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damn, does it really make that much of a difference? how does it feel now with the machine?

my doctor and i suspect i have sleep apnea. I’ll lose up to like 2 hours of sleep per night from micro-awakenings (so out of 8 hours “slept” ill get only 6 hours of actual sleep), but ive been putting off a proper sleep study for a few months now. ive been starting to wonder how it feels to actually be rested for once

yes, of course. no exceptions. kind of disgusted by all the people in the comments admitting they don’t??? also your roommate reminds me of a roommate i used to have whom i despised and one of the reasons for that being her horrible hygiene. she admitted to pissing in our single private shower, which was shared amongst us (i had 2 roommates, so the 3 of us), and then after that called me germophobic for suggesting the idea that a shower/tub needs to be cleaned weekly??? also kept leaving piss in the toilet and never took out the trash. dont even get me started

“wow that’s a unique name where’d it come from?” me: “oh haha idrk it doesn’t really have any meaning” reality: it was extracted from a keysmash on discord.

bro i love trader joes cereal so much its so good

i havent had it uninstall an app but google has been blocking me from updating apps in Obtainium (using Shizuku) DESPITE having play protect disabled. im able to bypass it but the fact that it even blocks it in the first place unwarranted pisses me off

coffee shop drinks

i try to make my own at home but i buy individual drinks for anything that’s too expensive in “bulk” like good quality matcha or certain flavours.

i feel so spoiled walking around drinking my one-a-month iced pistacho white chocolate matcha latte with oat milk </3

because politics literally affect every aspect of life? i mean i know it can be tiring and it’s really depressing, i know on mastodon you can filter out posts but idk about lemmy/piefed, but politics will always be talked about and trying to avoid it entirely or saying “i dont do politics” is just ignorance

dude im struggling with this exact same thing T_T ace has such a “strict” definition that i technically don’t fit into but the label has always felt right to me and i relate a lot to the asexual experience. but yeah what everyone else is sayin— you’re still valid and you can consider yourself whatever you want. also, labels are tools, so if they aren’t helping and are rather causing distress, then dont even worry about all that :)) (easier said than done, i know)

Ooh okay… well that’s annoying lol, especially since I’m not the one in charge of the carrier plan (we switched carriers shortly after I switched phones). Thanks for the example and article link :)

Well I already fight with my computer constantly having switched to Linux lmao so it’s nothing new. But RCS is the one thing I’m worried about since my phone SIM is fucked up and SMS doesn’t work at all so I have to resort to Google Messages to text at all. I wonder if it’s to do with it being a virtual SIM? Or my phone being unlocked and not from the carrier? idk

I’m on a Z Flip 😅 so nah you’re not the only one on stock Android. I want to grab a Pixel and switch to GrapheneOS, but I’ll have to wait until I can afford a new phone and when this one bites the dust since I only got it about a year ago. I unfortunately only found out about Android ROMs and got into cybersecurity shortly after I bought it

okay so first off, there is a lot more to sex than just genitals, and whether they’re “real” is very subjective. for instance, I’m a trans man and I have “real” male secondary sex characteristics, including facial hair and a deep voice. trans women who start feminizing hrt will develop breasts, which is a female secondary sex characteristic. there’s nothing “fake” about it— the hair on my face is my own hair, made by my body, and my voice is my own voice, just deeper…

i also want to note that you aren’t transphobic for not wanting to date a trans man lol. it’s completely fine to have sexual preferences, but i would say i wouldn’t really go around and call the dicks of trans guys “artificial.” there are many ways trans people go about affirming surgery (and some don’t even get surgery!) and you can’t really “tell” what’s real or whatever by just looking at them. like feminizing bottom surgery looks really really good from what I’ve seen, and i bet you wouldn’t be able to tell it’s “artificial.” but yeah on masculinizing hrt you grow a sort of mini-dick, from your own flesh and blood. nothing artificial about that!

