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Text body of cross posts don’t show up for me, just adding my thoughts in this comment.
I was hesitant to open the link because it felt a bit clickbait-y and I don’t like most things that talk about women in terms of what they do with their bodies, but I decided to read it anyway. I don’t know if it was a gross dissection into a woman’s choice regarding her body or a somewhat necessary look at how a popular actress has had to rationalize objectification. Maybe a bit of both? Interested to see if any of you have thoughts on this.
It might be true that a “minority of men who are a real problem” but there’s also a minority of allies. I think the largest segment of men just go with the flow. They’ll laugh at a sexist joke if the majority are laughing or stay silent if the majority stay silent. I’ve seen some real allies shut down misogynistic comments here on Lemmy, and it’s really heartening. They get downvoted for it, but they shut down the circle jerk. I think it’s because they’re men signaling disapproval. The other guys might not like it, but they listen. I think Gen Z will not be quite as progressive as I was hoping, but I’m really hoping the next gen will tip us over the edge and we’ll hit a critical mass of allies so that men are less confident being openly misogynistic.
WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone
I had a somewhat similar conversation with some friends recently about early relationships and boundaries.
I had a boyfriend that didn’t take a no early in our relationship. I first just indicated no silently (moving hand away etc), then indicated no verbally, and he still tried to do something to me physically that I just expressed no about. I’m really proud that I stuck to my boundaries and got up and left, but that could have gone very differently. He was much bigger and stronger, and had I not known him through certain circles I might not know how he would react to me leaving. I was previously SAd and had done a lot of work building up my confidence and boundaries and he was not very experienced. He later sincerely apologized. He was legitimately confused about the situation and thought he was doing what he should. We had multiple extensive conversations about enthusiastic consent and eventually resumed dating. He was always good about consent from that point forward, but he essentially used my body as a learning experience. I’m glad it happened to me and not someone else, and I’m glad we had the conversation we did because now he knows for any future partners, but it really is scary to think how entitled he felt to my body and that there are other people out there like that.
There are several things people learn when just starting out dating, and I’m sure I messed up a lot and said things I shouldn’t have or said things wrong, but I never took liberties with someone’s body. Obviously, it happens to all kinds of people, by all kinds of people, but on the whole it seems like it’s heavily related to socialization. I think we need to do a better job of teaching consent and boundaries to all children. That and kindness. I think more of that and we’d stop mistreating our partners, because it ends up just being a microcosm of how we treat society.
Hey girl, this is your friend speaking. Leave him. I promise, the person you’re meant to be with will make noises so cute you’ll regret every second spent not hearing them.
You deserve better than to be with someone who is by your own admission “not a good partner”. Choose loving yourself.
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WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone
I think you bring up a good point that most people likely have hormone cycles. We had a trans member of the community make a post recently regarding how they are experiencing period like symptoms and that other trans women have also experienced cyclical period like symptoms. I think a there’s a lot of variety in the human experience and my biggest issue is when people don’t recognize these differences as valid. It’s so important that we recognize that we’re more alike than different, but everyone faces their own unique issues and I like to leave a lot of space for that.
Sorry to hear about your PCOS, but glad you’ve got the diagnosis and seem to have gotten a handle on what sounded like some bad periods.
WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone
My app does not show the text in the post, so just in case, the post should say:
I would not venture into the comment section, but I think the post brings up a point for discussion. Menstruation is different for everyone (some women don’t/can’t some men do etc), so I figured I’d ask here what your relationship to it is and how you see other people relate to it. I personally think there’s something very unique to menstruation itself that I would not relate to anything else, having experienced things far more and far less painful or affecting, but I know that’s not how everyone views it. Having said that, I think there’s a lot of discussion around women’s periods and I understand the desire to relate to them regardless of your personal experience with them. I would love to hear your individual perspectives on how you talk about your cycles to people, or if you do so at all, and how their responses affect your desire to talk to them about that going forward.
I have a friend that like me has had medical issues arise because of their cycle, and though we’ve had similar experiences I am least likely to bring up my experiences when she’s talking about hers because I want to give her feelings as much space as possible. She does the same with me. I’m not sure if it’s like that for others, but I think the more severe the issue the more likely I am to verbalize sympathy than empathy. On the other hand, I can pretty casually talk about it with some friends who have a more average experience with them. I’m least likely to talk about it with my male friends, but I have some close ones that I will mention it to and they always step up their support if I bring it up, since I mostly bring it up if I’m noticing I need some extra support. Because of the way my cycle affects me, and maybe because I am really lucky, my partners have been mostly really good about recognizing it and offering support when needed.
Thank you for your suggestions!
Please reply to this comment with suggestions for next month. One suggestion per reply please!
Text body of cross posts don’t show up for me, just adding my thoughts in this comment.
I was hesitant to open the link because it felt a bit clickbait-y and I don’t like most things that talk about women in terms of what they do with their bodies, but I decided to read it anyway. I don’t know if it was a gross dissection into a woman’s choice regarding her body or a somewhat necessary look at how a popular actress has had to rationalize objectification. Maybe a bit of both? Interested to see if any of you have thoughts on this.
Not sure what to think here - Article: The Woman Who Can’t Stop Undressing: A psychoanalytic look at the most naked career in prestige cinema (medium.com)
TW: SA - Exposing a global ‘online rape academy’ — In shocking group chats, men encourage one another to drug and assault their wives – and swap tips on getting away with it (cnn.com)
Queer Collective YT Channel
This channel came up on my recommended recently and I’ve really been enjoying their videos.
