Reflections
There are many mediums through which we can see ourselves.
Mirrors.
Easy to use. Available in most places. Often used to check if there is food stuck between our teeth but regular use involves using it to apply lip gloss correctly, or to check our shape up is still fresh.
If mirrors are not present we have our phones and on our phones we have front facing cameras of which we can take selfies on. Of course, if you’re still in the Nokia ages that probably does not apply to you.
Mirrors, selfies or even window shops all help in us seeing how we look physically.
People
People can be annoying, loving or even weird but one thing I know is that they can help us gauge where we are socially. I mean how else do we know if we are introverted, extroverted or ambiverted? We surely won’t know that if we only speak to ourselves. But even that can be a clue in itself.
People can help point us to areas in our life where improvement is needed, especially if they are our friends. We all need people. Life can be lonely at times so why not have company along the way? People can also highlight our strengths. Sometimes we do not know we are gifted in an area until we see the reactions of others. Still, people should be considered with caution; just as they can elevate you, they can also demote you. The trick is to know when what people say can be reflections to our inner beings and when we need to deflect what they are saying.
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Inner Voice
This is our own voice. Often influenced by the outside world, by what we see and hear. It reflects the parts of us that a mirror could never capture and people may never see. It grows with us through the different seasons of life. Sometimes we listen to it and other times we block it out by looking at others, mirrors and nothing. I’ve not always been kind to my inner voice. I am my harshest critic.
The mirror could show me I am beautiful and I’d feel it’s playing a prank on me.
Other could tell me I look good but I’d ‘rationalise’ it with “They’re just being nice”.
And even when my inner voice says the same I am quick to snuff it out, like a candle.
I don’t want to do that anymore and so I start from within.
Inner voice — mirror — people.
I’m learning that the way I speak to myself will reflect in how I perceive everything else in life. I want to reflect good things from a good inner voice.
Reflections.
We all have them.
What are you reflecting?
