• Omega@piefed.blahaj.zone
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      It absolutely isn’t. That’ll get the dude to get even more pushy and turn lesbophobic on you. Saying shit along the lines of you haven’t had a proper man, which means: His cock. 😓

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        I totally read this as a gender reversal thing, having had to say that to a few girls in my time.

        I wonder about these things. Is it just coz I’m an enby that I don’t see the gendered nature of things like rejection?

        Guys can be shy, or pushy. Girls can be shy or pushy… Its not exactly the same but it’s not exactly different either.

        • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          While I agree (Enby, rejected pushy girls too when I was younger) it’s worth noting that in public spaces female-presenting people only get this treatment from cis-het-men 99.99% of the time.

          Also, a pushy woman is much less physically threatening, so being firm in rejecting them is generally easier.

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          I have tried it several times and it really doesn’t work quite as well. There is a group of men between those who respect my words and those who only respect my fictional boyfriend’s claims that this approach is working on, but it’s certainly less effective. Worst case you get hit with a “you just haven’t been fucked by the right man”.

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          I’ve told plenty of ladies I have a girlfriend, and they were still interested. Luckily for them, I’m gay and poly.