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  • PhoenixDog@lemmy.worldto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonevalidation rule
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    Holy fuck, you’re still going on with this?

    Might I suggest a therapist? Because this is not a healthy reaction to something that doesn’t affect you whatsoever. What other people do in their own relationships has zero effect on you. And if it does, if what people call each other in their relationships offends you, that’s 100% a you problem. Your need to shoehorn yourself into someone elses life because you are uncomfortable about something has literally nothing to do with anyone but you.

    Perhaps you can understand how my perference

    YOUR PREFERENCE! YOURS! Not someone elses. Not anyone elses. YOURS. Just stop right there. No one is forcing you or any partner to call you Daddy. No one is suggesting you have to use it. The alphabet mafia is not putting a gun to your head. But your continued ranting about this and how it affects you, you should really seek some professional help.

    You are in fact being misogynistic. You’re telling women what they are or aren’t allowed to say because it makes YOU uncomfortable. Not your partners, not anyone consenting in any kind of language, you’re literally saying women using it is wrong.

    That’s misogynistic.

    It’s not your job to tell others what they can and can’t use. My partner calls me “puppy”. Do you think they actually think I’m a dog they want to fuck? You’re not misogynistic for talking about it, expressing how it makes you feel, and the trauma with your friend. It’s misogynistic that you are going on tangents telling people that they shouldn’t use it because it makes you uncomfortable, which apparently your feelings are more important than anyone elses.

    You’re 100% in your right to not want it used around you. That’s completely fine and acceptable. But you can’t come onto the Internet and tell people not to use it, actively INSERTING yourself into the language just so you can be offended by it. You can leave the thread. You can block users. You can just LEAVE. But you are intentionally inserting yourself into this just to tell others that it hurts your feelings.


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    She already did. You’re making it into daddy issues or inappropriateness when it’s entirely not that at all.

    Just because YOU attribute malice to it doesn’t make it so. Your inability to separate the two is a you problem, not a kink or a sub/dom problem. And the fact you went on a whole tangent about how you feel it means makes you part of the problem of perpetuating something that just isn’t true.

    The fact you felt the need to ramble on about what you think the term means or is derived from, when it was already explained to you that it isn’t that… You’re part of the problem.

    I’m sorry that happened to your friend. But it isnt up to you how the word is used by consenting couples. You can totally not want it used around you, and that’s up to you and your partner. You don’t get to tell others not only that they can’t use it, but to say it’s something it isn’t, which is daddy issues.



  • There’s a livestock option in the town I live near. I’ve only been once but my partner has a few times. During the actual auction part people bidding barely raise their hand. Just a quick gesture so the auctioneer can see it.

    You could 100% be thought you’re placing a bid by scratching your nose. They move fast as there’s lots of animals to auction off so it’s all about speed.