Trans

First and foremost, this is a community to support, love, and provide resources for trans people. Anything that puts that in jeopardy will be removed.

Holy crap, that’s an option??? Why didn’t anybody told me about it?? I was always on the fence of wanting a vagina, but I can keep my penis while having it?? (also the reverse exists for AFAB people)

Hi all! I am sooooo excited that I have my second session today and I need to tell someone!

Hello!

So fuck spez but r/t4t and r/r4r were useful. Where do yall meet folx for friendship and more?

it can be specific to body features common with being trans or just general photography technique in general, no matter how basic. example photos are ok, but we do not demand them. just thinking this would be a helpful thread to have !!

i use water, bar soap, and moisturizer and thats pretty much it. (and an epilator for hair removal)

For context, I am referring to the fact that the “Licc’em Low Lisa” track picks on the officer’s (quite deep) voice, which leads to the suggestions she harbors a massive D, and the call for “someone to verify her vagina”, in a related Tweet. The suggestion that she is a lesbian is also used as an insult in both places.

I barely manage to make myself look human for a grocery store trip. I like the aesthetics of certain bracelets or rings I have but I don’t really wear them. I like certain makeup looks but without a reason I don’t put any on. I’d like to, but the effort to benefit ratio isn’t there for me. Unless I’m meeting people I care about, I just do the bare minimum to look like a hygienic person.

So I made a very dumb mistake. I have been using hair removal cream for the last month or so and getting good results. My skin was handling it well and the grow-back was much softer and slower than shaving. Good times.

Hi all,

Hello gals and pals, I know this may seem abstract and “could never happen” and as most people around me say “collapse is a slow process so you’ll have time” but as the Seneca effect has shown - that is usually not true - collapse can and mostly likely will be much faster than we imagine.

i thought it would be nice if we shared some general expiriences. i list some of my learnings below. feel free to add! :))

For everyone in the US here, there is currently a FDA petition to create a federal registry of all trans women taking HRT. The FDA is currently taking public comments supporting and opposing the petition. Here’s a link on how to make your voice heard: https://transresilience.org/issues/fda-registry.

Bored and feeling too nauseous to do much atm while recovering from surgery. So i wanted to hear about some of your experiences. I think mine was quite uncommon because i never identified my personal discomfort as dysphoria and rather found out through lying about my identity online (for anonymity purposes) that being seen and addressed as male felt incredibly euphoric and just right. Through that the discomfort in my day to day life becoming more apparent till i eventually had to consider the possibility of being trans and everything else kinda started from there. I was 15-16 during that time. The dysphoria i felt in younger years for me back then was just something i assumed is normal if youre a teenage girl

For the past few years I’ve been keeping my hair short but recently I decided to start growing it out. I haven’t had actually long hair in years and I completely forgot how much of a pain in the ass growing your hair out is, especially when it’s just long enough to get in your way but not long enough to do anything with. All of this isn’t even getting into the dysphoria aspect. I just want to have an androgynous hairstyle that’s long but I really don’t know what to aim for and how to avoid it being too fem/too masc. Does anyone have any tips? Any suggestions for what to tell/show to my friend who’s a stylist and cuts my hair? My hair is very straight and kind of a mullet currently. Just at my eyes in the front and down to the base of my neck in the back, the sides go a little past my jaw. I also have an undercut. My goal is to be androgynous and at least try to avoid the constant misgendering I get from trans and cis people alike.

I finally got top surgery today and i have never felt happier, i still cant fully believe it and havent seen my new chest but this felt impossible for so long. I was really worried about it before the surgery and scared i would experience depression but none of that happened. With this i consider my transition done for the near future, i feel like i can finally breathe again and quit chasing the next appointment

Important to note: I have OCD, and I seem to have this obsession with the idea of me being transphobic. I am a member of the LGBTQ+ community, I have known this for years, and I try my best to support everyone. I have a lot of trans friends, I love them a lot, and treat them and see them as I would anyone else.

