Questions and Clarifications
From the moment I clicked PUBLISH, I knew I should have probably slept on that first post.
Not because I regret anything I wrote, but because of my storytelling style that seemed to jump from now >> then >> now >> my plans for the future >> last year >> now.
Maybe confusing, no?
I clearly seemed to be fleshing out some ideas about my life that had been stewing and simmering away for some time. How casual of me.
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There are a few things I would like to make clear:
- I am not up-and-running off with the baby. I’m just trying to set myself up financially so I can live comfortably and take care of my kid without combined incomes and, hopefully, happily co-parent. I would like to get a house in one of the neighbouring towns, or even the other end of town. I’m not cruel and punishing, I want my daughter to have a solid relationship with her dad. If she so wished, she would have the ability to see him every day. I reiterate; he’s not a bad guy, he’s just not for me. Should I be upfront and honest about my feelings and what I’m doing? Yes, probably but I’m in a very vulnerable position if he wants to kick me out the house again.
- I don’t make this decision that lightly. I understand the market is saturated, and porntrepreneurs who have been in the game for a while find all these girlies flooding Only Fans with their skinny asses a bit tiresome. Please know I’m doing this for a good reason (not to sound like an irritating martyr-type). Also because, like every skinny girl, I’m tired of being poor and desperately need to boost my income. I’m well aware this isn’t easy money either, and anyone who thinks it is, is ignorant or naïve. Building a following and making bank with a business based solely off of yourself is hard work… hats off to these ladies. And all the other items of clothing.
- I have a gimmick. I’m a yoga teacher who lives in the one of the most beautiful parts of the UK. We’ll be doing some lingerie yoga for sure. Fun nude shots in bendy positions by the beach or the woods etc etc. This train of thought often leads me to what my tip menu is going to look like. What are my boundaries? What am I willing to show? What am I willing to do? A little more thinking, me thinks? I want my page to have some classic selfie shots with low-budget photography and home-job videos but I also want some photoshoots to be ART. The kind of nude, erotic art that I have always wanted to make. And this is really what I’m excited about. Taking control of my sexuality, the presentation of myself as a sexual being.
I have been stalking out other girls on Only Fans.
I’m trying to find what I’m comfortable with. Many girls are expressing themselves in ways that are fucking COOL but not my style per se.
When I can’t get back to sleep after feeding the baby at night, I’ve been sifting through the ginormous boobs and kinky captions to find the ladies that I resonate with, the girls that I can emulate in some way.
The quality of these photoshoots I have stumbled on are something to aspire too. I’m looking forward to this, I can feel it in my bones. For someone who has never watched porn, who would have thought that I would be looking to make explicit material in my life.
From what I have gathered, watching these other girls, they reel you in through Instagram and Twitter / X, Reddit and Tik Tok. So much content to be made but to be fair, a lot of it can be reused.
Gotta get my cute on.
