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  • Literally no thoughtful or reasonable sexual partner is going to say they prefer the type of penis it’s impossible for you to have, so that data is wildly biased.

    I’m a woman and I’ve been with both. I don’t really care either way (and I feel confident most women who have actually been with both don’t really care) but my best lasting lover by far was uncut. I will not circumcise any sons I have.




  • My thought as well. Humanizing yourself makes me think about the situation you’re in to be driving door dash and the situation I’m in to be ordering it. I ran into my diaper wipes deliverer yesterday and though should I tip? For delivery from a website, something i don’t tip for. But I made contact with the driver and I was grateful for their service in delivery. I think it’s human nature to be easier to tip light if you can forget a human person was involved


  • Blue Moon in the Jack Reacher series. They’re indulgent, half James bond, half Sherlock Holmes. I used to feel embarrassed reading fiction as an adult, but now I’m like hey, a book a week (or sometimes a day) of something pleasurable is way better than a book every six months of something taxing. I’ve got a toddler and I’m pregnant and I’m so glad to have this series so I never have to think about what my next read is. I’m on like book 20/30 though, so a little worried for when it ends.

    It’s been so much fun to follow reacher through the technical advances of the 90s and early 2000s! Cameras everywhere, cell phones, internet, debit cards all changing his way of life book to book, really neat.

    Suggestions welcome for an equally easy/engaging long series after this!



  • I know two people who had full term still born babies. They both absolutely refer to them as babies and as having given birth. I’m only 6 months pregnant and if I lost the pregnancy at this point I would say I lost my son. He’s very real and alive to me, he moves and touches me many times an hour, already keeps me up every night. He’s a real dude in there.

    That said, I’ve had two miscarriages and consider those lost pregnancies, not lost children. I’ve seen people online say things like “mother of 4, 2 in heaven” though.

    Having something die inside you can fuck you up forever.



  • It’s so tough. 45k isn’t enough to cover expenses where I live (I know because we’re doing it, and if we weren’t dual income it just wouldn’t work). It doesn’t matter that my husband gets amazing retirement matching and decent benefits, because without my (admittedly small) income we couldn’t pay rent and utilities. If you want to be independent here and have a yard, you need to make more. A few years ago here you couldn’t even find an apartment with that salary, but it’s calmed down a little.










  • ChexMax@lemmy.worldtoScience Memes@mander.xyzNutritional Hexes
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    16 days ago

    That’s as dumb as them suggesting you take on a second job to cover the heightened cost of the formula, but the second job has to be donating blood, plasma, and bone marrow. The physical toll to make up that much extra nutrition, the (sometimes permanent) leaching of elements of your own body, the quantity of time to pump and properly clean and store and the cost of products, the emotional toll of sacrificing what used to be a fun part of your body to what for many is quite painful…

    Sure boobs are made to make milk, but eyes are made to see. How many people do you know who wear glasses? It’s more complicated than just why not breast milk?

    If women should be expected to breastfeed for 2 years, then society should be built that they can take two years off to do so. A year of breastfeeding equates to a conservative estimate of 1,800 hours, which is not far off from a full-time job that totals about 1,960 hours annually.


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    16 days ago

    Agree, the children’s utility to society isn’t about money. It’s about having doctors and firemen and farmers and artists. Idc how much money you have, if the next generation is smaller, who will be the CNAs in the retirement home where the childless (and others) are spending their pensions?