I caught this phrase on X lately. It said, ‘If it’s you vs. their 1000 things to do, maybe you are not his girlfriend. You are just one of his 1000 things to do.’
They say love should feel fun, and I agree with that. Love, for me, has so many definitions. One of them is, ‘Love is me.’ I love people unconditionally, with all the love I have in my soul. I never view them as a burden, the same way I never tell myself that living is a burden.
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Because I think I do a pretty good job of continuing to live — surviving, eating, breathing, and most of all, keeping my sanity. I can say I do a lot of work.
And loving has never been one of those jobs. Love is never a burden to me. If my lover treats me like one of their tasks to do, I know that is not the love I expect to have in my life. I just know that I want to be the lover, not the task.
I don’t want to put myself in a home I never own — being a wife who waits at home, just for your lover to come back and think that making you happy is just a responsibility they have to fulfill. They put you as a task, right after their job ends or right after they do the dishes.
It hurts just thinking about how they feel loving me is hard. It’s as if they draw their own line by never truly getting to know me.
