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Cake day: January 2nd, 2023

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  • Expressing transphobia is not welcome on lemmy. You only have to look at the amount of upvotes “subtle” transphobia and “just asking questions” transphobia still gets to realise that there are still lots of transphobes around that have just learned to keep it close to their chest. They still express it through votes though











  • What’s interesting about this, is you post it as if it’s a question, and despite getting an almost universal “Fuck no” as the answer to the question, you’re just arguing that we should do it.

    If you want to do it, do it. But stop looking for validation for it. You’re asking for approval to celebrate and recognise someone who actively targets and harms trans people. You’re not going to get that approval. So either take that as the answer, or stop pretending it was ever a question.



  • It’s a little different for me. I transitioned 9 years ago, and I largely resolved my struggles with dysphoria.

    What still gets me a little though is the life I didn’t get to live at a younger age.

    And if my transition happened “when it was meant to”, that means that life was never mine even in an ideal world.

    So I frame my own journey as having transitioned when I could rather than when I should. I didn’t get all of the opportunities I wish I could have, but I’m absolutely grabbing the opportunities I can now!



  • For me, saying that I transitioned “when I was meant to” just doesn’t land right, because I know it’s not when I was meant to. Making me wait all that time wasn’t the right thing, it wasn’t what was “meant” to be.

    From my perspective, in an ideal world, “yesterday” was the time to transition. But the world isn’t ideal, and it made that impossible, so “today” is what I was able to achieve despite the world trying to get in the way! (though “today” was 9 years ago for me)



  • I don’t love this meme.

    I prefer some variation of “The best time to do it was yesterday, the second best time to do it is today”

    Which is to say, I don’t perceive that my late in life transition happened when it “meant” to. It happened when it could. And I’m so glad it happened at all! But if transphobia hadn’t have gripped the world so hard, it also wouldn’t have been as late as it was.