Probably. That seems very succinct :)
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That’s a mature attitude. There are people out there who are selfish lovers and won’t talk it out. I have known people with very specific issues and boundaries that created barriers. I have known people that were so sheltered that they didn’t know that their “normal” is incredibly strange, and probably a fringe kink for someone. Not everything can be negotiated.
This is not true for the people in arranged marriages that I’ve discussed the issue with. The men had not been sexually naive before the marriage. Women explained it as finally being able express affection so it was like a dam bursting into one person. They felt that sex was a critical ingredient to the marriage. Granted that has only been a handful of cases where that frank discussion took place, and it is only with a single cultural group, so you may have more extensive experience.
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I can’t quite put my finger on it.
Not really. I feel like the artist stopped short when there is so much more to explore.
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HistoryPhotos@piefed.social•Newsboys Club in Boston, USA, 1909English
6·10 hours agoA friend had an old cabin that had gas lighting. There was something surreal about it. The light is incredibly yellow and seemed to have limited wavelengths so the the colour pallete was distorted and very compressed. Also shadows didn’t seem to work the same way if that makes any sense. It was strange.
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That’s an Italian grip foil. That’s one method of holding it. I had one when I fenced and was taught a different grip for it. There is also a French grip that only has one way to hold it. I had one of those as well. Most people used what we called the orthopedic grip but probably has a different name now.
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•How quick are you to block someone on Lemmy?English
3·1 day agoI block a lot, but it’s mostly sex stuff that I don’t want people seeing when I’m browsing from work. I learned this lesson from Talking Points Memo of all places.
A few years ago I was browsing their discussion forums and a picture of Donal Trump photoshopped onto an erect penis popped up. Unfortunately my executive director was walking in to ask a question. No real repercussions, but I block images on a lot of forums now. And if someone posts lewd anime or dick pics etc. that leak outside of the fedinfsw space then they are probably getting blocked.
I sleep 6 or 7. I used to sleep more 9-10 and it would drive my partners nuts. But as I’ve gotten older I find I tend to get up between 5 and 6 no matter what time I got to bed. Kind of sucks because I like to stay up late, but can no longer sleep in.
It’s your language too. You can still answer.
Squidward.
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Not The Onion@lemmy.world•KitKat truck flanked by security convoy after 12-tonne chocolate theftEnglish
2403·2 days agoStaged corporatist bullshit. 0/10.
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The Heinlein Society - Robert A. Heinlein@lemmy.world•Could this be seen as offensive?English
9·2 days agoAlso a Mapleborn. Proud to see our heritage represented.
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Recently started jogging 30 minutes twice a week. When does it stop feeling like I'm dying?English
1·3 days agoIt won’t. At least not with that approach. You need to strengthen your feet and tendons. I know, you’re fit and you lift. But consider that a typical pace will have each foot hitting the ground 70-90 times a minute. Even at the lower end thats over 2000 foot strikes per side during your run. That will do damage so you need to work up to it.
Try 30 minutes of running for 2 minutes and walking for 1 three times a week. Every week increase the run by a minute. By the time you reach 8:1 you can choose to not stop. Pace should be easy, lime you can maintain a conversation.
After you can run for 30 minutes continuously 3 times a week without felling like death, you can get fancy with the training protocol. But the early weeks are the toughest because you feel like you can do more, but you should absolutely not.
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News@lemmy.world•Sam Altman’s coworkers say he can barely code and misunderstands basic machine learning conceptsEnglish
61·3 days agoI have a CEO that I respect. I’m in an engineering heavy company and the CEO is anything but that, and he knows it. His background is finance and that’s most of his job, and interfacing with government. He delegates effectively and does not insert himself in technical decisions. The one thing he does do is ask a lot of questions. In some respect he doesn’t care what the answer is, but he wants to know that we’ve considered all the angles before he takes our advice. I’ve been pulled in to a boardroom before because something was on his mind that he wanted to share. One occasion he told me to think about it. He didn’t want me to follow up with him, but when it came up at a board meeting he wanted the COO to have an answer, so he was flagging the issue for me. Good guy.
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politics @lemmy.world•Iran ceasefire deal a partial win for Trump - but at a high costEnglish
19·4 days agoThis is a humiliating strategic failure for the U.S. There is no way to spin this as even a partial victory. Pre-war the strait was open with Iran not in control. The U.S. has spent billions, is now facing concessions, and has cemented Iran’s control of a vital piece of critical infrastructure. How is this a victory?
Tore a muscle in my back. My vision whited out and I thought I was having a stroke. I couldn’t move without the world spinning so hard I wanted to vomit, but every muscle contraction was a new wave of pain.
Moving that cabinet turns out not to have been worth it. 2 years later and I can pretty much bend at the waist again so that’s nice.
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No Stupid Questions@lemmy.ca•Anyone ever been to or stayed at the Bonaventura Hotel in downtown LA? What did you think of it infamous Lobby?English
2·6 days agoI’ve stayed there. It was less fun than I thought it would be. I was hoping for stylish cocktails in the fancy pods but the lobby was travel agents etc. It was not fun or funky. Visually I still like it though.













You are most certainly correct. I am no armourer, and I only fenced Italian because I’m a lefty and it was kit that could borrow when I started. My master was highly skilled, but no great historian of the sport. I note that there is no bell guard, and that the cross hilt is behind the finger loops, but I understood that to be of minimal importance.