How to stop a parent from jumping into the nearest religious rabbit-hole to cope with a divorce?

15 days ago

Manjaro on main, Debian on server, AntiX for low-spec and Devuan for experimenting with making stuff work without systemd. The only reason it isn’t all Debian sid is just because I have to game sometimes

edit-2 15 days ago

I can tell they want emotional support through all this and usually that’s really easy to help them through because all I need to do is sit and listen to them go through the grief while giving input if they ask and stuff but when they suddenly lurch into the Repent Session it’s like a completely different conversation is happening.

Any interaction, real-life or social media could trigger it. Like if they see a testimony of someone’s divorce story on tiktok, or if they got bad service at a restaurant, and especially when dealing with the legal process and settlement. And most of all when the televangelists are on TV or social media.

[Edit: There was an anecdote here but I feel like that might be over sharing, removed it]

15 days ago

It’s the 2nd one, I’m not trying to take away her source of spiritual relief or anything - but to make it really simple, it’s no longer “I love God and live by his teachings” but unprompted “You’ll burn in hell for not loving God, you believe in nothing and God will make you pay” kind of lectures for like 2 hours. Surely that’s cause for concern considering I have to talk to her everyday?

15 days ago

“Is there a power dynamic with your parent where they can still affect your quality of life?” In short, yes - enough that the guilt is already there. I’m not trying to change their religious beliefs or anything, but they’ve never reached the “you’ll burn in hell for [insert anything here really]” stage before. That’s supposed to be like a red flag right?

15 days ago

I’ll look into this, thanks!

15 days ago

I’d gladly take them to church if that was all it was. But aside from wanting me to attend they bring the sermon into every conversation to the point where we can barely talk anymore. I’ve suggested seeking support even at the church if they don’t want a therapist, but they’d rather just lecture about the sinfulness of watching TV or how they regret not forcing me to attend church every week. I thought religion is a personal relationship with the deity in question? Why drag in people who don’t want to be involved in it?

15 days ago

Tried that, they don’t like therapists because they don’t think any therapist could ever “understand them like God can”

edit-2 15 days ago

How to stop a parent from jumping into the nearest religious rabbit-hole to cope with a divorce?

22 days ago

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