Ek-Hou-Van-Braai, ek-hou-van-braai@piefed.social

Thanks I really hope to find someone too, dating sucks 😅

Most of my dates are from Breeze and Hinge, I put in good amount of effort the last ~8 months to get good pictures.

And had some of my girl-friends curate my profile and pick pictures and prompts that they think girls would like to see.

Us guys are often clueless with these things, and what I used to think are bad pictures turned out to actually work the best.

I also don’t chit chat, once I match with someone, I have some playful banter, ~6 messages back and forth, and then I arrange to grab drinks.

I also meet some people IRL, by having friends introduce us or organizing a get together in a park or something, but those take more effort and don’t happen as frequently.

Ah that’s the best tip I’ve seen here thanks, allow them the choice to lead it more spicy or not.

If they’re comfortable with more spicy they might pick that route

Yea sure of course I won’t just start off spicy, but transitioning into spicy is what I’m not yet sure how to do

I specifically made this post because I’m keen to experiment with more risky topics, if it doesn’t work then I’ll adjust or go back to more tame things.

I’m fine not playing it safe, if that puts some people off, that’s fine, I’ve had dates like that in the past and they were great, so want to recreate that.

I obviously don’t want to do this “an awkward foray into “so you ever done coke?”” this whole post is about finding a way to bring up topics you wouldn’t talk about at work, but in a natural or not awkward way. Dates of mine have done this, so it’s possible, and I’d like to figure out how

“You have such a nice face"
(Response doesn’t matter)
“I’d love to wear it”

Certainly will be a conversation to remember

I already do that, but that’s not spicy. I’d have those same conversations with a colleague at work

Same, I already do that, but that’s not spicy. I’d have those same conversations with a colleague at work

Gatekeeping, nice.

It’s not a problem on PieFed, it’s mostly been delt with

Reddit already requires it in the UK, afik.

But it’s mostly speculation form my side.

That is probably true, I do wish for a future where people can migrate to say https://www.eurosky.tech and alternatives, while benefiting from having so many users already

I’d also like this, but I feel you’ll get pushback against this on the Fediverse

Perhaps it’s a feature instance’s can set as default or not themselves

No, that’s why I said it’s technically decentralized.

They have 40 million users though, they focused on UX first, and will now hopefully not be dicks and actually become decentralized

I think we should just hide all of that complexity and just set defaults for everything that the user can decide to change if they want. You don’t have to understand how the Fediverse works to be able to use it. Most people don’t understand how email works, they just use it.

BlueSky has 40+ million users, and it’s also technically decentralized like the Fediverse.

aka. you can use the eurosky.social or bluesky.social server etc.

I hate being left wing sometimes https://www.youtube.com/shorts/vHfbUIQeW_A

You can try without having step 1 in place, but you might get picked up by reddit’s filters.

If you have a brand new account you often can’t post in most subs or will get flagged for Advertising etc.

Only visible if someone makes a comment in a sub that you mod.