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Cake day: May 14th, 2025

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  • Thanks I really hope to find someone too, dating sucks 😅

    Most of my dates are from Breeze and Hinge, I put in good amount of effort the last ~8 months to get good pictures.

    And had some of my girl-friends curate my profile and pick pictures and prompts that they think girls would like to see.

    Us guys are often clueless with these things, and what I used to think are bad pictures turned out to actually work the best.

    I also don’t chit chat, once I match with someone, I have some playful banter, ~6 messages back and forth, and then I arrange to grab drinks.

    I also meet some people IRL, by having friends introduce us or organizing a get together in a park or something, but those take more effort and don’t happen as frequently.






  • I specifically made this post because I’m keen to experiment with more risky topics, if it doesn’t work then I’ll adjust or go back to more tame things.

    I’m fine not playing it safe, if that puts some people off, that’s fine, I’ve had dates like that in the past and they were great, so want to recreate that.

    I obviously don’t want to do this “an awkward foray into “so you ever done coke?”” this whole post is about finding a way to bring up topics you wouldn’t talk about at work, but in a natural or not awkward way. Dates of mine have done this, so it’s possible, and I’d like to figure out how