, it is a diary where the author is trying to figure out in real time when it was they lost the spark.


  • That part was fine, that’s not what I’m talking about; you’re just rejecting the other person’s claims.

    It’s this part: “Polyamory can be difficult to do”, sure, but “polyamory is difficult to do ethically” is much harder to defend because it puts you in an anti-polyamory position. Now you’re talking about whether it’s morally justifiable instead of, simply, the reasons why it’s so uncommon.

    If you look at IAmNorReal’s next reply, it reads as if they’re defending polyamory generally, and that’s because they are. There’s no reason to talk about how friendships can be complicated too unless they’re trying to defend the concept of polyamory in its entirety. In other words, the two of you end up walking away from the initial conversation and into an entirely different one.

    Anyway, I’m sorry for interjecting. I promise I’m not trying to bully you or lecture. I gotta go make dinner.










  • It’s like when people need the threat of eternal damnation in order to not be a complete piece of shit.

    Outside of the obvious religious propaganda, this is just an external motivation. It could just as easily be somebody’s family: an ailing mother for whom they need to be ready to take care of, or a spouse and children for whom throwing their life away would be tragic.

    I could say the reason I’m a humanitarian now is because I have a firm belief in happiness. If I lost that today, I probably wouldn’t change, but if I never had it, I have no idea if I ever would have gotten here.

    If someone is in a bad place now and does not have an external motivation, I’m not saying it should be this or that, but it would make sense to give them one.

    I mean, I do think AA is being coercive. I would prefer that they helped their… patients(?) find a motivation that was already meaningful to them instead of just imposing Christianity onto them. I have a lot of other problems with religion besides.


  • I don’t know who told you that, but pussy is absolutely not zero calories.

    This is something that will bite you in the ass once you turn 40, and believe me, you’ll be wishing you’d had some sense when you were younger. I nearly ruined my life over it, but the diet I’ve been on since 2050 has probably saved it—the results do speak for themselves. I will admit to some non-alcoholic kinds being okay. Even so, always remember your guiding principles: Pussy is the enemy of the gym, bro. Avoid it at all costs.