Deference Quotes

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Erving Goffman
“Perhaps the individual is so viable a god because he can actually understand the ceremonial significance of the way he is treated, and quite on his own can respond dramatically to what is proffered him. In contacts between such deities there is no need for middlemen; each of these gods is able to serve as his own priest.”
Erving Goffman, Interaction Ritual - Essays on Face-to-Face Behavior

Dan Groat
“There is a silent deference for one another, a distance that is kept, and lines that aren’t crossed, but in their sharing, they each try to pay tribute to the bond in their own way. As often as possible, they open up a little and give what they can.”
Dan Groat, An Enigmatic Escape: A Trilogy

“He was the subject of a little respectful ribbing. But he was, of course, the captain, which meant he had to do lots of the ribbing himself.”
Geoff Dyer, Another Great Day at Sea: Life Aboard the USS George H. W. Bush

Virginia Woolf
“I must be able to say, 'Percival, a ridiculous name'. At the same time let me tell you, men and women, hurrying to the tube station, you would have had to respect him. You would have had to form up and follow behind him. How strange to oar one's way through crowds seeing life through hollow eyes, burning eyes.”
Virginia Woolf, The Waves

“If you want to impress someone, simply make up a vocation and preface it with the words “molecular” or “theoretical” (as in “molecular biologist” or “theoretical physicist”). After you do this no one will question the veracity of anything you say—whether it is related to your putative vocation or not.”
Clifford Cohen

Steven Erikson
“Some thoughts, possessing a frightening kind of self-awareness, knew to hide deep beneath others, riding unseen the same currents, where they could grow unchallenged, unexposed by any horrified recognition. One could always sense them, of course, but that was not the same as slashing through all the obfuscation, revealing them bared to the harsh light and so seeing them wither into dust. The mind ran its own shell-game, ever amused at its own sleight of hand misdirection – in truth, this was how one tended to live, from moment to moment, with the endless exchange of denials and deference and quick winks in the mirror, even as inner proclamations and avowals thundered with false willpower and posturing conviction.”
Steven Erikson, Toll the Hounds

Stewart Stafford
“Deference is not a foregone conclusion, but a forelock-tugging one.”
Stewart Stafford

Israelmore Ayivor
“Nothing is too difficult unless you decide to keep shifting it to tomorrow till you can’t do it any longer.”
Israelmore Ayivor, Dream big!: See your bigger picture!

Chris Voss
“How am I supposed to . . . ? How do we know . . . ? How can we . . . ? There is great power in treating jerks with deference. It gives you the ability to be extremely assertive—to say “No”—in a hidden fashion.”
Chris Voss, Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It