Undecided.
The first thing that caught my attention in this song was Raebel’s voice. I wish I could describe it, but I barely understand musical lingos, and I just escaped Lagos traffic, so, forgive me.
Using her lyrics, I want to talk about a recent menace in our society, situationships.
What even is a situationship? Where did that word come out from? Who coined it? What was going through their mind when they coined it? If you ask me, a Lagos man coined it, and it got passed around till it became a menace in the society. A menace that needs to pack up and go back to wherever it sprouted from.
A situationship is that grey area (an area that has always been black and white) between friendship and relationship, where nothing is defined, but everything feels intense. You text like lovers, kiss like lovers, argue like lovers, but God forbid someone asks, “What are we?” Suddenly, the other person starts malfunctioning like a bad network connection.
Let’s break it down from the lyrics:
> “I need fi know if ya for me alone…”
Translation: Are you mine or are we playing dress-up with feelings?
> “Me no get enough time on mi side, better me leave ya now...”
Yes. That’s the clarity needed because time is precious, and this back-and-forth limbo is a slow emotional death in disguise.
Situationships: The Soft-Lie That Hurts Hard
We glamorize it. Call it “no pressure,” “vibing,” “just chilling,” “seeing where this takes us,” but the truth is, it’s one person catching feelings and the other catching cruise.
Raebel knows the game,
> “Boy ya wan play me like ah toy / But, me nuh ready for all those…”
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She’s clocked that this is a performance, not partnership, and honestly? Situationships are just commitment on discounts, and you’re the one paying full emotional price.
Why do we need to stop romanticizing this confusion? There is nothing cute about being uncertain in a connection. We’ve gotten too comfortable with “seeing how it goes” instead of “saying what we want.”
Let’s not lie, most situationships thrive on cowardice. Someone doesn’t want to be alone, but also doesn’t want to commit. So they drag you into their mess, whispering sweet nothings, breadcrumbing affection, only to disappear when you ask for clarity.
It’s mental and emotional chaos disguised as “modern love.”
Thrash it nowwww!
It’s not “low maintenance love,” it’s just laziness
> “Me get so many things wey me wan do and ya no know…”
Sis has dreams. She has plans. She doesn’t have time to be someone’s placeholder. You shouldn’t either.
If someone is unsure about you, that is your answer. Love should not be a riddle. It should not be a rubik’s cube. It should not feel like a hostage situation with feelings.
Final word? Choose clarity. Always.
> “Decide boy, lemme go ohh…”
Exactly. If it’s not a yes, let it be a no, black, or white. We humans were not created to stay on standby, waiting to be chosen like second-hand clothes. We are the main character, not the commercial break.
So let’s reject this situationship epidemic. Call it out. Walk away. Ask the questions that make time-wasters sweat. And remember, peace of mind over butterflies.
No more vibes without vision. No more almost-loves that leave you half-full.
It’s either me and you, or me without you , but never this nonsense in between.
Never!