It might be true that a “minority of men who are a real problem” but there’s also a minority of allies. I think the largest segment of men just go with the flow. They’ll laugh at a sexist joke if the majority are laughing or stay silent if the majority stay silent. I’ve seen some real allies shut down misogynistic comments here on Lemmy, and it’s really heartening. They get downvoted for it, but they shut down the circle jerk. I think it’s because they’re men signaling disapproval. The other guys might not like it, but they listen. I think Gen Z will not be quite as progressive as I was hoping, but I’m really hoping the next gen will tip us over the edge and we’ll hit a critical mass of allies so that men are less confident being openly misogynistic.
I had a somewhat similar conversation with some friends recently about early relationships and boundaries.
I had a boyfriend that didn’t take a no early in our relationship. I first just indicated no silently (moving hand away etc), then indicated no verbally, and he still tried to do something to me physically that I just expressed no about. I’m really proud that I stuck to my boundaries and got up and left, but that could have gone very differently. He was much bigger and stronger, and had I not known him through certain circles I might not know how he would react to me leaving. I was previously SAd and had done a lot of work building up my confidence and boundaries and he was not very experienced. He later sincerely apologized. He was legitimately confused about the situation and thought he was doing what he should. We had multiple extensive conversations about enthusiastic consent and eventually resumed dating. He was always good about consent from that point forward, but he essentially used my body as a learning experience. I’m glad it happened to me and not someone else, and I’m glad we had the conversation we did because now he knows for any future partners, but it really is scary to think how entitled he felt to my body and that there are other people out there like that.
There are several things people learn when just starting out dating, and I’m sure I messed up a lot and said things I shouldn’t have or said things wrong, but I never took liberties with someone’s body. Obviously, it happens to all kinds of people, by all kinds of people, but on the whole it seems like it’s heavily related to socialization. I think we need to do a better job of teaching consent and boundaries to all children. That and kindness. I think more of that and we’d stop mistreating our partners, because it ends up just being a microcosm of how we treat society.
Hey girl, this is your friend speaking. Leave him. I promise, the person you’re meant to be with will make noises so cute you’ll regret every second spent not hearing them.
You deserve better than to be with someone who is by your own admission “not a good partner”. Choose loving yourself.
This comment links to the article: https://lemmus.org/comment/15733715
I think you bring up a good point that most people likely have hormone cycles. We had a trans member of the community make a post recently regarding how they are experiencing period like symptoms and that other trans women have also experienced cyclical period like symptoms. I think a there’s a lot of variety in the human experience and my biggest issue is when people don’t recognize these differences as valid. It’s so important that we recognize that we’re more alike than different, but everyone faces their own unique issues and I like to leave a lot of space for that.
Sorry to hear about your PCOS, but glad you’ve got the diagnosis and seem to have gotten a handle on what sounded like some bad periods.
My app does not show the text in the post, so just in case, the post should say:
I would not venture into the comment section, but I think the post brings up a point for discussion. Menstruation is different for everyone (some women don’t/can’t some men do etc), so I figured I’d ask here what your relationship to it is and how you see other people relate to it. I personally think there’s something very unique to menstruation itself that I would not relate to anything else, having experienced things far more and far less painful or affecting, but I know that’s not how everyone views it. Having said that, I think there’s a lot of discussion around women’s periods and I understand the desire to relate to them regardless of your personal experience with them. I would love to hear your individual perspectives on how you talk about your cycles to people, or if you do so at all, and how their responses affect your desire to talk to them about that going forward.
I have a friend that like me has had medical issues arise because of their cycle, and though we’ve had similar experiences I am least likely to bring up my experiences when she’s talking about hers because I want to give her feelings as much space as possible. She does the same with me. I’m not sure if it’s like that for others, but I think the more severe the issue the more likely I am to verbalize sympathy than empathy. On the other hand, I can pretty casually talk about it with some friends who have a more average experience with them. I’m least likely to talk about it with my male friends, but I have some close ones that I will mention it to and they always step up their support if I bring it up, since I mostly bring it up if I’m noticing I need some extra support. Because of the way my cycle affects me, and maybe because I am really lucky, my partners have been mostly really good about recognizing it and offering support when needed.
Thank you for your suggestions!
Please reply to this comment with suggestions for next month. One suggestion per reply please!
Cycle Chat
I would not venture into the comment section, but I think the post brings up a point for discussion. Menstruation is different for everyone (some women don’t/can’t some men do etc), so I figured I’d ask here what your relationship to it is and how you see other people relate to it. I personally think there’s something very unique to menstruation itself that I would not relate to anything else, having experienced things far more and far less painful or affecting, but I know that’s not how everyone views it. Having said that, I think there’s a lot of discussion around women’s periods and I understand the desire to relate to them regardless of your personal experience with them. I would love to hear your individual perspectives on how you talk about your cycles to people, or if you do so at all, and how their responses affect your desire to talk to them about that going forward.
Cycle Chat
I would not venture into the comment section, but I think the post brings up a point for discussion. Menstruation is different for everyone (some women don’t/can’t some men do etc), so I figured I’d ask here what your relationship to it is and how you see other people relate to it. I personally think there’s something very unique to menstruation itself that I would not relate to anything else, having experienced things far more and far less painful or affecting, but I know that’s not how everyone views it. Having said that, I think there’s a lot of discussion around women’s periods and I understand the desire to relate to them regardless of your personal experience with them. I would love to hear your individual perspectives on how you talk about your cycles to people, or if you do so at all, and how their responses affect your desire to talk to them about that going forward.
Study of men who embodied a young woman in VR finds they felt disgust & anger when catcalled
https://mstdn.social/@amydiehl/115805764426843059
Women's Stuff Book and Movie Club - December 2025 - Month 4 🎉
Trigger warnings: None I could find. I will update this if anyone has more information and would like to let me know.