Anyone in the UK on HRT and getting blood tests? I am going through the onboarding process for GAHT via Imago.tg.

It’s not like Male pattern baldness or anything but when I was on Chemo for breast cancer I lost all my hair. It was heartbreaking for me and every day I avoid looking in the mirror because it makes me so sad and sick I almost throw up. I tried wearing a wig but it doesn’t look convincing to me even if it does for other people. Also the feeling of the wig on my scalp makes my body feel gross and just reminds me of what I don’t have anymore.

Some things from me:

It sucks. I hate it. And I hate that I have no other choice.

I haven’t updated any of my documents yet, and I saw that the disgusting bill that’s pending in Indiana would make it impossible for trans people to change their gender marker. Although there has been an executive order stopping the department of health from processing court-ordered name changes there for the past year. I don’t think Indiana is ever going to do something that would help a trans person…

I’m getting more confident in myself and starting to come out to more people, but I feel like I don’t know how to? It always feels awkward.

Is it something that happens?

So, I was lately reading “Whipping girl” by Julia Serano, still reading, interesting book to read and recommend to others to read it but I am here mostly asking if there are any similar book from perspective of trans men. Something non fictional about life experiences, etc.

I used this little community as a pressure valve, a diary, a place to scream into the void and reorganize my thoughts, during the psychologically hardest period in my life: coming out and starting transition. I’m turning 40 this year so I’ve seen this many times before, where an account will come into existence, vent too much information, and then disappear without providing resolution, and I didn’t want to do that to y’all.

We’ve been getting a few of these types of posts recently, so this is just a reminder. There are plenty of places we can find endless bad news. This is not meant to be one of them. Bad news has a place here, but only when it’s part of a discussion that helps people move forward despite the negative.

For me, I noticed that a lot of my general negative feelings became more specific, like finally being able to put a name to it let me realize what was at the root of those feelings. Unfortunately, being aware of it more specifically also made the dysphoria worse. Curious about others’ experiences though

if you have HRT Related queries or advice please check out !diyhrt@lemmy.blahaj.zone, an entire comm for HRT

In approximately 22 hours I will tell a therapist that I am for sure not a cis man and I’m tired of pretending and that I want help. This will be the first time I have said this to anyone, I suppose technically barring this post right here.

I’m trans femme, considering hrt. By a long way, most reports of what it’s like say: within the first week I felt different emotionally /in my mind. Feelings seem to vary from calmer, to the author feeling more herself. This initial euphoric feeling is reported to fade over time, usually.

After 5 months, I guess I’ve fully cracked. Now I’m wondering about updating my professional website, that cesspool LinkedIn, etc.

Ever since coming out to my dad, the relationship between me and him got very strained because he’s not accepting of it. Over the past 1.5 years we slowly drifted further and further, to the point of us being minimal contact. Up until recently, he sometimes invited me to smaller family gatherings (with my siblings who I’m on good terms with) but most of the time, I didn’t come. Most of the time I had a proper reason but I could have also made it work if I would have wanted to.

The winter holidays can be hard on a lot of us especially with strained or no family relations. What are your coping mechanisms, traditions, celebrations, things you do to get through the season?

This is just a Continuing Resolution right? Republicans didn’t win any of their LGBTQ goals?

I haven’t started the process of changing my name and gender marker on any of my documents yet. Between having my birth certificate from a very anti-trans state, and now the Supreme Court allowing the government to deny us changing our gender markers on passports, is there even a point in me trying to change my documents? I feel like, best case scenario I have a mix of updated and out-of-date documents, which feels like it would just create more confusion and difficulty.

(this is copied from a comment i made a minute ago)

My body, is under attack, And my face is a crack. A shell someone glued on, Can’t seem to move on. Wishing there was an end, OH WHY can’t it mend!

This is a reminder to follow rule three. Rule three says not to post negative news articles without a call to action or way to help.