Realistically I wanna say that your last paragraph sounds perfectly worded to broach the topic with her.

It tells her that you do not fundamentally want to isolate her, that she should be able to talk about stuff with friends but that you want some things to be private or at least have a say on how or if something gets discussed with friends.

Maybe try to frame what the deciding factor is to make something private for you as well?

I do not feel comfortable if you air out our discussions on weaknesses when those are moments where I feel we can be vulnerable and frank with each other. I just do not want to feel like I share those critical moments with all our friends and family but I want to at least have time to digest it myself. If we improve and/or it feels like we have progressed from the topic I think it is fair game but otherwise it really puts pressure on me.

Maybe something like this, if it fits what you are feeling?

But I think discussing it is the right way forward and I know how hard it can be to talk with a partner about stuff like this.

Oh this is a cool perspective. In a different setting I know of groups that had dedicated people as points of contact for newcomers. I think they had a specific outfit that marked them as the person to go to to get introduced to the others and the idea really stuck with me because I think it really creates a more welcoming atmosphere for newcomers.

I just think its probably not the same person. The profile picture does not look like him to begin with and I don’t think this whole interaction sounds like him.

The quote from the article would be this

Wie sieht es bei den Kosten aus? Wird Open Source für den Steuerzahler billiger als proprietäre Software – oder teurer?

Ich gehe davon aus, dass die Kosten sich ungefähr die Waage halten. Aber mit Open Source bekommen wir fürs gleiche Geld mehr Flexibilität, mehr Souveränität, mehr Sicherheit. Deswegen lohnt sich das für uns

And I would agree with their reasoning that they get more for their money than with Windows.

I am sorry to hear that. There are quite a few mods that further modify the parry and dodge windows making them way more forgiving.

For the story alone I can totally recommend it and you still get quite engrossed in the scenery.

And I also never perfectly dodged or parried everything so maybe that helps as a reference point. Sometimes I really had to learn to expect what was coming.

He is flirting with the alt-right. And some movements „dabble“ in nazi memorabilia to mention the most flagrant connections to it or his failure to even outright criticize Hitler.

I know that the word Nazi is really triggering but its also true in this case. He is not said to be a Nazi himself but flirting with them. Which is factual and not really discrediting per se.

If the only argument here is: Nazis can only be German and its a historical term that cannot ever be applied to other nations I think that belies how everyone consistently uses language in a not strict academic sense and even then there are academic papers linking him to Nazism and right ideology in general.

And your other insinuation of saying that „anyone who isnt working for a more just and equal society“ would be applicable to Trump, his campaign and the things he platforms falls flat if you look at what his recurring talking points are. Sure let’s use the word Nazi less bit of course in association with Trump it gets used for very clear, explicit parallels. But I don’t think you really care about that if you try to frame everything as tiny transgressions by people who are just not „fighting for a more just and equal society“. If Nazi is too strong a word, what would you propose? And is the use of it logically a valid reason to discredit an opinion? On an open source platform talking about people who have English as a second or third language?