FRYD, fryd@sh.itjust.works

Asshole: Someone who is rude, selfish, or both. Basically a stronger version of jerk.

Jackass: Someone who is careless or stupid but not rude or selfish. I never call anyone a jackass, but I almost exclusively see it as a term used to deride someone you’re familiar or friendly with for being mischievous or careless.

Dickhead: Someone who is careless or stupid as well as rude or selfish. All dickheads are assholes, but not all asshole are dickheads.

I value spreading positivity and helping people. If I think a quick comment can do that, it’s worth my time to me.

Write your comment, but ask yourself right before you hit send: “I’m gonna die one day. Is this what I want to spend time on? Is this what I want to be remembered for?” Eventually you’ll ask yourself that before you finish writing and later still you’ll ask yourself that when you think about writing the comment.

I’ve taken a bunch of anxiety meds. The only one that worked somewhat was Ativan, but I stopped after a few weeks because I was too anxious about taking it regularly and developing a benzo addiction.

Well let’s assume there’s a functionally infinite number of sounds and a functionally infinite variety of songs and voices. The set of songs and voices is a smaller infinite set than the set of all sounds. That would make the odds per generation effectively n/∞. So essentially zero.

You could look into a government job. It’s kinda fraught with the current administration, but there are lots of entry level government jobs with regular schedules and decent benefits.

Another possibility is care work or whatever it’s called. I have a few friends who work in housing for the developmentally disabled and I’ve seen listings for jobs in psych wards/mental health type places that don’t have any degree requirements. There’s probably similar jobs in elder care too that don’t have any degree requirements.

Accessories would help I think. A necklace, bracelets, and a belt. Some smaller silver pieces for the brackets and necklace. A thin neutral tone, like black or very dark brown belt. I’d personally wear the belt a bit loose so it hands unevenly on my hip. The silver adds a small accent and the belt helps emphasize your form.

I can’t really afford international travel right now, but I’d tolerate a good bit of security fuckery. I don’t really care if some foreign government has my biometric data if I can get in and get out smoothly.

I’ve seen it before. Never seen it work out, but I have seen it. How do I feel about it? Assuming it’s an otherwise healthy relationship with good communication and there’s no abuse, I personally couldn’t care less. I have no idea what those two people would have in common in terms of personality, interests, or goals, but that’s not my business.

The problem is that every time I’ve seen it, the power balance is incredibly lopsided. Generally an insecure older person who projects strength and wisdom and a troubled younger person who craves stability and authority. The older one usually gets controlling and jealous and the younger eventually catches on and uses that jealousy to manipulate the older person. It’s always a toxic mess when it gets to that point.

Me and my friends frequently discuss how we feel about our lives, jobs, our futures and what our plans are. The last time was yesterday.

I don’t believe in magic or religion lol. I just prefer to be open minded, respectful, and logically consistent. You should try it.

Something not happening isn’t proof that it doesn’t happen or can’t happen. If anything it’s only proof that if that thing could happen, we don’t yet understand how.

Would you apply this rationale to things besides magic and religion? Do you generally believe that if something doesn’t happen the way you expect it, when you expect it, then it can never happen?

Reliability isn’t black or white, there are varying degrees to it. Some people can be counted on more for some things than others. Some people can only be counted on in certain contexts or with proper preparation. You’ll never find anyone you could rely on 100%, I’d wager you couldn’t even rely on yourself that much.

How much you can rely on someone or vice versa isn’t what I would consider in my rubric for whether I’m alone or not. Sometimes you have to deal with things alone, sometimes you choose to. That’s just life. Support and help are nice when you can get it, but it’s your life in the end. You have to be the one to live it.

I’d only consider myself lonely if there’s no one I connect to and if that were the case, I’d look for new people. Eventually I’ll find someone I connect to in some aspect of our lives. Even if I can’t always talk to them about my struggles in that aspect, I’ll know they’re out there struggling too and that will give me some peace and validation.

oh duh, I though it was the no happiness thing lol. Yeah, I’m almost incapable of forming mental images. I can kinda build an image by adding details, but they fade quickly. So I have to essentially keep re-adding details rapidly to sustain the image. So the images are imprecise and constantly changing. It’s like looking at a kinda rough sketchy animation. It takes a lot of concentration to do too, so most of the time I have no images in my head.

No, I’d say I’m actually a pretty bubbly and cheerful person most of the time. For a while I did feel pretty empty and blank, I would describe the feeling as “sterile”. Just kinda absent of stimulus and variety of emotion. I’ve gone through a long and difficult arc of figuring myself out though. Two years ago I had a breakthrough and have been getting happier as time goes on.

I suffered a serious head injury and have amnesia. I don’t remember the vast majority of my childhood and what I do is just bits and pieces. By the time I had fully recovered from the injury, I was totally used to just not remembering things. In hindsight and therapy, there are a few things about my memory loss that bother me.

Overall though I’ve just accepted that remembering just isn’t all that important. You are who you are today. Memories may explain why you are the way you are or they might not. I just try to live the present and work towards the future. It’s freeing to live without the grudges, spite, or resentment of the past.

I have a friend who was in that situation. After a while he just started jerking it again. Not watching so much porn and not jerking it every day is probably good for you, but going no fap is just gonna give you wet dreams to clean up and won’t actually solve any problems.

The whole “rarely find a mate” thing is first of all a really weird phrasing and secondly is a solvable problem. That manosphere crap is a learned helplessness grift. Lower your standards a bit, get some hobbies, go socialize. As long as you respect people, you’ll find plenty of people willing to give you a chance.

Going to college really shocked me when I realized just how bad my school teaching was. History and English were especially poor. I was regularly embarrassed to be one the few students completely unaware of significant events and people despite being an honors student with an advanced diploma. STEM subjects were fine, but I took advanced an college level courses in high school. I’m not sure how it would be for regular students.

Personally, Mario Kart World, Kirby Air Riders, and the next Pokémon is enough to get me to spend $200-$300. Altogether though, I’m looking at $710 pre tax. That’s just too much for me.

I’d love to get a Switch 2, but $500 + $70/per game is just too steep for me.