2023: What I am Learning So Far
I learn that giving is a choice I can make extremely consciously, and I learn that people don’t necessarily reciprocate just because I give — and that’s okay. It’s okay doesn’t mean that I need to keep giving; it’s okay in the sense that their reciprocation doesn’t have to define my peace of mind. People either get me, or they don’t, and if they don’t, I learn to let them go peacefully.
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From time and again, I always face instances where people I think get me turn out to not really understand when the times throw a test at what we share. And to let those people go is the hardest thing for me because they let me go quite easily.
I learn that people are important. I learn that when I truly feel something for or about someone, I need to express that honestly in tangibly understandable words — I am learning that it can make a world of difference to someone. For, we don’t really talk about what we feel, shying away from several versions of the concept “what will they think.” When I start telling people how they make me feel, and what I learn from them — it makes them happy. And to give happiness makes me happier.
I learn to see beyond what is evidently seen.
I am learning to ask why, instead of getting frustrated with what is. For the source of people’s actions matter. Their intent matters. Their thought process matters. And those are not always translated into actions efficiently. So asking questions when I don’t understand helps me realize things I haven’t seen before.
I learn to be more vulnerable. I learn to not shy away from being honest. I am learning that honesty isn’t about being “blunt,” it’s about being truthful. And truth needs to be articulated well for the other person to receive it. Being truthful doesn’t mean I can give information in my head like a slap to another person’s face — for that will shut them off from listening to me.
Well-articulated honesty is what will keep communication grounded in comprehension.