now on to the main question, i would guess that trans people just have a more nuanced understanding of gender. gender and sex are related, but not the same, and by being trans youre inherently breaking society’s established norms of gender which kind of forces you to reevaluate how you view gender. what defines a man or woman is pretty much up to the individual. its a social construct, its inherently subjective, there is no set definition. so yeah, it does feel validating to conform to gender norms as a trans person just bevause that’s what everyone else says and believes, but it’s especially important that we (and everyone, trans or not, for that matter) are able to come to terms with our gender identity and understand what we truly want for ourselves, whether that be hrt or surgery or maybe neither of those.

i dont have a straight answer for you and i wrote this off the top of my head but i hope its somewhat comprehensible and doesn’t come off as hostile in any way 😅

i try my best not to and limit supporting them as much as possible. obviously you can’t cut out every single thing unfortunately because capitalism loves exploitation, but i try to redirect my efforts elsewhere. for example, if i like the music of an immoral artist, I’ll download the music instead of streaming it, refrain from buying merchandise, stuff like that. my money and time can be going towards someone else who actually deserves it.

i explain it like this: i dont buy from Starbucks because it’s not a good company (setting their bad coffee aside). does the lack of profit from just me affect them? probably not much. but that $7 or whatever i spend on a latte could make a huge difference to my local coffee shop. that one view, one stream, one social media post, could go towards someone else

i also don’t think it’s possible to “separate art from artist.” part of what makes art, art, is who made it. who were they? what environment was the art made in? what perspective is the subject being depicted from? the artist is ingrained in each of their creations. songs i used to like, i can no longer listen to after discovering things the artist had done. its just not the same

i fucking hate this country and all the brain dead nazis running it i just want to live with my partner and see them more than once a year, immigrants arent fucking aliens theyre people THEYRE JUST PEOPLE

Similarly to what the other comments say, I think this is something that is undeserving of guilt or shame, and is rather caused by the demonization of the human body by Western society. This seems different than the stereotype about cishet guys being (as you put it) “breast-obsessed.” I think the disturbing aspect with that is that guys will minimize women down to solely their body and how it serves them, having no regard for the character or desires of the person. It doesn’t seem like that’s what you’re doing here at all— rather, having an appreciation for this specific aspect of being human, yknow? Your “obsession” doesn’t seem to stem from anything malicious, nor does it seem to harm anyone, so… keep doing you!

Yeah, I was actually thinking about this the other day, it’s so strange. There is no objectivity in physics and every perspective is equally true, so Betelgeuse is both alive to us on Earth, but also could be already dead to some other life closer to it. It’s like trying to imagine a 4th (or 5th, depending on how you look at it) dimension, I just can’t wrap my head around it

Betelgeuse my beloved <3 <3 i hope i live to see the day you explode

omg i remember this feeling, youve got this!! good luck!!! remember that for every possible negative outcome, there’s a positive one too :)

I’m an American. There definitely are some people who call their parents by their first names, but I have never done so (in a serious manner). I used to have a friend who would call her adopted mother by her first name, but that’s the only time I’ve ever witnessed it personally. If someone were to refer to their parents by first name, I would assume they’re very distant.

Even though I’ve had complicated relationships with both my parents (as they were both abusive), I would never consider calling them by first name. I did so once in a joking manner with my dad many years ago, and his response scared me into never doing that again, lmao. It’s strictly “Mom” and “Dad” for them, even if I were to go no-contact in the future

It’s different with other family members, though. I similarly call my grandparents “Grandma” or “Grandpa,” but I’ll say “Grandma [First Name]” for example if I need to clarify whether it’s my maternal or paternal grandparent. I’ve only ever called aunts and uncles by their first names, but I’ll also clarify with “Aunt [First Name]” if the person I’m talking to isn’t familiar with them by name.

There’s definitely some level of respect expected to those of older generations, especially when blood-related, but I’m really against the whole idea. I despise the entire maternal side of my family; like, if I don’t like them, then I don’t like them. I’m not gonna put up with someone who’s a dick just because we’re “related.”

omg my gf sent me this pic yesterday :D