no it’s not.

for some folks that is all they want from a relationship, and that is fulfillment. all the other ‘stuff’ is extra, and undesirable. the other factor is also the stability of such a relationship with clearly defined roles and expectations.

the notion of ‘self fulfillment’ or ‘true love’ is ultra-modern, and a lot of psychologists argue it’s unrealistic to expect so much from another person. historically, relationships were very transactional and practical and erotic desire was seen as distinct realm from marriages and long term relationships.

I live in the USA and I’ve been dating for two decades. There is a huge uptick lately in folks seeking transactional relationships because they feel like other types of relationships are too complex and fraught to ever be happy in them. That includes women. Exchanging money for sex and security is far more simple, and for a lot of folks the concept of emotional fulfillment doesn’t exist, it’s quite bizarre nostly for western rich people with too much money and free time.

the benefit of the relationship is that you always know where you stand. it’s very simple, very clear. There is none of that deeper messier stuff.

No.

That’s all I have been offered for the past 10 years. I have tried. It’s dehumanizing and draining. I’d rather be alone than be in a relationship where I know that as soon as I am sick or ill I will be dumped. It’s also great being alone because I can pursue my interest and express my views without them being seen as hostile to a relationship that is seeking me to be have no independence of action or thought.

I find that people who like those types of relationships are very motivated by vanity. The primary purpose of the relationship is the image it projects to the world about them, so it makes a lot of sense.

take an art class as museum or something. it will give you structure

every one i’ve ever seen has both those things

how old are you?

128 character limit meant it was always just going to be bumper sticker style communication, and little else.

Media loves it because it’s nothing but proverbial soundbites, completely decontextualized from any greater meaning.

People love it because people love shouting meaningless slogans and quotes and pretending they are the epitome of depth of meaning, belief, and argumentation.

It’s stupid because it was designed for stupid people.

I don’t have ancestors. I barely know anything about my grand parents other than that they existed

Anytime we do that things get way worse than they were previously. No Child Left Behind accelerated the destruction of our education system by basically punishing poor schools for being poor. Our Federal government should get out of education policy entire. It should provide funds for school construction and infrastructure.

And that’s why many people never ‘grow up’. They refuse to take responsibility for themselves.

Blows my mind how many highly educated professionals in their 30s/40s think they are hapless victims and everyone else is the problem in their life. And they absolutely refuse to believe they have any power over their personal choices. As if the hand of god is forcing them to overspend, drink excessively, and otherwise hate their life.

I think my favorite is when they blame other people for ‘upsetting’ them by merely existing in a different way than they do…

No.

You can’t beef them up from the top down in the USA. 10% of school funds come from the feds.

Yeah, it’s stupid. I hate it when people ask me question like this. I am not from anywhere, I am from here.

Usually some drunk idiot I meet though insist that I need to tell them the origin country of my great great grandparents. I want to punch them.

a lot of homeschooling ends before secondary school. 6-7% of kids are home schooled for primary school.

only half of them go through high school, only 3% of high schooled are home schooled.

Cool. I’ve met several who went to Harvard, MIT, etc and were extremely successful in life.

a lot of schools are full of yokels. my primary and secondary education were full of yokels. 1/3 of the teacher staff were townies and a lot of them were idiots and drunks.

i never met a smart person until i went to college.

we don’t have national education policy.

education is 90% determined by the town or city you live in. even states have minimal influence over local districts.

schools in the same district, and schools a few kim apart, can have wildly different standards and outcomes.

the only major factor is basically, how wealthy your zipcodes/parents were. that is the overwhelming determination of your educational outcome, because richer parents value education more than non-rich parents.

in poorer communities, education is seen negatively and it’s actively discouraged.

It’s fine.

Homeschooling or not isn’t the issue. Plenty of kids who do go to school have a horrible education. I have known some perfect wonderful home schooled people, and some total weirdo religion nut job home schooled people.

The issue is the parents. And there isn’t much you can do about shitty parents unless you remove the child from the home, which is typically only done under the case of severe neglect or abuse. The state doesn’t and shouldn’t have say about how people conduct their private affairs though and how you raise children is very much a private affair.

Americans value individual choices over collective responsibilities.

Homeschooling her is predominantly for those who fell they are not a part of our mainstream culture or that culture is corrupting. A lot of religious and other minority belief groups practice it.

I don’t use them at all. I dont’ really understand them and I’m fine with that. I have no issue with them being used occasionally either.

I don’t understand people who use them all the time, it’s bizarre. It also regard it as low-effort.