Our outer and inner worlds…
seeking harmony
Understanding and being true to your inner world is a major player in attaining a harmonious life. If your outer world, defined by your actions; appearance, demeanor, how you express yourself, relate during conversations and even your body language, reflects your deep beliefs, values and desires accurately; then you will likely live an authentic life and attract similarly minded people into your circle. This harmony breeds contentment and happiness; life flows as you attract what you need.
We all have inner worlds; what we share with others largely depends upon how comfortable we are with revealing our deepest most personal thoughts, combined with trust within the relationships we develop. Some people are like open books, whereas others can be very difficult to read. From being a very private person to openly sharing one’s life, there is a whole spectrum in between.
Not everyone accurately reflects their personal thoughts and true nature through their outer worlds.
When meeting someone new we tend to form opinions based on our observations. Everyone is unique in how they present themselves to others; while some people’s outer image can offer clues to their innermost thoughts, others are masters of disguise making them difficult to truly know. If your intuition is strong, subtle actions or words may reveal a glimpse of what is behind another’s mask. Connecting with people who complement your authentic self is most successful when both individuals are comfortable with the other and make efforts to be genuine.
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When your inner world mirrors your outer world, you represent yourself authentically and will attract like-minded people. When you are accepted and embraced unconditionally, for exactly who you are, your relationships feel safe allowing for a deep and supportive relationship to develop.
Personally I lean toward being the open book type, however I need to feel connected and trust the person with whom I share my personal thoughts.
I don’t enjoy the company of people who are guarded; being uncertain of what they are thinking makes me uncomfortable. I appreciate when people are forthright; then I know their thoughts and can communicate effectively.
Even though our nature and personality remains quite stable throughout our lives, our needs change with life experiences, aging and as our circumstances change. Being highly aware of our inner world as it evolves offers us a smoother transition as life unfolds in new directions.
My outer world was very large during my younger years; passionately involved in theatre, bands and dance groups. Later on, travelling caught my attention and I explored the world extensively with my children, friends and independently. While raising my children I earned two degrees and opened my own practice. I even started a business that involved adventure getaways; I was driven.
In my 50’s I have shifted toward a deeper inner exploration, which is very personal and somewhat solitary. This desire to slow down was unexpected, however immersing myself in this new way of being has given me a great appreciation for this quieter time.
Perhaps the pendulum that swings in one direction for part of our life needs to swing the other way to find equilibrium. Maybe this is a natural part of development toward becoming a well-rounded individual; the yin and the yang.
Anyway, my get up and go, which was like trying to hold wild horses back, got up and went; for the time being. Right now I greatly enjoy the solitude of my own quiet time whereas before; this type of activity, or lack there of, would have driven me crazy.
I believe in honouring wherever I happen to be in my life; being true to myself. When gears shift I try to accommodate and understand the underpinnings for this need for change, however sometimes I have to accept that; it just is. A little scrutiny can sometimes offer insight otherwise trusting that there is an innate wisdom guiding me takes the pressure off.
Truly, understanding your inner world and finding harmony between this personal space and your outer world is fundamental to navigating the different stages of life peacefully. ☮️
