Convictions
131/300. Biased Experiences
Experiences shape us. They help to form who we are. They mold they person we become but even more than that the convince us.
You can be unconvinced by so many happenings, so many words, so many other people’s decisions and opinions but you cannot be unconvinced by your own experience.
You will always base your judgement, opinions and way of life on experiences you have lived through. People will give opinions and you will easily sway when another person’s opinion surfaces. Because they are just opinions and opinions can change anytime.
I had a roommate who had lived almost every life. For every story or anything we talked about, she claimed to have a story to reference it, something she had lived herself and even when she didn’t live it. A friend, a family friend, a neighbor… sha somebody close to her or related to her had lived it.
And it made me realize how dangerous experience can be too.
Experience, they said, is the best teacher. We argued it and wise people decided that, discipline is a better teacher.
But I am beginning to believe that we mix up this discipline for experience or experience for discipline. Experience demands that you live through it, while discipline demands that you learn from others who have lived through it.
And yet instead of LEARNING. We seem to take their life and experience upon ourselves. It’s the reason I dislike when people swallow other people’s thoughts hook, line, and sinker without making proper research or actually thinking it through.
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Another person’s experience is not truth, never will be, it’s just that, their experience but we don’t seem to remember that. We’re always living in the shadows of their experience, frequently treating it like it’s ours instead.
And instead we end up projecting other people’s hurt, anger, disgust on our own life. “Men are scum,” “Feminism” “Red-pill” “All men are cheats, it is in their nature.” and a whole bunch of opinions on the internet was successfully coined from 1 or 5 person’s experience. PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. Yet we’ve projected their thoughts and life into ourselves.
Some of us will never even meet unfortunate men in this life yet somehow we’ve already started avoiding men because of all the things we’ve heard. Some others are already tolerating rubbish from their partner because of things they heard from others. Some are defending a movement they don’t even understand with their full heart, all because someone else mentioned their experience.
Their experience is valid but it is not your experience!
The actual rule is to learn from their experience, not live their experience. Not take in their experience like it is yours.
It is our right to be careful. Careful with the things we let near us, careful with the type of things we believe in. Be conscious enough to catch yourself dancing to a tune you do not even know it’s singer. Be careful to not join in on a masquerade dance without realizing what God’s are drumming for him.
It is for you to learn, it is for you to filter, it is for you to choose.
And even in your own experience, remember that your experience is valid but it does not shape the world. It does not speak for others!
Stay clear headed.
Be careful. Always.
Think! Research! Choose! But don’t let them dump their mediocre thoughts and projections on you!
