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  • I would say yes with an asterisk. It sounds like she is very young and doesn’t really know who she is, what she wants, or what she is doing to the people around her. This is pretty common in young people generally, having little or no experience with close interpersonal relationships. Being “gifted” and attending school with people older than her is likely part of the problem. She hasn’t had as much time to deal with these feelings and likely has parents pushing her to “live up to her potential”, hence the being ahead for her age, which makes things worse because people in that position spend much less time socializing. I know I had no idea what I was doing in high school. She likely saw an opportunity when you confessed your feelings, realized she wasn’t that into the situation, then moved on in not the best way. It doesn’t sound like she was using you intentionally, and her behavior suggests she’s not really interested. Best bet would be to move on and get to know other people. It really fucking sucks though. I was in kind of a similar situation in high school, being really into a girl who took advantage without really returning my feelings, and it fucked me up for a long time. I know me saying this won’t fix it or really make it feel better, but you’ll meet new people and things will get better, if you put in the work to put her behind you.




  • We will never get the nerves back. It’s not just a lump of unfeeling skin that covers the glans. That’s what stops me from trying. Like yeah I can stretch it to cover the glans when it’s soft but I will never get the sensation back. That was stolen from me by people who were meant to care for me, and I will always have the scars.


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    8 hours ago

    I don’t believe there is any medically justified reason beyond what would require anything to be amputated. All of the “medical reasons” people tout are thin bullshit. Anything people have claimed could be accomplished with much less invasive procedures. I’m furious and deeply hurt my parents did this to me. The whole reason is to reduce sensation during sex because sex is a “sin”. My parents had the fucking gall to tell me looking at porn will impact my relationships after doing this shit to me.











  • I highly recommend electrolysis for removing your beard.

    My electrologist told me I have very coarse hair on my face, though it comes out pretty straight, and it greyed early so I have somewhere between 25% and 50% grey hair in my beard. This pretty much made any hair removal except electrolysis functionally worthless to me. Unfortunately red hair, from what I’ve heard, is one of the hardest to remove with any method, so electrolysis will likely be your best bet. The medical industry tends to push people to get laser first because it’s theoretically faster, but generally does not result in complete or fully permanent reduction and for people like me would just be a waste of time. Most people end up going this route, but you don’t need to feel like you have to.

    I went straight to electrolysis and I’m really happy I did. By nature of the way hair on the face works, only around 10% - 20% of the follicles are active at any time, especially on the upper lip, so even if you managed to get literally every beard hair in one sitting, it would still take around a year at least of consistent treatment to get every hair. Both electrolysis and laser work this way because they both rely on the hair follicle being in the growth phase to work, but they generally don’t tell people that when they go to get laser, at least in my experience (I got it other places on my body). The nice thing about electrolysis is, generally speaking, once a particular hair is fully treated it will be gone forever, so it’s really only a matter of time until you’re done.

    Given how long it takes to finish electrolysis, I would suggest starting soon and sticking with it consistently. You will likely be much further through your transition than you’re expecting before you’re done having your beard removed, so the transition from beard to no beard should be very easy for your family.