It’s fun an all or whatever but let’s not forget that this “artist” is making a shitton of horribly misogynistic crap
Do you have examples/context? I’ve seen these comics around here and there but I don’t recall seeing anything misogynistic
Oh neat, misogynistic and transphobic
Yeah, I feel like if someone is misogynistic being transphobic always comes along.
Look at his website and scroll through his comics, it’ll be pretty plain to see.
Yep, fair enough. Didn’t even have to scroll that far
It’s completely fair to ask a favour of an old friend, I’ve both asked and been asked of favours from people I haven’t spoken to in years. However, I think you should be upfront about it, and not act like you’re trying to get in touch for other reasons. Something like “Hey, it’s been a while, but I just came across XYZ and wondered if you could give me a hand?” is completely fine IMO.
a former roommate called me out the blue one day like eight years after he moved out. we hadn’t talked since then. after the reminiscing he tried to get me to switch utility company. that’s crossing a line, i feel.
Oh, definitely. But that’s also where the “upfront” part could have saved them: If they had contacted you and been direct about “hey, I’m selling utilities now, would you be interested in switching?”, then followed up with “on another note, it’s been a while, wanna grab dinner and catch up a bit?” That would have been a completely different story.
not to mention he’d lived with me. he knew we paid like 0.2¢/kWh. no way he’d get me to switch.
Cries in german energy prices
I’ve had this happen and I just want you to put in the 30 minutes to catch up instead of treating me like an object.
Opinions will vary here, but I like when the reminiscing comes after the request. If we catch up after talking to each other out of the blue, then you ask me for a favour, I tend to think that we only caught up because you felt obliged to do so to butter me up. It could be viewed as manipulative.
Bonus points if you ask me for a favour and I say I can’t right now, but you still take the time to catch up. That’s a pretty strong signal that you view the relationship as more than transactional. It also means I’m more likely to change my mind about doing that favour.
That’s fine too.
It’s just when someone asks you for help and disappears that I hate. Like your only worth is TOS problem and they’re done with you now
I would actually prefer that they’re upfront about contacting me because they need a favour, and then using that as an opening to catch up. If they first spend 30 min catching up before jumping to “btw, could you help me out with this” it gives the feeling that they only did the catching up to get me to help them. When it’s the other way around, it feels like they genuinely want to catch up a bit, and used the favour as an excuse/opportunity to contact me to catch up. A personal favourite is if someone wants help with something in the house and asks if I want to come over to help them out and then we can get some beers and a pizza afterwards. Having something to do together can make it a lot easier to pick up the conversation with someone you haven’t met for a long time.
Better than trying to get him to sign up for a timeshare.
