Congrats! I am happy for you, I could never because I am squeamish ^^ I already shiver when I think about poking the earlobe…

Asylum means that you get refugee status, you do not have to be in a refugee home. It would however prevent the authorities from sending you back at any point. Because you are protected.

I am just trying to help you…

I am so sorry, I hope you find a way. I would not stay in Russia I don’t think things are going to improve any time soon.

You had two avenues to leave 1. Apply for asylum in Germany or other European Union members.

I would not take Hungary or Poland at this time possibly others from the Balkan I am not too informed there. But Germany and the Baltic states are good. You could get asylum because you are trans and Russia is a threat to you. This path is difficult, and requires a lot of paperwork.

The less elegant version is you apply for a travel visa, take a few day vacation in the country and just don’t leave and claim refugee status. Nod advised because of the unknowns but it may work for you because you are trans.

2. Visa route Easier might be to apply for university or jobs (doesn’t matter what) in Germany, France, Spain or Baltic Countries. Once you have the visa for working or Study you can migrate over. Then you apply for a permit to stay.

In both cases in these countries should HRT be offered to you as basic health care need. You might have to pay for it you might not. But it should be possible to get it. It is difficult to give blanket advise and if you were to ask for a specific EU country it would be easier.

So overall I’d say Germany, Spain, Baltics are your best options.

Gender dysphoria :3

Ah that makes sense, thank you. We have a good store in town but I am not quite ready yet to talk with people in the outside world. Will give it a second or more to dwell on it :D

What is Sephora? I find an online shop for makeup with that name but could not see the tool on my quick check. I have definitely a closer look and more thorough search later.

The more I read about makeup the more convinced I am that you need a diploma to tell all these things apart :X

Yea I am also hoping to get that deal of approval, but the more time I spent here, the more I open up and talk about it the more confidence I get that I am indeed trans.

I am happy that you have a therapist with whom you work well together!

Thanks, I will get back to you once I hade my first hand on experience. Any tips on how to judge what is a good fit and what is not? Because ATM whenever I see myself I am not exactly happy with the face and I worry it will transfer over to when I try make up for the first time, as in that I will be hypercritical or not a good / reliable judge of what I see.

This is amazing thank you!!! You make it sound soo easy, hopefully I’ll be good at some point.

But this is sooo exciting already I shall try it as soon as I worked up some courage to buy supplies and all that :3

I hope you get one that’s great for you too! I was really fortunate to hit a therapist that works so well with and for me right of the bat, without hassle. I heard a few too many stories of ppl. Having to swap their therapist a couple of times before they found the right one and at least so far I think she has been amazing!

Edit: also I am happy to hear you like the coat! Hopefully it fits me well :)

Thanks, that is a great basis for me to start looking into it! Much appreciated.

Thanks! Yes I was very tempted to buy the purple one as well but my financially more responsible wife told me to choose one… I apologise that I may have fed your addiction so I strongly recommend do not click on other products on the side or you will be left wanting for more. I still have about 40 items on my wishlist there :X

The session was great, we made good progress but it is really hard to do each topic justice in just 45 min at a time. There is such sooooo much I want and need to talk about. Kinda wants me to have a second and third therapist :D distribution of labour so to speak.

Thanks, I have a look then at foundations and concealers.

What is the difference between the two? Do I only use one or both together?

I know! I am mad in love with it! I might just torch a place or two if it doesn’t fit me :X

I wish I had that bucket of magic, button or any other instant perfect fixes. Sadly I have not found it yet so in the meantime I try to get on HRT and possibly FFS depending on the effects of the former and how my therapy is going. Tomorrow is my second appointment :3

I am glad that you found more confidence and hope that this community will continue to be good for you.

I don’t know anyone else nor have I seen (consciously) any other trans person in IRL. Now I hyper focus so much on my own body and its features that I don’t think I can make any reasonably accurate assessment about mine or anyone else’s body because of my own distorted views.

Welcome and happy to meet you!

I myself started this journey just a few months ago. I long had the same experience, to keep my wish to be a girl confined to games and fantasies.

Growing up in the 90s as well, there was (and still is) a lot of homophobia in my home village. So as a kid I figured anything more exotic surly would mean social suicide. In a small village of 5000 people not really a good option. When you can’t leave or change schools. So I pushed that part deeeeeeep down but I also had several occasions where I really should have noticed that it does not work like that but I didn’t.

Besides as a 13year old to wear your sisters clothing and feeling amazing is a totally cis boy thing to do… :3 but also don’t tell anyone about it.

I told my wife last December that I have these fantasies and we are working things out now together. It is good that you have your wife’s support, to me it has been invaluable! We were visiting my family in Germany at the time so I am extra curious to hear more about your journey in my old home! I also will have too look into these things myself as I am still a German citizen.

If you need someone to talk to just sent me a DM I just happen to have just finished my BSc in Psychology and embark now on a mission to find a job! (Meaning I’ve got some time on my hands)

Welcome again,

Maple

Get rid of the first past the post voting and the other voting shenanigans like gerrymandering. That ought to fix a lot not all but there is no solution for everything at once.

Hii hope you are well! For the dress you could add a small belt to it or try a white bolero kind of top?

I like your har too!

Hii Natalie! I’m pleased to meet you. I don’t have a name yet as I am still working things out for myself. So Maple will do fine.

Since you are into Linux, what would be your top 3 tips for migrating from MS to Linux? I am dragging my feet on that one tbh.

Have you had a good Easter Time in Sydney? Do you celebrate?

I wish you all the best on your way forward, I can’t provide you with any real help as I am still trying to work things out on my own and don’t know much about it all. I just want you to know that we are here to support you where we can!

Ps. I love your cat - so cute!