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Cake day: July 25th, 2023

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  • It sounds like you have a rather failed relationship with your son. Him wanting to change his last name is probably a way to distance himself from you. To me it sounds like you are painfully aware of that, and his impending name change is a forever reminder of that.

    You come off as a very controlling and narcissistic person:

    You see, he was named after me, and now he wants to throw that away just because he doesn’t like our family name

    I have siblings, but my son never spends time with them, and neither did I ever let my son visit them

    I’m his father, and I can’t help but feel like it’s my business too.

    You’re on to a thing here though:

    I’ve suggested that he consider professional help or therapy to sort through his feelings and understand why he’s so adamant about this change.

    I think you should apply that to yourself, and work through why this bothers you so much, and see it as an opportunity to come to terms with you probably are the main components of him wanting to change his name