dandelion, dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone

And, if anybody recognizes something about my psyche that I am not recognizing, do shoot out!

the only thing I would say is that it’s very common for binary trans women to experience a huge amount of denial which can make it very hard to feel gender euphoria and to recognize gender dysphoria as gender dysphoria; I think for this reason it’s also not uncommon for us to take a long time to figure out we are women, and that path often includes years identifying as non-binary, agender, gender fluid, etc. - and it’s very common for binary trans women to feel indifference or numbness about their gender. I think the reason for this is mostly the fear around social and medical transition. Your story sounds pretty much exactly like mine: I myself spent years as a man who just wanted to undo the male socialization (including years in therapy with the explicit goal of undoing my maleness), and also spent years identifying as non-binary and disclaiming gendered pronouns. That was before I finally ran across some trans resources and realized my experiences were entirely compatible (and in fact stereotypically common) with being a binary trans woman.

Typical next steps include: 1. education, 2. trying out estrogen, 3. getting into therapy with a gender-informed therapist (particularly one who has lots of experience helping trans patients).

The right dose and route of administration of estrogen is low risk, can be very clarifying for people in denial, and can dramatically improve mental health, so I think it should be an early step rather than a later step. The permanent effects don’t even start until after 3 months.

I can send a list of resources for the education step if you’re interested.

But that’s all I could think of - just be open to possibility as you explore and learn more.

EDIT:

Read any trans related educational material you feel might be useful, but here’s a starting list:

• Gender Dysphoria Bible
• Whipping Girl by Julia Serano (and Sexed Up as well)
• Yes, You Are Trans Enough by Mia Violet
• “What Does the Scholarly Research Say about the Effect of Gender Transition on Transgender Well-Being?”
• An Introduction to Hormone Therapy for Transfeminine People

You might also find helpful this longer list of resources.

I’ve also put together some tips on how to help with dysphoria you might find useful.

^ yes, this is what it looks like when you’re on the operating table

:O

false, there are no boys on the internet - we will require a photo of a sharpie in your butt to prove it you’re not a girl

denying healthcare because a patient has vaccine hesitancy seems really unethical to me, but I also think that it probably overall increases community risks compared to other methods like empathetic-refutational interviewing, especially because refusal to listen and address concerns and meeting vaccine hesitancy with sanctions will have an effect of further undermining trust and so helping anti-vaxx and anti-science movements

how did you get the venison?

looks delicious!

pretty sure OP is a woman

not down for me

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you might x-post on !cooking@lemmy.world and/or !food@beehaw.org

Do you put lettuce or tomato on your tuna sandwiches? what about melting a slice of cheese and making it a tuna melt?

I don’t like to put tuna on both pieces and combine, I find it’s easier to lump it on one piece and then add the last piece of bread to the top and to smush it down from there.

If there are no societal roadblocks to prevent anti-vaxx parents raising their children to also be anti-vaxxers, then the cycle of misinformation will only get worse as time progresses.

right, but people don’t get socialized or educated by their doctors, doctors are like gatekeepers for medicine and surgeries that you get to see in very short windows of time once a year … withholding access to medicine and surgery is not going to help the situation

Regardless, parents should not have the ability to prevent their children from getting vaccinations on the basis of their own unscientific beliefs.

right, but the flip side is that you’re OK with foregoing the individual’s right to opt in or out of a medical procedure … I haven’t read enough bioethics to arrive at some kind of position on this, but I don’t think either side is obviously right - on the one hand individual liberties being protected results in more overall harm and deaths from fewer vaccinations; on the other hand ignoring individual liberties is authoritarian and can create medical trauma, as well as may backfire and result in greater resistance.

Either way, we need to solve this on a societal level through education, developing greater trust in biomedicine, and probably by penalizing the grifters who profit from promoting anti-vaxx anxieties.

my partner asked me to include my proclivity to bite her in my patient history document submitted for my testing for ASD 😅 now I’m wondering if there is a pattern here - are other biters also autistic?

yes!

also, where does this urge to bite come from? I don’t really know many other people who like to bite (or be bitten) …

… he was booted from a party for his lewd behavior, I don’t know if that qualifies as “asshole” - but yeah, he did something socially unacceptable - where is the ambiguity?

this is like the 5th meme like this I’ve seen, I think I’m hitting a breaking point

also, this feels like boomer humor or something, it feels so weirdly out-of-touch and not self-aware (hey, like I’m being right now!)

OP is definitely wrong about rich people not dating middle class people or poor people, etc. - rich people are sorta immune to giving a shit, they are insulated. Aristocrats may have been forced to marry strategically rather than for love, but that’s not really about being rich per se.

Maybe some middle-upper-class people try to emulate aristocratic norms about not mingling that way, tbh I feel like the middle class in general is all about proving they aren’t poor, it’s ironically very typical of poor culture to work so hard to not seem poor - rich people aren’t like that and even try to intentionally blend in around others and not show their wealth.

I guess your authoritarian regime starts to look good when the Americans slaughter an elementary school full of your children?

I don’t understand the need to paint everything in black and white, not every conflict has a straight-forward “good guy” or “bad guy” - the US is self-interested and hates Iran because the current regime challenges US hegemony and deposed a US-backed autocrat to get in power. Meanwhile, Iran is a horrible, authoritarian theocracy that engages in medieval criminal punishment spectacles. It’s all bad.

if you know how many precious memories you’ve forgotten, you haven’t forgotten hard enough, here have some more alcohol