• AlexLost
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    23 days ago

    A partner won’t fix you, or at least you shouldn’t expect them to. A partner is there to support you in good times and bad. A crutch to lean on when you need it. Someone to comfort you when you need it. They aren’t some magic tool to correct issues you might have.

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      23 days ago

      However partner can be a driving force for you to start fighting for yourself - an external motivation. And partner can offer a boost to perceived self worth. Enough to enable you to try to fight for yourself.

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        22 days ago

        A partner can also the source of your misery and separating yourself from them can finally allow you to respect yourself.

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          22 days ago

          I wanted to argue. I really did. I hate it and I don’t want to connect partner as a word to abusive fucks you mention. But I cannot as they are included. Have an updoot and know you ruined my day ;-;

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            22 days ago

            haha, it gets worse. you can have a partner who was wonderful and morphs into an abusive horrible person over time, because they become unhappy with their life and you become their punching bag.

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      23 days ago

      Loneliness can only be fixed by having a partner or good friends.

      You literally listed all the things that would fix loneliness.

      But clearly that isn’t the root of his misery.

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        22 days ago

        Plenty of people don’t have partners or friends and aren’t lonely.

        And plenty of people do have partners and friends, and are still incredibly lonely.

        It’s about what is going on on the inside.

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        22 days ago

        Loneliness rarely appears alone without life events causing it. A generally healthy person will experience loneliness then seek out new people. If they keep failing that may cause other issues to appear. A person who’s lonely and doesn’t do that is likely experiencing other issues like depression, trauma, alienation from life, or something else.

        Close relationships are a vital piece. Though I’ll say friendships and general community are a much better place to start than relationships. But yeah, lonely people should also be checking in on other issues and not assuming having others will solve their problems.