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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • There was this guy who started college when I was chairman of the study association for IT. He was a bit of a geek even by IT standards, but all in all okay guy who brought a lot of enthusiasm.

    He was never really understood by his surroundings, had a tough childhood with some trauma. Went into special needs schools and working his way up to study IT at a good school. He was like 26 when he started, the more usual age being 18 or even 17.

    He was of course always welcome at our study association and everyone accepted him for who he was. He ended up also doing board work for the study association.

    Couple years later, I’d already graduated, we met at a general meeting for the association and afterwards he took me apart to say that he’d graduated. He said that it was because of me giving a speech to all first-years that he’d felt more or less at home, felt confident enough to join the association, found friends and that that helped him get his diploma. He said it was because of me he got where he was.

    I told him it was not because of me. He got to college before even meeting me. I was just there along the way to nudge him, unknowingly, towards a group of positive people who were always happy to help.

    He’d had tears in his eyes and I have him a quick hug. I then told him this study association did a lot of good for me too. Sometimes all you need to do is step into something to generate great change in your life.



  • I can say by just analysing the words and what they probably mean that I have 3, 4, 5 and 7, no doubt. Never been tested for autism but I’m fairly certain it’s in there.

    5 is only sound that I seem to process differently in the sense that I have very sensitive hearing and misophonia. Especially eating sounds cause high levels of stress for me.






  • I read that you did, indeed. I think it’s commendable and a whole lot better for your personal wellbeing than just lying back and taking it. Thing is that the best case scenario is that they’ll say they never realised how their actions have affected others. It’s however far more likely that they think you’re being overly sensitive and that it can never be that bad. It’s sort of similar to having a spouse who snores. You can tell them they snore all you like, they’re not hearing it and they really won’t know what impact it has on you. Short of you recording them, or them moving into your place while you go stomp around upstairs.

    Your neighbour possibly already thinks that she’s being as considerate as she can be, in the sense that not blasting music or watching movies, or walking around in heels, is limiting her in her freedom. She’s not going to stop doing stuff she wants because someone else is hindered by it. It’s the same type of person that blocks the aisle of the supermarket whilst having conversations with others. Those who run elbows first through a crowd to get a place up front. Those who talk through movies. They are oblivious to what effect their actions have on others.


  • I have neighbours like that. I’m usually very self conscious about being the one who’s noisy but they can get it, I don’t care. Their kids, barely teenagers, are still up when we go to bed, screaming at each other in their bathroom where we can hear them verbatim. Or being out in the evening on their trampoline in the front yard, we can pretty much join the conversation.

    I’ve been in the situation where I heard people moving their furniture around almost daily. It’s usually not what you think it is. Most people have no idea how their noise affects others. It can just be someone falling in their seat on the couch that can make it sound like they’re moving the couch. This is why our couch is up against the wall, so it doesn’t move. We have those little felt things under chair legs to prevent scraping noise. We take our shoes off inside the house. And if we do watch movies, tv or listen to music, even when having a modest party, we keep the music at a reasonable volume so we can still have a conversation.

    It’s common decency that loads of people don’t do because they are inconsiderate. Not because they’re inherently bad people, they just haven’t been taught to take others into account. And they get away with it because those who do, usually avoid confrontation.




  • Not sure it will be worse then my coding specifically, but any dev who knows Edgar they’re doing really shouldn’t be relying on AI and will get frustrated a lot when vibe coding. It’s only that I sort of know what I’m doing that I’m finding out that the LLMs take my logs and my context as explanation and just start ‘patching’ by writing conversion functions out the wazoo. At some point you’ll have 16 conversion layers and yeah it works but it’s a serious design flaw.








  • I’m not your target demographic but it’s not really a stretch to say that pretty much everything that’s happening today has happened before and will keep happening. Like others say it’s mostly because there is more coverage (and maybe some more nuance causing more opinions). Back in the 50s the US started fighting in Korea and pretty much the entire US could see why and supported it. Then when Vietnam happened, there was a bit more coverage which also caused more dissent. Since then I think petty much every 5 years or so the US has been fighting wars in the Middle East. The fight with Iran is nothing new (look up Iran-Contra for instance).

    Environmental concern has been around for well over 60 years and yes, we are a lot further along but by now the smart money is on people will never be able to steer it in a positive direction so it’s pretty much damage limitation where possible.

    In the end it’s not really about how fucked up global events are, it’s more about finding the light in when they all seem a bit less fucked up than it used to be.