Literally did it on impulse without even thinking about it so I wouldn't chicken out, so I blurted it out.

I said "I'm bisexual. I like both men and women. No more anti-gay stuff from you, ok?".

He said, "oh go away, you don't know what you like". I think he'll understand eventually, he needs time to think.

EDIT: Showed him this thread.

I said: "Look, this is what I said to you, these are my online friends who are happy for me that I came out as bisexual."

He said: "Oh you don't know what you're talking about, you've never had sex with a man or a woman before, until then you'll never know."

And yeah, I am still holding on to my v-card at 26. I was insecure about that years ago in high school, but I'm honestly glad I've waited to mature first.

  • Awoo [she/her]
    ·
    1 year ago

    He said: "Oh you don't know what you're talking about, you've never had sex with a man or a woman before, until then you'll never know."

    Ask your dad if he's had sex with a man to determine whether he is straight or not.

    • cosecantphi [he/him, they/them]
      hexagon
      ·
      1 year ago

      That's what I did, but he changed the subject. He'll think about it and understand it eventually, he's a boomer with all the associated brainrot so I guess he needs it to be personal before he develops enough empathy to understand.

      • Awoo [she/her]
        ·
        1 year ago

        I hope so comrade. Wish you the best of luck with that.

    • Hexboare
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      11 months ago

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    • MaoTheLawn [any, any]
      ·
      1 year ago

      literally witnessed this happen multiple times

      some people are curious

      then they try it and realise their attraction doesn't go that far

  • Nakoichi [they/them]Banned
    ·
    1 year ago

    Honestly that is pretty funny. It sucks but I could not help but chuckle. Hopefully he comes around.

    Better than my brother doubling down on transphobia because he "has trans friends who are totally cool with slurs" like bro I assure you they are not.

  • Red_Sunshine_Over_Florida [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    I'm happy that you were able to say it. I hope he understands better I the future. I always think about how fortunate bi guys like us are to live in a time and place where we are free to be our true selves. hexbear-bi

  • sempersigh [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    just came out as dad to my bisexual partner

    edit; not that i'm not also bisexual ofc let me be clear

    • cosecantphi [he/him, they/them]
      hexagon
      ·
      1 year ago

      Damn, congratulations!!!

      (i can interpret this comment in one of two ways: telling your partner you have a kid, or you found out your partner is pregnant)

      But, uh, congrats either way!

      • sempersigh [he/him]
        ·
        1 year ago

        Actually I don’t have any human children I just meant dad as in im giving off those vibes or something now

        I do have a son though here he is

        Show

  • Infamousblt [any]
    ·
    1 year ago

    lets-fucking-go Proud of you comrade, that's awesome and so difficult. I'm sorry he didn't accept it right away. Hopefully he comes around sicko-queer

    • cosecantphi [he/him, they/them]
      hexagon
      ·
      1 year ago

      Yeah, gonna come out to my mom when she gets home from work later, but I already know she's ok with this, she's had the "it's ok to be gay" conversation with me before.

      • GalaxyBrain [they/them]
        ·
        1 year ago

        If you've had that conversation, she probably thinks you're gay...so bi may be easier news to swallow.

        Sorry your dad was kind of a dick about it but like...at least he was only kind of a dick about it?

        • cosecantphi [he/him, they/them]
          hexagon
          ·
          1 year ago

          Yeah, I know he loves me unconditionally. He's always been way more supportive of me about my drug addiction problems in the past than my mother was, so you win some you lose some.

          • GalaxyBrain [they/them]
            ·
            1 year ago

            I'm making some leaps here but it sounded like he was using the virginity thing to just avoid the issue and also kinda make a dig at you. I don't know you or your dad tho. However based on what he said, if he's never fucked any dudes how does he know he isn't bi? And if they're not gonna be a problem about it and you are interested in getting laid, it should be overwhelmingly easy if.you can seek out other guys openly.

            • cosecantphi [he/him, they/them]
              hexagon
              ·
              1 year ago

              It kinda was a dig at me, but I think he just doesn't want to think about me being with a man, it probably grosses him out, so he's denying it.

              Not really interested in casual sex btw, waiting to fall in love first.

              • GalaxyBrain [they/them]
                ·
                1 year ago

                Fair enough. Just figured I'd point out it's basically no effort in case you were.

                Anyway, glad it went well enough, does seem like a once the info settles you're probably fine kinda situation. Still a shitty reaction, there's no need to respond to something like that with an underhanded insult, but such is the way of Dads.

                • cosecantphi [he/him, they/them]
                  hexagon
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                  edit-2
                  1 year ago

                  Maybe this is too personal, but I just so happen to be sort of falling in love with a woman right now, and that kind of makes me sad because if that goes well my dad is probably just gonna keep denying I'm bi until he dies of old age.

  • SchillMenaker [he/him]
    ·
    1 year ago

    Or, in the greatest dad-twist of all, he adds anti-straight stuff to his repertoire too. You can never escape.

      • crime [she/her, any]
        ·
        1 year ago

        My dad is this type of guy, can confirm that it's not a new type

        • GalaxyBrain [they/them]
          ·
          1 year ago

          In retrospect I suppose that isn't so uncommon. That's just a dad who's lost interest in sex and had a daughter Guy

          • crime [she/her, any]
            ·
            1 year ago

            yeah in his case I think it's mainly ex-catholic + undiagnosed autism, but surely there are a lot of combos that add up to this type of guy

            • GalaxyBrain [they/them]
              ·
              1 year ago

              I was going for identifies as Ace and 'dammit if you live under my roof so are you!' Kinda thing. But there is a wide variety of clades in the Dad phylla that fit the description although usually though strange means.

              • crime [she/her, any]
                ·
                1 year ago

                smh when are we getting more funding into evolutionary Padrology so we can further study convergent branches of the Dad taxonomy

                • GalaxyBrain [they/them]
                  ·
                  1 year ago

                  New art project unlocked! I'm gonna get a big giant piece of Bristol board and chart the Dad biological tree. This is already one of those too many ideas that I need to narrow down things

  • JustSo [she/her, any]M
    ·
    1 year ago

    Yo that's big of you and cool. My dad was kind of a dingus about my transness but he's super supportive and loving now, just took time. He's a total boomer too. They're just a bit calcified in the brain I think.